Hi, My real name is Daniel. Im an expert on youth affairs (issues) and you can ask me questions on:
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Location: U.K, England, Greater Manchester
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Age: 15
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im 23 now and i still havent had sex. ive been waiting to have sex, but now i want to have sex and no one wants to now. is 23 too long to wait? (link)
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Hi, no it is'nt. Whats the rush, you've got your whole life ahead of you.
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Well i got a problem and its really bugging me cause it hurts me cause i want a g/f!! Well i always start to hang out with the person that i like to get to knoe them but finally when i think i know them enough i decide to ask them out but i always get the same line "were to good of friends" whick i hate now but anyway now i got this girl that i like that i have been really good firends with.. But she just broke up with her b/f cause he was a mean to her and she talked to me more than him...the problem is i want to ask her out but on the other hand i dont want to lose her cause she is a great girl and i love her to death but i mean we talk about everyday for 2 or 3 hours and we always enjoy it...What should i do?? Thanks (link)
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Hi, just tell her how you feel. If she is a good friend, then she will tell you that she still wants to be friends and then you would just have to accept it. Daniel.
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hey again,
i saw the guy i liked again 2nite n we were talkin for like eva!! he asked my name n everythin!!! when i walked in there he smiled heaps n said hi, then he came up n ttalked to me for a bit, but dad came up to me so he said he'd be back in a tic n went back to the front desk, then when dad left he came back up to me and we talked more for like ages this time, n i asked questions, so did he. he was smilin heaps!! it was soo good!! ur a legend!!! i think he likes me!! hes said before i went " cant wait to see you again!! i was like woohoo!!!
do u think i should ask for his number or sumthin next time??
cheers!! (link)
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Hi, from what it sounds like, he likes you. Yes do get his phone number and talk a bit more each day. Maybe in the next few days think about asking him out. Ask him out on a date. Heres roughly what you could do next time you meet him.
Him: hi
You: hi
You: How's your day/night been
Him: Responds
You: Will my day's been pritty good
(Then watch now what you can do)
You: Im thinking of going to the movies this weekend (or whatever)Hey would you like to come too.
Him: Yes or no
If he says yes then congratulations you've made it past the first step. If no then keep your head up and say something like "Oh, OK maybe another time perhaps". It sounds to me as though he does like you and would like to get to know you. Get past this step (asking him out on a date) and then perhaps if all going to plan you could drop me a line on my column and I will be able to give you more advice. Im quite an expert in this category and can tell you more tips.
If you do end up going on a date, then don't sweat about it. Dress sensibly but not too posh and listen to what he has to say and pay attention. Don't yawn or do anything stupid. Just chill out and have fun. Maybe at the end you can invite him to your house and then at the very end of it all, when it's quiet and theres just the 2 of you. Maybe you could give him a wee kiss. Although I advice that you drop me a line on my column and ask for some tips around that part of the steps. Ask him out and see how it goes. Remember:
1. Compliments
2. Open questions
3. Small talk
Good luck, and hope to here from you soon. Daniel.
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Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out?? (link)
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Hi, me never and Im nearly 16. You could start dating and making out when your maybe something like 14-15. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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I dont know what to do im lost my boyfriends best friend raped me i dont know if i sould tell him (link)
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Hi, you should deffinately talk to your boyfriend and go to a rape crisis centre. You must tell your boyfriend and he deffinately shouldn't be hanging out with him any more. Rape is very serious and this must be hurting you. I reccomend you go somewhere like a rape crisis centre and if it was really really serious rape were it was hurting you then I also reccomend you get the police involved. Heres what you should do:
1. Tell your boyfriend
2. Contact police
3. Go and see someone who specialises in rape matters, maybe a Counsellor or even talk to a friend.
Im really sorry that this has happened. It can take a long time to trust men again, I know. Just do these 3 things above and you should be alright in the end. Keeping it in any longer can hurt you even more. You need to talk. Go to my advice column if you ever want another question answered. Hope things turn out OK soon. And Im sorry that you've experienced this dreadful situation. Daniel.
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I am 20, a little athletic but i could stand to lose 20 pounds (i'm just a shade under 6' tall, 221 lbs.). I show everyone respect, I'm always referred to as a 'great friend' or 'like a big brother', but no matter how much i try i cannot get past that image. i'm either not seen as a date-able person or everyone i try to get close to lies and leads me on instead of telling me the truth and letting me know why they're not interested or what i was doing wrong. Am i doomed to be forever in the hell that we guys call the "Friend-zone"?
Any and all suggestions are welcome, but I have had enough 'help' from other guys. please understand that i'm looking for the female's answer to my problem.
thank you,
Confused-&-Sad (link)
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Hi, how about you set yourself a goal. Try and make a conversation with lets say 4 girls a day. See were that conversation leads and what you get out of the conversation. Heres 3 tips when talking to the opposite sex:
1. Compliments
2. Open questions
3. Small talk
It can be a right bugger when you really just want to have a girlfriend but it just seems to not happen or work out. One good place I reccomend you can go is to a night club. They have lots of girls you can meet. Go there one of these nights, make a conversation with 1 or 2 girls have a drink, dance. Look like your having fun. Just try it. Who knows you might get lucky or even double lucky. Daniel.
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Well, I used to go out with a boy, and he was like my first kiss and everything. And I still love him and its been 8 months. But, he has a girlfriend right now. I know he would go out with me if I asked him, but I dont want to break them up. But, I think I really do love him and he means the world to me. We broke up because my friends were being really arrogant and kept telling me lies and false stories about him so I broke up with him. Do I brake them up? How do I get him back? Please help me you have no idea how much I miss him and would literally fo anything to be with him.
--me (link)
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Hi, my advice is don't break them up. If he's happy with her then your going to have to accept that no matter what feelings you have for him. However his relationship with this girl might not last long. If he end's up seperating, then he might feel a bit sad. What you could do then is be a friend and go around and see how he is, talk to him, but remain a friend. Once when he feels alright and you 2 have a special bond then you can build on your friendship and turn it very slowly into a relationship. We seem to nearly always pay the price for love and it's usually from hurt. I know how much this might be hurting you, but just remain a friend. Who knows you might be back together again someday. Daniel.
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ok well im 13 almost 14 and ive only had 2 boyfriends my whole life guys tell me i look hot although im 5'8" and all the guys at my school are shorter if they like me why wont they ask me out....? (link)
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Hi, they might feel uncomfortable because of the height difference or they just can't seem to tell you. People who like other people especially boys find it difficult to make the first move. If you want to go out with someone, then maybe you could just start a conversation with a guy. The guy should get more confidence every time you talk to him. Other than that, join a group or club, or you know get involved with things, show your face to people. Other than that, you would just have to play the waiting game. The question then is...how long are you going to wait? Daniel.
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How old is way too young to have sex? my bf wants to with me but were only 15!! is that too young please help... if that is too young what should i say to him..
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Hi, really any age under 16 is quite young to have sex. You two are still quite young yet. Just say something like "Im not ready yet, I'm still quite young" or "What's the rush, maybe when were 16 we could give it a try. Go to your local law centre for advice on the age of consent. Don't rush into anything. Some people regret doing it at a young age. You've also got to think about contreception. There are thing's like genital warts, gonhorrea and aid's that can be spread. Talk it over with someone who specialises in that particular area. Hope that answers your question. Daniel.
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How do i know if a guy likes me without asking him? i think we like each other but i don't want to get stronger feelings if he doesn't even like me, if you know what i mean! (link)
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Hi, first of all become his friend. By becoming his friend your giving each other the chance to talk about these kind of things and have fun and etc. Become his friend first. Thats your first step. Then just ask him one of these days who he likes. Maybe you could tell him that you like him. Daniel.
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Will tennis help me to stay in shape for track? (link)
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Hi, it could help a tiny bit. Other physical activities such as running or biking or playing soccer could get you on track. Daniel.
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Ok I am a 15 year old female that turns 16 in august. i have a job, and i only got like 500 dollars saved so far.i want a car for mi birthday. my dad said that if i came up wit half the money he would get the otha half. being that i got 500 already means it shouldnt be long more before i find me a decent car. can someone help me wit summen that i could do to get more money. thanks (link)
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Hi, your best bet is to get a summer job and try and work alot of hours. You could do babysitting and charge something like $25 per hour. But most people would think your a wee bit young to be looking after babies. Mowing the lawns, or working in a store or fast food outlet is good. You could even be creative and explore different ways of making money. Brainstorm a list of creative ways of earning money. You will need to put your age into account. Give something a try. Daniel.
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Okay my birthday is in like 2 months. Aug 14. I don't know what i want to do. I want to be with my friends but I have plans for that night. I wouldnt mind having a party, but it cost money. what should i do but i dont want to spend a lot of money (link)
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Hi, you could have the party at your house. What I thought you and your friends could do is each bring along some food, pop, CD's games and maybe watch videos. If you all bring a bit of something, then it should'nt cost you or your friend's much money at all when you think about it. Have a good party. Daniel.
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ok well i like this guy who my friend went out with. she has had numerous boyfriends since they broke up like almost 2 years ago and i dont think she still has feelings for him. i dont want to ruin our friendship over a guy but i dont kno how to bring it up when talking to her. help! (link)
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Hi, If your curious over your friends boyfriend, then maybe you could bring up the subject sometime. Just ask her if she does still have feelings for him. If she says yes, then I might just leave the idea for a while. If she says no, then you could say something like "Only I was thinking of going out with him". You should get the answer. Daniel.
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God I'm so lonely, Why must I be the only person i know still single its like even the most hideous people have bf/gf. I am so alone and need some advice how to get a girl.
Thanks (link)
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Hi, alot of people build relationships through:
School
Clubs/ sports or hobbies
Going to a mall or shopping
and so on...
How do you get a girlfriend? Just go up and say something like "Hi, nice day is'nt it" or something similar. When in a conversation use these 3 tips:
1. Compliments
2. Open questions
3. Small talk
You've got to show your face a bit more, and be more out going. And girls like boys who are confident about themselves. Go up and start talk'in grab the confidence and just motivate yourself to do it. Asking a girl out is really what I call a number game. For example you could get so much girls out of every 10 or 5 and what have you, for example:
1 out of every 5 girls that you meet
1 out of every 50 girls that you meet
1 out of every 100 girls that you meet
and so on. It's a number game really. Your job is to just start a conversation and compliment her. Don't say thing's like your SEXY or HOT.
But something like "Wow you look really nice today" or "That shirt really suits you. See how it goes, you might get lucky. Daniel.
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hi, jus wonderin how do i kno if this guy likes me. i dont kno him very well and i only see him occasionally cos he works at the video store, but everytime i go in there when hes workin he always say hi n asks how im goin even if im not near him and smiles at me heaps . and when he serves me he asks how ive been n wat ive been up to etc, n when hes talkin to me he looks directly at me. i jus wanna kno if u think he mite like me or if hes jus being nice. also can u pls give me some tips on how to maybe get to kno him better eg get his number without seeming like a dickhead.
cheers (link)
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Hi, he deffinately does like you, and most likely thinks your a wonderful person who is just so nice, especially if you say "please" and "thank-you". He could then, just be doing his job. As you know dealing with costumers you have to be polite, friendly and always smiling. I think he likes you. But he might not love you. The guy I think could be a gentleman and is polite and curtious. Theres only one way to know if you stand a chance, and that's ask him out. For example when he talks to you then you respond perfectly, something like this:
Him: Hi
You: Hi how's your day
Him: He responds
You: It's a nice night/day is'nt it
Him: Respond's
You: So what have you been up to lately
Him: Will...
You: Oh cool, will Im thinking of doing something this Friday. (plan something) Hey why don't you come along, your more than welcome, then that way we can have a good time and we could catch up some more.
Him: Yes or no
You: (if no) Oh OK, maybe we could do it another time
You: (if yes) Cool, meet you at...
You: Ok see you, have a nice night/day
Do you see what I just did. I asked alot of open questions and also commented on some things such as the night/day. If he is interested then he will go to where ever your going providing that
you have planned something, and then you could take it from there. Heres 3 tips when talking to the opposite sex:
1. Compliments (Your looking great today)
2. Open questions (So how's your day been?)
3. Small talk (Heared that it's going to be sunny/chilli tommorrow)
Remember: open questions require a more open communicative answer, close questions only require a yes or no answer. Open questions are better because you can ask a question then build a conversation from it, and should get more confidence as you talk more and more. Remember to smile and make eye contact use your hand perhaps to express what your saying. If does'nt want to go out or just seems to not want to get close with you, then hes probaly not that interested and is only doing his job. Try out what Ive just told you and if it works out then get back to me on my column. I could tell you more and would deffinately try and help you. If thing's don't work out, I would be happy to here your side of the story and what strategies we could use to sort this out. Good luck with that first tip and remember: "Smile, eye contact and enjoy!) Daniel.
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ok well my boyfriends birthday is coming up like really soon but i have no idea what to get him.
guys are so hard to buy for and i need help plz! lol (link)
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Hi, is your boyfriend into the soccer world cup? If he his then get him a bit of something out of that like a countries shirt (his favourite), or something that involves his hobbies. Maybe get him deodrant or lynx stuff or of course, take him out for tea. As long as you 2 have a great time, thats all that matters. Daniel.
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Well ok i go to this YMCA Camp at Summer, & well its summer, so anyways, i met a boy named Devin, & i like him ... ALOT! well my friends Alex & Damien say me and Devin make a cute couple and Damien told Alex that he though Devin liked me. & alex told me Damien said that. && Kolton, (Devins Best friend) said "Hey! Devin want's you!! he likes you & stuff" but then Devin makes a face & goes "Ewww. Gross, Sicko!" So i really don't know what to think. Should i give up on love? because thats what i feal like doing right about now, High ratings for just trying. Please. this situation is bugging me, bad! =] (link)
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Hi, never give up hope or love. Because they are 2 very powerful feelings that get us through each day. When he said ewww gross, sicko! he's probaly either saying:
a) He does'nt feel the way you do?
b) He was confronted on the spot and was too embarressed to say anything
c) He likes you, but he did'nt want to admit it
Just tell him 1 of these days when it's quiet and the right time, that you like him. You will soon then get an answer. But do it at the right time. Daniel.
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Okay, theres this guy that likes me, and i know he likes me cause he told all of his friends he did, but he didn't ask me out. He lives like 30 minutes away, and i'm not gonna see him all summer, but he told one of my friends to tell me to "not get a boyfriend over the summer" what should i do? should i wait for him? (link)
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Hi, Im going to have to say no on this one. No, and why should you wait around for someone who won't even introduce himself to you? He's probaly shy, which is fair enough but why should you put your summer on hold just for someone who won't even tell you himself that he likes you. You should just get on with whatever and enjoy the summer. Tell me, do you honestly want a boyfriend who won't express himself and won't talk to you? For a relationship to work both parties have to socialise. It's a social thing. Daniel.
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ok i juss got like one of my first like real boyfirends... and like we kissed today... and like i dunno it was my first time and im nto sure if it was his... and lets just say im not the best kisser ..yeah.. but i mean hoo would be on there first time rite?? but still.. im scared for the next time... cuz he like went far with the kiss like it wasn't jsut a peck or w.e.. i dunno i wanna tell him but im too scared too like tell him its my first time but still... i dunno ..yeah .. im confused.. so should i tell him?? or isthere anyway to learn how to kiss? yeah i kno its wierd (link)
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Hi, basically just tell him. If he's expereienced with kissing girls then he could show you different techniques. Remember to brush your teeth and maybe carry a mint just in case you both decide to kiss again. Daniel.
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