Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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im not really sure that this goes in this category but umm...yeaa. my best friend,lets call him ,enrique, has just lost his virginity. im really worrid for him because i dont think that he was ready fo it. to make matters worse. he just got a phone call from his 'friend' lets call her,tiffany, saying that she doesnt love him anymore. he really got attached and im not sure what to do for him. he used protection and everthing. so im not worried about that. so what im asking is what do i do to comfort him. hes really upset.btw 14/f (link)
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Just be a friend to him. Make sure you assure him that if the girl would do something like that, then she's not worth it. Make sure his ego isn't completely destroyed.
Hope this helps,
Teacup
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Uhmm.i was considering using Jamster to get a free ring tone.. Does it send u texts? charges you? please telly me your past experences with it! (link)
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i get my ringtones free from 3gforfree.com
It works for Sprint, ATT, T-Mobile and cingular.
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I'm soo incredibly confused. Ok, so if it were 12:00 PM (lunchtime), what time would it be in France? Like, how many hours ahead/behind are they? (link)
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right now it's 5:31 a.m. in France and it's 12:31 a.m. in the East Coast. So if you are basing it on that...it's 5 p.m. in France.
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ok so im 16/f and for some reason my ankles pop everytime i walk up stairs and sometimes just taking steps make them pop really loud!! its really embarrasing in class when it's dead silent during a test and i have to walk across the room and my ankles pop!! is there something wrong w/ them or what? also my wrists and knees pop whenever i bend them back and forth but it hurts usually when they do pop. should i see a doctor or is just a weird thing that's normal? o ya im a cheerleader if that helps any! (link)
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I've had some of my bones clack, as I would call it. I've had my hip, my ankles, and my wrist. But, it has never hurt me...so I never got it checked out (and the noise has completely stopped now). I would go to the doctor.
Hope it works out,
Teacup
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okay. im 14... i dont see how people geet fat... i mean theres alot a big people in this world always complaining about their weight..&& ive never been fat before..im like really skinny...and i eat alot...when i see that im gaining a few pounds i cut down a little..&& it helps me keep my figure...alot of people even think im anorexic but im not..trust me.....what i dont get is why is it a really big person all like look at me im fat..i dont fit in&& low self exsteem and stuff...when really they can control that fat of theirs...unless someones making you eat alot...if you really want to be skinny...work for it you fat cows...just kidding...just saying...if you really want to be skinny WORK...and if you think you dont fit in cause you're different(fat )..you are different..cause you take up more space so get over it seriously..im tired of listening to them fat people...most people who are fat are fat because theyre 'GREEDY'
get over it..or do something about it..WORK..
My question really is: why are there so many fat people in this world??? cant you learn how to cut down..you GREEDY people...why cant a fat person just stop eatting so much..and WORK..come on people!! if you are one who eats alot..it helps to cut down by eatting less..dont even look at the food that is saying"eat me!!!"...so please help me understand thanks... (link)
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Well people are fat for many different reasons. You must have a fast metabolism and therefore don't gain as much weight quickly. Other people find comfort in food, they eat when they are nervous or when they have nothing else to do. Also, how would you feel having someone tell you constantly that you're fat and you need to lose weight. Yes, some people may be motivated to lose weight, but others feel crappy and turn to food because they find comfort in eating.
Basically, I am saying don't judge people, you don't know their situation. The world is always going to have fat people in it, so deal with it.
-Teacup
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15/f
Aliright. I know this is kinda a stupid question but i wanna ask anyway. Well there is this boy that really likes me and i like him back(i told him). I have never really had a boyfriend, and never had a first kiss(he also knows this). We are planning on hanging out soon and im pretty positive that he will kiss me. But im soo nervous! I dont know what to do. any tips are great thanksss! (link)
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There's nothing that you can really do to prepare for a first kiss. Well, except maybe having minty fresh breath (suck on a mint, because gum doesn't get rid of bad breath).
Just go with the flow, and you'll be fine. =]
You'll do great!
Teacup
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I've been sexually active for 2 years. I'm 16 right now and with this amazing guy. We had unprotected sex just a few nights ago, and protected sex a few times before that. It's the time of the month where I should be getting my period, but I'm 2 days late. I was wondering if I should go ahead and get a pregnancy test, or wait another week. my period has been regular for almost 2 years now.
If so, what type of test should i get? One of my friends said get an E.P.T. for the best accuracy. Someone please help.. Thanks (link)
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I think you should get a pregnancy test.
You have no idea if it's not coming because you are pregnant or because you are so freaked out that it has affected you.
I still think you should get a pregnancy test.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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My friend and I were talking the other day and the subject of food and weight came up. She says one way she looses weightand keeps it off and still gets to 'taste' whatever she wants is by chewing up the food and then spitting it out. Now, she doesnt do this for everything, just like chocolate and candy ect. Not like apples and everything healthy...but I was wondering if this really works, or does the fatty stuff still get in your body. Thanks. (link)
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That's like torture. I don't suggest any one do this. Make sure you eat lots of fruits and veggies, and once in a while indulge in desert. As long as you can control yourself, and don't eat it every day and in big amounts, it's fine. I think what your friend is doing is a little nonsensical, sorry.
Much Luck,
Teacup
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15/ f
Ok, I'm so sick of my stupid fat self. I've tried dieting, exercising, (ect.) but it won't go away! School starts in a few weeks and i know i can't be 6 pack abs by then or even a year from now, but there's got to be something natural i can do (a different diet, exercis, ect.) no pills please.
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First of all, don't put yourself down. You may hate your belly, but don't worry you can lose weight.
What is your diet like? Remember diet does not mean eating less, diet means your manner of eating.Do you drink soda, eat junk food? If you do, you need to cut them out. Now, there's nothing wrong with these things in moderation, you can have them once in a while, but they can't be an every day thing. Make sure you eat dinner before 6 p.m. Drink lots of water--you should drink it with every meal. Everything else pretty much has lots of sugars. Try eating more vegetables and fruits. The ideal diet follows the food pyramid.
As for exercise. Do it like 3-4 times a week. Run for half hour to an hour. Or buy a work out video. I hear tae-bo is very good.
I hope this helps,
Teacup
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hey everyone... well ok i have a problem see i like my friend daniel... and we use to talk alot on the phone and he lives in arizona... but u see my phone line got canceled...and the only way i can call him is by using my dad, mom or my brothher's phone... but ican't tell im going to call him cuz if they find out i calll a boy they will kill me!!! so yeah what should i do? (link)
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I guess you can lie once...and ask someone in your house for their phone so you can call a female friend who moved away. Then when you speak to Daniel, ask if he has a screen name/email, so you can keep in touch with him in this way.
Hope it helps,
Teacup
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What is S & M? (link)
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sado-masochism.
Just think leather, whips, handcuffs type of stuff.
-Teacup
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i have like white lil lines on my butt on the side of my butt cheeks..i guess stretch marks they call them but i dont know from what..im very atheltic and i run eevryday...i am 5'4 and 110 pounds if that says anything..and i dont know what its from..i feel selfconcious wen im in a bathing suit because of that..help me out (link)
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They are probably from you growing very quickly. Just like some girls get stretch marks on their breasts when they grow cup sizes.
You can either get a different style of bathing suit (boy short) or try a cream which may fairly help, but will probably not get rid of them entirely. I heard once that only dermatologists can make them disappear noticeably.
I hope this helps,
Teacup
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=443468 was my last question talking about this topic.
Anyways, today, Jeff acted like he liked me. Like, he sat by me at lunch again, and complimented me on my new a-ar shirt. Then, some girl said something and I hit her in the butt with my agenda and then he was like "ooo hittt me laurie!" and of course we all laughed and stuff. Then, during science class, this kid took my glasses and I was like "STEVEN GIVE THEM BACK!" and jeff was like "o0o Laurie looks SEXYYY without her glasses on," smiling and all, and the other guys at the table nodded their heads haha. idk. it just seems like he gives me mixed signals.
and then, I talked to Ginger about it, and she said she didn't mind at all, because just today she started going out with this other guy.
So, NOW what do you think about him liking me?
=] Thanks. (link)
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Sounds like there is more of a chance of something there. Of course, it can never be clear unless, well he straight out tells you. But at least it means, if he does like you, you have nothing standing in your way now.
Much Luck,
Teacup
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Is it hard having a part-time job and going to high school? (link)
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You should try working on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. Yeah, it may mean you won't have a social life, but it means you can still keep up with school.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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Okay i have a huge problem, my ex, JC and i just broke up a month ago and we're back to being the best of friends, of course nobody knows that we we were going out. Well anyways we're both hoping to be in the same class, not because we still like eachother but because, well.. long story: Before we met JC was very close to a drop out at age 14. He was all about summit and I.S.S. and bullying others. And before we met i was the goody good teacher's pet. Then JC was switched to my class, and he had to sit by me. The next day i gave the counselor a note from the teacher and JC was there. the counselor remembered me from last years award of Student of the year, so he assigned me to be JC's private tudor. So every day we had to stay after school in the cafeteria. After three days of tudoring, everything happened. He started getting B's and i started acting up. We started hanging out as if we were going, but we weren't, but everyone thought we were. Well school was almost the only place that we could be with eachother, then in the summer we hooked up. Now we're scared if we go back to being the baddest and nicest in the school again.what should we do if we're separated?
P.S. Can't hook up because of parents, they hate eachother, and because of friends, i know stupid, but friends will tell lies to us saying that we said it. (link)
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It doesn't mean that you have to stop being friends anymore. You can still be there for him. If it means helping him after school or just talking to him on the phone.
I hope this helps
-Teacup
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I have a major obsession about my body and exercise and food. At first, it was just like, not eating so many cookies at lunch or limiting how much soda I drank in a day. That was about a year ago. In like, April I think, about that time anyways, I found that I was not eating any junk food at lunch anymore and I was only eating ice cream on sundays, and i hardly drank soda. I also was running about 2 miles 3-5 days a week. So basically, I was in shape. Then when summer started I joined a club lacrosse team and did a lot of training, we ran at least 3 miles everyday and had practice 3 days a week (one was a muscle training day). My coach told us about all the bad things about soda. and how not to eat the dairy before a work out, that kind of stuff. Along with lacrosse, I joined my old swim team (practice every weeknight for an hour). And I also did a special start and turn session for about an hour every week day. I was getting a ton of exercise so I had to eat constantly, like in the car between practices and stuff. I really slimmed down, lost 10 pounds, and I haven't had my period since May. Now, I am extremely picky about how I eat. NO candy, soda, ice cream, pizza, chicken wings, at ALL. I also run 4 miles almost everyday, but I don't swim anymore and lacrosse is over. But I still find myself always thinking about how much I've eaten and how I'm going to burn it off. I mean, I enjoy working out, it's just I can't help but calculate in my head the number of calories I'm eating and using. I am very fit, but I'm not convinced that I"m healthy. My mind is all screwed up, and I just want to be able to enjoy other things in life besides my body. How can I fix my mental issues??? (link)
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Maybe you should speak to a nutritionist. They can give you a better idea of what food is best to eat, so you won't feel like you constantly have to count calories.
Also, your obsession with food is screwing up your menstrual cycle. I believe it is stress, and that is terrible for a young person to be so stressed.
I think you should probably exercise a little more and talk to a nutrionist to help you with your dietary concerns and hopefully that should put you on the right track. Exercise is good...but too much of a good thing is never good.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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what do you guys do in your free and occupied time besides school, eating, maintaining hygiene, and hanging out with friends?
i dont do anything in summer and otherwise. like summer camps/schools or like sports, what volunteering things, clubs outside and in school. can you suggest stuff or tell me what you do? all i do is watch tv, read, do hw, volunteer at a hospital one time a week (maximum amount possible in the program). pointers on getting a job? i feel like im wasting time and space in this world
please
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I was reading Seventeen Magazine the other day (Christina Aguilera is on the cover) and inside they give good ideas of places that are best for teens to work at.
they listed
wet seal
applebee's
best buy
buil-a-bear
cold stone
hot topic
jamba juice
mariott
regal cinemas
ymca
While I was in school, I was constantly busy. I was class president, I did stage crew, and I was in a couple of clubs. It's a little bit of work, but it's fun, you get to meet people you may not usually talk to. Try to find a club that you have some interest in...and go for it.
Good Luck.
-Teacup
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how do you guys get your summer reading done? the library has a hold list of books &
going to the bookstore for extended periods of time is hard to do &
borrowing from people is annoying
do you just buy the book? i dont like to since i might not like the book or reread it ever again. (link)
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I buy the books, and I know that I may not like them or reread (ugh Heart of Darkness),but I like having books (I guess that's the nerd in me).
What I would suggest is...buying them on amazon.com..they're cheaper and if anything when ur done w/ them...see if you can sell them to other people who are going to need to read them.
Hope that helps!
-Teacup
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what are some good books you've read lately? i need to catch up on stuff (link)
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The Catcher in the Rye-J.D. Sallinger
Gone with the Wind-Margaret Mitchell
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what do cramps feel like. i havn't had my period yet. i think it may be coming soon, i have arm pit hair, hair "down" their, and some what breast development. so i need to know what cramps feel like, when i should be expecting to get those cramps and where exactly are the cramps?
thanks soooooooo much (link)
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It's different for everyone...sometimes it hurts like hell, it feels kind of like your lower stomach is in pain. Sometimes you get back aches, head aches or pimples.
-Teacup
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