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Dear readers i need help!!! I'v been masterbating sence i was eight years old and now im 12 and still javent gotten my period will i ever??? Was i masterbating to much and caused a effect on myself so i wont get it??? Im worryed i wont ever get it ...plz help asap thnx. (link)
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Relax mate! You absolutely have not done anything to prevent your periods starting by masturbating. However much you have done it and whatever age you started. They'll start when they start. 12 isn't an age to be worried about not having had one yet. It's like guys growing facial hair and needing to shave, and their voices 'breaking' and getting lower. Just happens, different ages for different people, can't say when exactly. And not anything you can prevent, delay (or indeed hurry along) by masturbating, or not masturbating.
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One day, my whole school was visited by this sect, I live in the Philippines, btw... So anyway, they showed us films that was supposed to enlighten us. It started out fine, until the afternoon part. I'm study psychology, so I knew more than to just watch. I analyzed what they showed us.
1.)A video about a two friends, one being christian, the other, not.
a.) At the beggining there was a small note saying it was a work of fiction. But then after the video, the speaker told us that it wasn't fake. And he gave us locations and stuff where it happened.
b.) It depicted so much fear it didn't seem Christian
2.)A video about a korean painter getting a fieldtrip with God to a place called Hell.
a.) The speaker told us that if we sinned, we wouldn't get to heaven. and stopped there.
b.) They included sins like "masturbation" and told us that masturbation is wrong. If we wanted to shoot sperm, we should do a wetdream instead. (But isn't the sin lust, and not masturbation? Isn't lust a sin of thought? Aren't dreams made up of thoughts?)
After that traumatic event (srsly, the scenes were graphic and would take your spirit away) My classmates went straight to their sect and signed up. I was devastated, but I dont think it's right...
I mean, they only want to worship God, you can't hate them, right? (link)
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I think as a student of psychology you might look at this 'visit' from the sect with their audio/visual material as subversive. Propaganda, and no more than that. I believe the Nazi Party in 1930's Germany gave similar 'information films' and lectures. About how Judaism was evil and corrupt. About how the Jews were a blight on Germany, holding her back. On the whole world in fact. The films were packed full of historical and pseudo-scientific 'facts' to back-up their arguments. It led to a very effective attemp at genocide. You're dead right it's not right. Use your discernment and judgement here. See it for what it is. As for your classmates falling under the spell, I'm afraid a certain number of people will always be led to follow religious and nationalistic extremism. The sects choose their target-audiences carefully, not by chance. The speakers project extreme committment and fervour which 'carries the aduience along'. They are often convincing and charismatic people. As it happens, a lot of those who study psychology and human behaviour have spent much time analyzing the speeches of Hitler at Nazi rallies. He used just about every stage-craft trick of movement and oration in the book to attract the listeners. He could whip-up a frenzy of support, to the point of near hysteria. He was not only charismatic, he was almost hypnotic. There's enlightenment in what you saw and heard. And no light either. Just radicalisation and subversion. Put it out of your mind.
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It's like that the curvy part. does anyone know how to do that? please explain on steps thank you (link)
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If you're a bit nervy about embarking on a total Do-It-Yourself job for the first time how about a visit and a chat with your regular hair-stylist? I've no doubt he or she will have been asked to copy the Taylor Swift style more than a few times, she's a bit of a fashion icon mate! The stylist will have bags of experience and know what can and cannot be done with your hair type, and how to do it. They do any cutting that's needed and you watch closely and ask questions about the after-cut styling while they do it. What type of straighteners, what temperature, what particular comsmetic products they use, techniques, and so on. Mistakes can take an annoyingly long time to 'grow-out' with hair. I'm a great believer in getting a pro on the job for many things. You often learn a lot more stuff watching an expert for one paid hour than you can in many hours of unpaid solo trial and error. A lot of people can become experts on their own hair, stylists have to know about all the different types and they get this knowledge through experience.
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About 2 weeks ago I had a job interview it seemed to well. I got a tour of the place we talked about scheduling and benefits and what would work for me etc. Since the interview he has called me twice to see if I was still interested and if I was contacted by the hr department to be fingerprinted. When I told him I wasn't contacted and seemed upset that I wasn't contacted so soon after I was and I have my appointment coming up in a couple of days. He says he also wants me to meet the director of the company also. Everytime we talk he asks if I'm still interested. Everyone says I got the job already as long as I pass the background check which I know I will. But I don't want to take it for granted either. He also he told me he interview a lot of other people but I don't know if that's just to throw me off. What do you think? (link)
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Managers do indeed interview plenty of people when they are recruiting, especially for the better positions. And I assume that if meeting the director is part of the process, this is a good position? There is no way he would be contacting anyone like this if he was not very interested in hiring them, subject to the necessary checks. Asking if you are still interested shows a definite shift in the applicant/employer dynamic, in your favour. A failed applicant tends to get a form-letter or email saying "Thanks for you interest in the company. I'm sorry to inform you that your application was not successful and will not progress to the next stage." Or no reply at all sometimes!! Possibly he mentioned interviewing lots of people as a reference to the fact that he couldn't supervise your own application processing (which he would hand over to HR) personally and it got overlooked? That would explain sounding upset that you hadn't been contacted more promptly. I'd say approach the next meetings with some 'quiet confidence' that you've done the hardest part already. But don't project overconfidence. And keep the same high standards of appearance and competence up. You're still looking to impress. Good luck.
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I'm a 13 year old boy that had the best sex in my whole life because I reached best orgasm I ever had in my adolescent timeline. I forgot to mention that the sex was with my hand. Yes I masterbates and like I said I reached the best orgasm I was completely num except for my penis and I was still stroking I was sweating and it was way too much for me but I loved the feeling so much I just couldn't stop so I continued and the feeling got 100x better and the urge to quit got worse but I kept on going and eventually I came for real this time it felt awesome.and I took a break and tried to continue but it was way to much and I stopped. I was super satisfied. I felt my penis head and every time I did it was kik a static feeling but it felt good. Then I felt he moisture from the cum. It was unlike any fluid I have felt. Is it that moist and sticky so it makes sex satisfying instead of painful? Btw tho is a wild guess. (link)
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It's fair to say that 'pre-cumming' (the release of fluid before actual ejaculation) has use in aiding the penetration and reproductive processes. Finding your penis is too sensitive to continue pleasuring yourself after ejaculation is quite usual. And maintaining a full and functional erection straight after ejaculating is something that tends to diminish after about mid-to-late twenties in most men. Which makes it less of an 'issue' as you might say. Not that it's something to have issues with though. More of a 'thing you notice' is probably a better description. Being a (presumably?) fit and healthy guy in your teens you'll be able to ejaculate more times a day and with less of a break in between than later in life. I can honestly say there's nothing in what you've said that makes you abnormal in any way regarding technique, sensations and enjoyment while masturbating. So have fun and enjoy it mate!
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I know most people will read the header of this question and immediately have their mind made up. And I used to be one of those people.
I am 21 and he's 22. I've been with this man for 2 years and 10 months. We've had our fights and struggles, sure, but we've always been a pretty strong couple. I trust him more than I trust myself. He's a wonderful person and I never in a million years thought I would be asking myself this question.
It happened when we were out at a bar, and we were arguing about whatever it is drunk couples argue about at 1:30 am on a street outside of a bar. Something about me not wanting to leave and he being upset that I called him a jerk. We hardly ever speak harshly towards each other. Honestly it doesn't matter what the fight was because the fact of the matter is he shoved me, hard. Had I been sober, it may not have mattered. But between that and the force of his push I fell, hit my face on the curb, scratched my face and busted my lip. It looks bad. Of course he felt bad, and of course he apologized. My friends were horrified and he couldn't even look at me. And now I'm just angry. I'm angry for getting drunk and fighting. I'm angry that he pushed me. And I'm angry that I was so badly hurt because I want to just pretend like it never happened. But I feel like everyone is looking at me like I have to dump him... I love him and I never want this to happen again. I respect myself. But I feel like unless I do something, I will look like I don't. I'm just confused and lost and hurt and am looking for any insight what so ever! (link)
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Hi there. Just reading through adviceman49's reply which get a well-deserved 5. Pretending it never happened is not an option. The tendency is there, and unchecked you are storing up a lot of unhappiness for yourself, if not worse. But you might try talking to your boyfriend very seriously and thoroughly. We are not all perfectly-compensated in character. We could well argue that nobody is in all respects. But much can be done if we are willing to try. Is he willing to undertake some proper and formal anger-management counselling? We all feel frustration and anger, the only difference is in how we manage these emotions. Lashing out like this against you is not acceptable. Wrong on every level. If he isn't willing to admit he has a problem, and isn't committed enough to seek a proper solution right now, dump him.
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Since I remember myself I was afraid of balloons. I can't stand the sound they do when they pop. I totally freak out and start sweating and shaking when something like that happens.(The same happens with fireworks, too) I'm not afraid of the balloon as an object but I can't be near them because I think they will pop anytime. This ruins my life. I can't go at parties etc. I need your advice about how to overcome it. I tried doing it myself but after a balloon popped in my face I don't want to blow them up again. I went to a pshygologist,too. It didn't help, cause i didn't like her way. Please help!! (PS I'm from Greece) (link)
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Very specific (and irrational if you think about them, in that most other people seem OK with the same thing) fears like this are quite common. Probably the best way to overcome them is to face them until the fear is disarmed. Like people with fears of spiders can lose them completely by handling a large (but harmless) spider in the company of an owner. Also, you might notice that military horses that take part in ceremonial displays where the crowd are noisy and even old-style canons are fired seem completely untroubled and perfectly behaved? Their natural tendency would be to bolt. They are introduced to it bit by bit in training until a ceremonial salute of gunfire doesn't worry them in the slightest. So. If you can bring yourself to do it, sit down with a close friend (so it's a controlled and safe-feeling environment), and a bag of balloons. And blow them up and pop them deliberately. It'll be hard at first, true. But with any luck you'll soon be blowing one up yourself, poppoing it with a pin and laughing, not freaking out! It IS incredibly hard to talk and reason yourself out of this kind of fear (often termed 'phobia'). That's because of the place in our minds where they 'live'. It's not a part we can have a direct dialogue with (or 'talk to' if you like). You can say to yourself or hear it said "Balloons aren't dangerous. There's nothing to be frightened of." a million times and it doesn't make any difference. The process we've talked about (actually getting 'hands-on' with the dreaded balloons) gets straight to the root of the thing. I picked the horse thing deliberately. A horse hasn't got any idea what a canon is. You can't tell him in words. It's just a sudden scary bang. But familiarity (basically a whole list of actual experiences of the scary loud bang, which did not turn out to harm him at all) disarms and overrides the fear. Good luck.
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I need help! My favourite teacher is leaving and I have known her since 6th Grade!!(my school is high school and primary school) she used to teach my sister in 3rd grade, but she swapped classes( to my Class) I really like her because I can tell her everything. She is like a sister to me, and she makes me laugh. A few weeks ago she told my class she was leaving to another school, at first I didn't care, but when she said another town I got emotional. It is 7 days left of the year! How can I make her stay? I really need help! Yours sincerely-Chole 12 (link)
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If it's a career decision on her part then she'll have her reasons for moving and there isn't actually anything you can do to make her stay. Your reply about the email/twitter/facebook idea is excellent. Ask her if you can stay in touch occasionally. Long ago my sister worked for a number of years teaching English as a foreign language in many parts of Europe. She often missed pupils when she left (the contracts are short-term as a rule and she did not want to leave England permanently) and they missed her too. Some kept in touch for many years with letters, phone calls and cards at Christmas etc (It was in what might seem the 'dark-ages' to you....before the worlwide web existed mate!)So ask if she would like to stay in touch?? Point out that you know settling in to the new job will be a busy and perhaps stressful time, so a little chat as and when she has the time is fine. And make sure you thank her for being such a good friend. That should make a great lead-in to bringing up the subject of misisng her and wanting to stay in touch.
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Hi...I am 16yrs and i have recently ended a relationship with my bf who is more than 6years older than me. I am a virgin but since we hardly saw each other for several months we used to do sexting... send videos etc. I never liked doing it... i mean i was fun because he.was always.happy and playful but he would masturbate a lot while i would just rarely touch myself but fantasize a lot. Now his.aunt found out and ordered us to end our rrelationship. He did but now i desire him a lot. Although i deleted all his pictures and videos i remember them and touch myself until i am tired and fall asleep. I feel guilty in the end because my mum and family would be really annoyed if they knew. My religion doesnt approve. I had been touching myself hoping to have.an orgasm but nothing works. I dont want to penetrate myself at all but touching my clitoris makes me tired and i dont have an orgasm. Should i try to have an orgasm or try not to masturbate? If i should have one what can i do to have one which does not involve penetration? Ps.i dont watch porn.i have never really wanted sex until i met my ex. And i have only dated older guys and i am afraid to date anyone since i am always so horny. I dont want to lose my viginity before marriage and younger guys are always so horny. My ex was horny but we didnt do anything that both of us wanted and didnt force me to to anything. (link)
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Hi there. You sound a bit of a mash-up of conflicting feelings here mate? First-off masturbating is natural and harmless and enjoyable. Parents are not likely to be genuinely surprised or shocked that their 16 year old daughter masturbates. They'd probably be surprised if you hadn't. It's not something parents and their offspring usually actually sit and discuss, true. This feeling that parents and religious beliefs strongly dissaprove will certainly not help you 'let go' and reach an orgasm. It'll act as a strong subconscious 'brake' on your enjoyment. Most women can have an orgasm when they masturbate as physical reasons why they cannot are very rare indeed. Now, whether a woman likes to penetrate herself or concentrate on the 'outside' (as we might call it) is purely a matter of choice. Some like feeling 'full' and some don't. Your clitoris is mostly 'outside' as you know and really it's the part most likely to make you 'cum' when it's stimulated as it's extremely sensitive. Porn is a matter of taste too. Many guys find it a great aid to masturbating in a satisfying way. Some women do too. If you don't, no worries. Your imagination is a very powerful tool. Even porn actually works by activating our minds, there is no direct contact with the images, is there. And women are more likely to be thought/idea-stimulated than males who tend to be more visually-stimulated. (It's not witten in stone. there are plenty of contrary cases. And of course women like a good-looking guy as well as a guy likes a pretty girl). So where are we going with all this?? OK. I wouldn't try to 'give-up' masturbating. That's a massive ask, as it's a very important part of our sexual behaviour as humans. And since you don't want rush into a sexual relationship with a guy it's such a good way to handle your (perfectly natural!) sexual urges and tension. I would suggest choosing a time when it's quiet, and you won't be overheard or disturbed. Relax. Try to put any ideas that it is wrong in any way out of your mind. Instead, let your imagination run loose and imagine a really ideal guy and situation. You 'direct' all the action. He can be a celebrity, a millionaire on his luxury yacht, or just that good looking guy across the street you see around. All up to you! Try stimulating your clitoris and the whole area. It can get very sensitive to direct-touch when you're aroused and a little lubricant, or wetting your finger tips with saliva (aka 'spit') can help things stay smooth and slick. Don't rush or try to force anything. Just see what happens. Think of the orgasm as something you 'reach' and not 'have'. It's about building up that nice tension of expectaion while masturbating until you reach the climax, when it's all released. That's your orgasm of course, and it should feel very pleasnt and satisfying indeed. I'm sure you'll get there with a bit of practice and patience. Remember, it's natural, completely positive and life-affirming and there's NOTHING wrong at all about you wanting to have yours.
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If Greece's economy was that bad then why would it be such a big deal if it and potentially even Portugal left the Eurozone? And why doesn't the media give as much press for struggling African economies, or is it just cause Europe, the U.S., and Asian countries want to cover up the corruption they contribute to in Africa? But somehow I should feel more anguish over Greece, which has been bailed out numerous times, than African nations where politicians get bribed for their counties' resources, inhibiting growth? If not for the slave trade and colonialism, how wealthy would all of Europe even been today? Africa is rich, it just continues to be pilfered... (link)
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The Greece issue is a big headache for the European Economic Comunity (Eurozone) rather than global economics directly. Mainly because, if they default it sets a precedent. If they are not penalised in some way it may encourage other countries to default. If Greece are expelled or allowed to leave, and the country does somewhat better in terms of trade and economy OUTSIDE the EU than it did INSIDE then other countries may well in effect think "Hang on...maybe we would be better out than in?". And the whole EU would begin to collapse. That's basically why it is such a big issue. I think it's fair to say Greece will never be a major player in trade and commerce. It's more the effect their very public problems may have on the whole EU. As far as industrialised nations 'writing-off' third-world debt, to be honest it's an academic exercise. Or a show of goodwill and generosity of spirit at most, because they are never going to able to recover the debts anyway.
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To me realisation is key, for instance once you realise if something is good or bad for you, you can make the decision on how to change it. Never take your self to seriously and my person big one - dont live in the past - the mind is a powerful thing, I believe, if you have the mindset, be positive you can do, achieve anything.
So they are a few that I've learnt while growing up, however, I want to know more, I don't quite no what to call them, but what things have got you through your life?
What do you tell your self when your at your lowest? Or just need that little push? (link)
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I find "You won't always feel the way you do right now" isn't a bad outlook. When things are bad and you've got a crap hand, it will pass and there'll be another game. When things are going great and you've got a good hand, have fun and make the very most you can of it...because although you'd like to keep them, the great times pass too. And learn to recognise when a thing's dead in ther water and don't waste any more time wishing and prodding at it. It ain't gonna happen. Accept it amd move on.
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im really confused on which one. i cant decide. if you were me, would you get a turtle or a guinea pig and why? thank you (link)
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I'd have to go for the guinea pig every time. They're cute and furry and have amusing little faces. And their little ways and habits make you smile. I don't think think I could really learn to love a reptile. They strike me a bit creepy, and basically, well....vacant! They don't seem to respond much, or even acknowledge your presence at all most of the time as far as I can see?? I never really 'get' the desire to own snakes either. Most of the time it might as well be a plastic toy in a glass box for all the activity they perform and interest they arouse. I guess I'm a warm-blooded, furry critter type of guy, eh?
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Ok. So if you saw my last question, I decided to try and raise money so I can go to gymnastics camp. I'm 12. So I run a business making and selling beautiful high quality bags. I do it with my friend. Except- I haven't sold any bags yet! I've been advertising and making great deals on Instagram for almost a year now, but no one buys!!! I really need this money. Please help! And also I'm not spending money on advertising. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi there! However good your product or service is, effective marketing (advertising/promotion) is the key to making sales. Instagram is indeed raising your profile, but one has to wonder if it is really considered a go-to 'shopping' resource by the majority of it's users? Probably more a social/entertainment site? Of course, big promotional campaigns don't come cheap. One hopes (and is entitled to hope, as it's a tried and tested strategy) that the hard sales we secure far outweigh the promotional costs within a reasonable time. Which is all very well, but actually finding the cash to fund the promotional activities in the first place can be far from easy. Any business plan should always factor-in promotional costs, otherwise you'll get a false view of your expected returns/profits, especially in your early trading periods. So thinking longer long-term, you need to identify areas where your advertising is likely to get a good response, and where it isn't (don't want to be spending cash building awareness of your brand in areas where there will likely be few takers!). And start thinking about your bid for a share of the market. Short-term, we need some relatively easy and low-outlay hard sales to get some cash coming in though, right? OK, how about local stores which sell fashion clothes and accessories? Or even the 'beauty' industry (nails, makeke-up and hair-stylists)? Would they maybe display your stuff in return for a percentage 'mark-up' on your price which they keep for any sold? Tempt them with a 'sale-or-return' package. If it's not a success you have any stuff back and they've lost nothing. They may even buy some of your stock on spec if they think they'll go well and simply price them as they see fit. Maybe a bit of both. Say, your first sale-or return offer goes well and they come back with a request to buy a certain number of particular styles? It's important that you only approach privately owned and run shops. the big name/high-street 'chains' have strict supplier contracts and the store manager will not be allowed to display your stuff even if they think they're winners, I'm afraid. How about the car-boot sales and craft fairs market? Know anyone who is into this scene? Would they be interested in taking some of your stuff along? Or maybe find someone interested and chip-in to the cost of a 'pitch' (on the understanding that plenty of your stuff features on the stall, naturaly!). Any friends and/or friends parents who work in a large company, wtih lots of employees? Could they get a bit of interest in the chatting in their lunch and coffee breaks? If so, acquire and print-off some good product shots that they can show their workmates. Perhaps give them one of your bags to carry their belongings too. So they can touch a real-life example of your work. The bigger the company the better, there are more people (hence more potential customers!) And "word-of-mouth" really is a promotional channel you should NEVER underestimate. A lot of sales, for a lot of businesses come directly from this. I hope I might have given you a few ideas here? Good luck with the business-venture mate!
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I am a teen going through alot I've been through the stress of summer school my rabbit just died and I had to get it all out of my head. I thought to myself"I haven't wacked off in a month or so. So I went to the bathroom wacked off and this was the best soo far. I felt soo good, I got to the point to where I was hot and I felt a satisfying sensation that went from my penis through my whole body. I cold no longer open my eyes and it felt so good then the satisfaction was too much and I stopped. I continued after a 10 second cooler and released real cum for the first time.the whole question is what was that sensation I felt that was too satisfying? (link)
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Maturbation (the same as sex) is sometimes better than others. Sometimes it's just 'OK' or 'about usual'. Sometimes it doesn't feel that good at all really, a bit disappointing even. Sometimes the feeling is really intense and deeply pleasurable/satisfying. Just the way it is. A lot depends on your mood. If you've been feeling especially stressed and wound tight for a long time then there's a good chance that the feeling of relief you found this time was especially intense. A month is actually quite a long time for a guy in his teens to have gone without ejaculating too. Any sort of sexual pleasure, for guys and girls, involves a lot more than just physical actions and body fluids. There's a whole lot of mental pleasure mechanisms that come to the party. Our brains get flooded with 'feel good' agents. Anticipation, excitement, pleasure, relief, gratification, they're all functions of these agents. You can't separate the physical and mental aspects, they're totally mixed-up in each other. A feeling causes an action, which intensifies the feeling/desire, and so on. I reckon we could say you were more than ready to lighten-up and enjoy yourself this time, and so it came as a very welcome and extra-enjoyable relief.
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is there any chance of hiv after getting blowjob by a gay ?
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Hi. Being gay does not mean that the guy is/must be HIV+ of course. If he wasn't then you cannot be. Oral sex is considered a low-risk form of sexual behaviour as far as HIV is concerned. Mostly because cells in the mouth are not good receptors, and saliva seems to damage the virus too. Semen to saliva contact is not sufficient to pass the virus. Semen-to-blood contact is sufficient, and our mouths can bleed, so you would have to say low-risk, not no-risk. In effect I'm pretty sure there aren't any documented cases of passing the virus where contact was oral sex only. And indeed sex-workers (escorts) very often provide oral sex without a condom, whereas they will never have sex with a client without a condom. You'll appreciate they have many sexual partners, of completely unknown sexual status and history. If the chance of passing the virus was high, they would not offer it and the clients would not want to risk it either. As neither would consider the possibility of an ultimately terminal condition was worth the pleasure (for the client) or the cash (for the escort). All in all the odds are stacked very much in your favour. In that firstly he may well not have carried the virus anyway, and a single instance of oral sex is not considered a high-risk activity. Tests are quick and easy, so it would be a good idea to get one. There is no other way to say for certain if you are or are not HIV+. I'd be surprised however if you are positive if this is the only possible exposure you may have had to the virus.
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Can you make yourself pregnant (link)
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No. It is physically/biologically impossible for a woman to make herself pregnant. Artificial insemination exists, whereby a woman may be made pregnant without having sex with, or even meeting the man who provided the sperm. But this is a very deliberate and basically clinical procedure where sperm donated by the male (by masturbating) is collected and stored carfully. The live-semen and the sperm it contains are introduced into the vagina with a syringe/pump type bit of kit. Obviously not something you can do accidentally or unknowingly.
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My boyfris begging me to come over tomorrow is it wrong for me to ask him to spend the weekend with his Dad because I wish I had one to spend time with? (link)
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I wouldn't say it was wrong, as such. But it might be the wrong choice when he's obviously very keen to be with you. I would rather hope all three of you have plenty of time to be together in the future? I can see your point. But it's quite possible that his Dad will be very pleased that he's off to spend some time with his girlfriend. A person who makes him happy? Parental love is very often about wanting their offspring to be happy and doing the things they enjoy, and recognising that it may not always involve being in their company. It's a different love with a partner. Quite often that's about being together as much as possible. His father (and mother) may well take the view that he's keen to be with his girlfriend, and that's all very right and proper that a young man should want to do just that. Assuming there's no bad feeling or animosity between you and his family which I do not know about, why not arrange a get-together (dinner? day out?) some time soon?
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My name is Rachel and i am a 26 year old female and Father's Day is this Sunday and my dad died when I was 12 and my parent's divorced when I was 3 years old so I don't even really remember him.
How can you miss someone you don't even remember ? The other day I went it to the store and I caught my self buying circus penuts because the only thing I remembered about my dad was that he always had them in his pocket and I don't even like Circus Penuts .
I always go to the cemementary every year on Father's day even though I know that he is not there it's just his body but it's just because he is my dad . How do I get over missing my dad that I never really new ? (link)
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Hi there. We certainly can miss things we never had. The saying is simply untrue. There are an awful lot of complex reasons why our minds can be aware of the 'absence of a presence in our life' and not just 'the presence of an absence in our life'. Indeed, the mind cannot clearly differentiate between the two. The sense of loss is pretty much identical in either case. As a general and not too complex overview, there is a world of objects and a world of thoughts. The thought of a chair is not itself a chair. You cannot sit on the the 'thought of a chair'. Yet they are linked, and the link is all but impossible to break. Nobody has ever really explained the 'bridge' between the world of objects and the world of ideas. You must grieve the loss of "the thought of your dad" in the same way as you would grieve the loss of the physical person, though the physical person is not clearly defined in your memory. Though you did not know your father closely, the thought of Father's Day is still a powerful trigger. Visiting his grave is something you can share with those who knew him in person. I'm afraid I have no religious conviction myself. I can't tell you the dead somehow watch over us, or that we meet again in an afterlife. But I do believe that the dead live on in us as long as we keep the memory of them alive. We see flashes of the deceased in their sons and daughters. Though you never knew him well, it is only through his existence that you are here at all. You carry that genetic code. You are his daughter. Keep him alive by being the kind of daughter he would have been proud of and pleased with. Perhaps you could talk to people who knew him well and talk to them about what sort of a man he was? Celebrate the fact that he existed, and produced you. You are his legacy. I reckon that's the kind of epitaph any man would like. A real living one. That's what you are.
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Hi! I am girl and I think I am a procrastinator.
I always do my school stuff on the last minute! I always do my homework early in the morning while in class. I also do my assignments the night before and I don't study at home. I always do useless stuff like surfing the web, watching TV or listen to music instead of doing my assignments and homework.
I don't know why but I can't seem to stop this. Right now as I am typing this I have this assignment that is due tomorrow but I didn't even start writing it.
Am I a procrastinator?
Btw this started last year. (link)
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So long as you get your dues and demands there on time, in whatever area of life, then there's no real problem. Some people get everything organised and completed in plenty of time. Some complete it at the last moment. It's a bit like companies that make things. They might go for holding big stocks of the materials they need on the site. Or they may use what's called a JIT (Just In Time) strategy. Meaning the materials come in as needed, and they don't need to tie up space holding stock. They're both valid and tried and tested strategies. You sound like a JIT-girl to me! It can put you under a little more stress, true. You have to be really on top of your ordering and be able to rely confidently on your suppliers in the company sense. In your case, you will have to rely on having the ability to meet your deadline and trust that you won't encounter any unexpected snags and hold-ups. Or your deadline will go flashing past you. 'Holding stock' as it were (getting things done well in advance for you) can give you a big safety net. If your JIT strategy works for you, basically keep it but be ready to modify it some cases. Cases where a lat-minute snag could be a disaster. If JIT is constantly causing you problems and putting you under massive pressure you should start work on adopting yourself a new life-strategy. It's a bit difficult at first, but we can train ourselves in this respect, very successfully. In your case, your leisure pusuits (TV, web, music) will have to assigned 'slots' as it were and you'll have to keep them within the time you allocate. No Cheating!! It's a good question. If you're thinking about this you're in a good position to compensate your natural tendency when it's essential that you do. You're more than half-way there! I'm one of the JIT crowd myself a lot of the time, and frankly a bit chaotic. I've only got two speeds. Full on...and full stop! However, I would say in all conscience that I rarely let people down. But sometimes meeting my dues and demands can be a frantic and fraught episode mate!!
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hi this is siva from india,
i am 23 male, i jerking my dick from 9th standard . .. i mean from the age of 2006.. mostly i do it atleast a day and now jerking my dick atleast thrice in a week , sometimes when i make sex chat over phone with gf , i do it more thrice a day.. unable to stop this habit .. please tell how to stop this..
please give me suggestion do i get any disease regarding this ... something like STD ?
please tell me do i get health problem ,does it make any challenge in giving baby in future, does it make any difference in my kids health issue....
Can i continue this ?? or wht ?
tell some food items to maintain this ?
should i reduce jerking ?
if so Why ?
does it make a any problem ?
if so then how to reduce it ?
plsss plsss
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Hi. Relax. None of your worries are real problems at all. You can't get any STD's at all from jerking. It can't possibly affect your ability to father children now or later. It can't affect the health of any children you father. You don't need to stop, or even cut-down if you don't want to. If you can get an erection you're OK to do it as much as you feel the need. If you become fatigued (just meaning too tired/worn out) from masturbating you won't be able to get an erection until you have recovered the energy needed. At 23 that probably won't be very long at all. Maybe just an hour or so. Then everything works fine again. There is no physical reason why you should do or need to, but if you feel as though you would like to do it less then it's your dick and your decision to resist the urge and not do it. Drinking plenty of water helps production of semen. So does eating salad (like lettuce and so on). Actual sperm production can be affected by diet and general health among other things, but if you're not trying for a baby with a partner, actual sperm count isn't really an issue. Again, don't worry. Even very requent masturbation won't hurt your ability to father children in future. If you don't ejaculate (or cum, whatever you call it) for twenty-four to forty-eight hours your body will replace the full amount of sperm you have lost. Unless you have a naturally low sperm-count for other (medical) reasons. Basically, relax chap and enjoy it. Any stories about masturbation affecting your physical or mental health and well-being, or your future fertility are utter rubbish and COMPLETELY UNTRUE. Hope you feel a bit happier now?
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