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Q: I'm 13/f from Florida. I have really curly hair and the humidity doesn't help. I hate my hair and it seems like I have NO self confidence because I can never do cute hairstyles like girls with straight hair. This really bugs me and makes it hard. Does anyone know of any cute hairstyles for curly hair that are easy to do and won't leave my hair frizzy and poofy?

I will rate high for those who answer this because I desperately need help!

xOx

Try going to seventeen magazines website, im not 100% they will have tips but in their magazine I always see things for hair.

Q: I dont know if i should dump my b/f becuz he likes another girl but whenvever i ask him who he likes more he always says yes to me that he likes me more....should i dump him???¿¿¿

Wow how did you get the '?' upside down?

Q: ok me n my bf started making out last week and hes the first guy iv made out with and i think i might be his first too so anyways all weve done is liek frenching and iv nibbled his neck and hes bitten my nose... but thats it.. what else should we do? if u hav any liek tips... plz tell me!

Why the fuck would he bite your nose? Oh yeah and try giving him a blow job, those are fun.

Q: There is this kid at my school who has been following me around eveywhere since 4th grade, hes really sweet and all... but he thinks i love him. What is up with him, should i tell an adult or just let him go do his thing and yell at him if he gets out of hand? *im in 8th grade by the way*

Get someone older to beat him up, I think that should get the message across. Or just tell him to leave you alone.

Q: Does anyone know how many hits of acid can be taken at once, as in a maximum without over doin it? Thanks
ten

Isn't one enough to kill you?

Q: What are some good revenge things for evil people?

Put toothpaste in their bed. Ive always wanted to do that to my brother.

Q: i was just wondering a couple days ago...becuase i gave my bf a handjob and he got a little bit of cum on my shirt..and i just was wondering how long it takes for the sperm to like die once the guy cums..becuase i was looking at my shirt with it on it and kinda got grossed out wondering if there was little sperm moving around alive on my shirt still..lol sorry i know this is stupid but does anyone know??

Maybe you just shouldn't be a whore. Or better yet, give him a blow job and swallow cause then you don't have to worry about sperm on your shirt.

Q: Hey i didn't know how to give feedback without asking a question- but i really like your answers.. they rock.
PEACE

oh i guess i do have one question- i can't for the life of me put a picture on my column. Maybe you could help.

Thanks. And ah to put a picture on your column, just upload your picture on photobucket.com and use the url that they give you to put in your profile settings where it sez like 'url picture' or something like that. I hope thats not confussing.

Q: 14/f Ok well I like this guy and I wanna tell him I like him but I dont wanna sound stupid and want him to think Im weird... we are friends i guess we talk on the phone sometimes but not that often I have 2 classes with him and lunch but I dont talk to him at all at school(hes shy also)... but when i do talk on the phone with him he makes me smile so much! I kinda wanna write him a note but I dont know if that would be a stupid thing to do...how did u tell a guy u liked them... Im not sure if I should even tell him... and If I should I dont know what to say... but another thing I know he doesnt like me cause he told me who he liked and that he was gonna ask her out(yea she has everything I want)... so yea does that mean I shouldnt even bother... I am confused I just have liked him for like ever... what Should I do... and if I should tell him... what should I say and how should i say it... I am lost and confused?!?!

Dont tell him that would be stupid, unless that girl sez no, because then he wouldn't want to be friends with a girl that likes him when he has a girlfriend.

Q: Hi, I'm 13 years old, and i recently started cutting. Don't think " I'm a physco Freak " or whatever you want to call me. My Friend introduced me into it. She said it really helps. so one day i was really angry, i was crying and all, and i cut all up and down on my arm/wrist. To me, i felt better, but just the next day it hurted. From then on, i have been cutting myself all the time when i am mad. the last time i did was actually last night. I use " Scissors , Razors , Saftey Pin , or any sharp objects round the house " . my mom saw my arm by acident, and i told her i fell on a side walk. well my friends are so worried about me. they think im ganna end up killing myself, because i almost did. i really do hate my life even if i have friends and a boyfriend. i JUST hate it, and i think sometimes i was just a mistake, that i ruin other people lives. well i dont know, if i should continue, and and my friends upset, or not, and stay here. I DONT KNOW?! its just really hard to stop though, cuz im so addicted to it. EHH` . what should i do ? thanks . if you wanna i.m. me on AIM ; BlinkBabex33 .. or you can email me ; BlinkBabex33@comcast.net

Just start cutting your legs, where no one can see. Because if you do it on your arms that means your just doing it for attention. And what the fuck does you 'kinda getting raped' have to do with anything, are you just trying to get more attention? Wawawa go cut yourself more you little bitch.

Q: my friend made me mad and i want to get back at him. is it right for me to leave a mean message on his lj anonymously? Would I be a big loser if I did that? Thank you.

You would be a very big loser, because fights over livejournal are the stupidest things ever. Even more so if you did it anonymously, if you have something to say to him say it to his face.

Q: I work at a restaurant and there are some really nice guys there that are about 20-25 years old. a lot of them have been kinda flirtin with me and i told my mom! my mom said that i'm not dating them! should i obey or not? i'm 17 and I'm a female and she said i should only date 17, 18, or 19 no men over 20!

Thats not even legal to do anything with them, so dont be a slut. Obey the law and your mom.

Q: Does anyone know of some good ways to make money? Im 14 and I can't babysit because there aren't any kids in my neighborhood. I can't seem to find any ways to make some money.

*Ashlees* right, suck some dick, its the only respectable job these days for 14 year olds.

Q: Lately I've been getting headaches and when I close my eyes trying to get them to go away, I see things. Like there's some kind of movie playing on my eyelids. I saw my friend failing her history test and it actually happened word for word. I tried to talk to my friend about it and she thought I was joking around. I'm really scared. I don't want to be a freak. The headaches keep coming and I keep seeing things and I want it to stop.

What should I do and does this happen to anybody else?

Freaked out Psychic?

Thats really cool acutally. It will kinda suck though if anyone ever threw you a surpirse party cause then it wouldn't be a surpirse. Bummer.

Q: Alright i recently got my hair cut to shorter then i ever had it before...kinda past my shoulders...and it's soo thinned out too but the point is my hair use to be where my boob was...around there and its about
------------------------------------------- this much. how long do u think will it take for me to grow it out again? my said a month but then again it's her...so please help! i've been depressed about this since wednesday! i'm never getting it cut at that place again. please help!

Kina lame to be depressed about hair when you've only lost a couple inches. Why dont you get a life and worry about more important stuff.

Q: I can never wake up in the morning. Anyone have any tried and true ways to wake up in the morning? I hate coffee and I don't have time to take a shower in the morning. Thank ya!

Have you thought of going to bed early?

Q: I know that this might sound stupid but, today my mom was just telling me stuff that I don't know about my family, and she told me my sister got pregnant at the age of 21 (shes 28 now) and got an abortion, because she got pregnant not from being raped or anything, just with her boyfriends baby n stuff. I've been brought up to believe women have equal rights, and I have believed in abortions up until now. Knowing that I could've had a nephew//niece, and I don't because my sister got an abortion is really weird. I'm only 14, and I know I'm going to get a bunch of life altering situations, as this one. But, if my sister asks me one day if I believe in abortions, should I tell the truth, and say, no. or yes? Thanks.

Say what you really feel.

Q: i know it's still possible to get pregnant when you have your period, but say someone has sex during her period, preferably near the END (and still wears a condom) will that lessen her chance of conceiving? or is there a certain day where you are highly likely to get pregnant?

I dont see how you could get pregnant while on your period. But anywho if your gonna use a condom don't do it on your period becaues thats gross. And of course wearing a condom will lessen your chance of getting pregnant. Wow the more I look at it, your just dumb and should have never asked that question.

Q: I have two friends, or I think they are my two friends.. they are always leaving me out.. like I'm just there for a good laugh or two everyonce in a while but they can cast me aside like an old toy that's lost it's shine. Everytime I make a friend I'm either left for someone else or end up giving up on the whole thing entirely. When they are around me they act like I am their sister or something.. but then they will go off to do things alone.. and they never invite me. I always invite my friends other friend, I always try and include them.. but no.. I'm the third wheel all the time.. v_v I need some help on what to do.. do I stay with my friends.. or should I try and find some new ones..

I had the same problem, and I just ditched my old friends and got new ones.

Q: OK i have a problem.. I kind of told my friend i started my period a longggg time ago ( A WHOLE YEAR) so all this time ive bin lieing. Lately my friend was talking 2 my sister and mentioned me and my period. My sister asked if i really did and i said yes. So now i am lieing 2 my sister and my friend but wait it gets WORSE! my friend asked my mom about it ( my friend is like family) and my mom said she didnt think i started! i HATE lieing 2 them about it and everytime i see my mother im worried she'll bring it up! Same with my friend! Please HeLP!

Your just really dumb. Why the fuck would you lie about starting your period in the first place? You need to just tell your friend that your dumb and was lieing about it the whole time.