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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

Got some love life issues? Need a quick self-esteem boost? Confused in a relationship? .... Just ask Venzuela!

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me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now and are competely in love. last year around this time he got into a lot of trouble involving drugs and was arrested. ovbiously my mom was not too happy about me being around him but she gave him another chance to make everything okay. everything was going well until a month ago when he relapsed. his mom called mine and told her what happened, so i was forbidden to talk to him or see him. ovbiously, i didnt listen and was continuing to communicate with him. last week when i stayed home sick, he stopped by and brought me soup and all that kind of stuff, and everything was the best its ever been with me and him. we're closer now than ever before. the other day my mom caught me talking to him and everything blew up. we got in a huge fight about how i lied to her and she couldnt trust me anymore and even called him to tell him never to call me and respect her wishes. i was so upset last night that i couldnt sleep and snuck out and ran 2 miles to his house at 1 o'clock in the morning (his mom loves me so it wasnt really an issue) i just needed to see/talk to him and his mom. my problem is this: i cannot stop talking to him. I am so in love and not talking to him would kill me. I dont want to disrespect my mom anymore though either... my boyfriend is going to rehab and a lot of other programs and really for the first time getting his act together. i dont know how to explain to my mom that i need him in my life, hes my best friend and the only person who completely understands who i really am. we need eachother. but my mom just says im too young, and need to let it go. she doesnt get that i wont, and if i want it bad enough, ill just wait for it. should i talk to her more and is there anything i can tell her to make her understand..... ahhhhh

Okay, firstly I will definately say is talk more to your mom. Get a cup of coffee or tea and sit together and talk, about how you feel and everything that is bothering you inside and that just wants to explode!
He has had his 2nd chance and if it still doesn't work out than... its best to trust mom. I know how it sometimes is hard to trust and go along with mom's wishes but, Mom knows best and that is the truth. I am sorry hun but maybe getting into drugs and stuff is a little too much. Move on!

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hi. you answered my question about my friend with her many boyfriends?
Well, thats not the whole problem. see, last spring, she told me she liked me. like that. and I liked her back, but what with my parents, it wouldn't work out. She's my best friend in the world, and I care about her, so I'm really overprotective. Now she's dating the guy, and I don't want anything to happen, but I also don't want to lose her, because without her, I would die. literally.

So basically you like her, more as a friend? Then tell her! Just spill your feelings, hopes and confusions. Tell her how you feel once again, tell her seriously and meaningful. She should then realise and come to her senses, basically just communicate, in any way you feel comfortable.

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(17/f)heyy alright well, okay theres this guy that really really liked me and i thought i liked him and we were like best friends and all, but then we took summer school together, and i met this other guy and i started going out with him without telling any of my other closest friend except for my bestest friend ever. and when the guy found out he was so upset. andd i ended up breaking up with the guy a week before school started again because he was a total jerk. but my bestsetset friend moved, to the other side of the country and now im all alone. even though things are cool between me and that guy,hes starting to like me again. the thing isss, i dont know what to do because i know if i go out with him ill be happy with him, its just...i dont know if i can see my self kissing himm or anything like that because weve always been good friends. and i think another reason is, is because all my other guy friends dont really get along with him and i dont want things to mess up between me and my friends since they already are kinda shaky. im so confused, and i have no one else to talk tooo...if you can please try to help me, itll be greatly appriciatedd. =( thankss.

I always say don't lose a friend, lose a boyfriend. Friends are for life, and maybe after you break up with the boyfriend, he may be your friend but the friend in the begginning knows you better and Im sure you feel alot comfortable with him. So its best to move on, since you and the friend are all cool now, carry on like that and in the mean time check out other singles and get flirty. Get into someone else, if you know what I mean.

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I'm worried about a friend of mine. She dates a lot of guys, pretty fast. She broke up with her boyfriend two weeks ago, and she already has a new guy ready to ask her out.
The new guy is much stronger than her, and has always been mean to me. I don't want her hurt, in any way, because she means the world to me.
Does anyone have an idea of how to tell her this without sounding jealous?

Because you two are best friends its always nice to share things openly, so firstly I think it is better if you tell her how you feel, if you feel uneasy or uncomfortable telling her than do it in different ways which you find easier and more comfortable.
Make it obvious and very clear that you aren't jelous but happy for her, its really sweet you care so much for your friend. :D Tell her the guy she is dating is always mean to you and tell her you think she is moving a little too fast, take things easy and go slow.

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me and my boyfriend had sex the other night and he came on my bum, he wiped it off with a towel but then wiped my vagina with the same spot. Could i be pregnant?

You could be pregnant because sometimes the sperm that lands on the thighs n move their way to the vagina and fertalize the egg. It is best you check at the doctors or get the pregancy checkers, where you check ur urine.

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There is a boy at my school who i seroiusly adore, and sometimes he flirts with me, but other times he just blows me off. Hes my friend, but we never get in any 'friend talks' just flirting. Is he into me? Is he playing hard-to-get? I need love advice!

Firstly, tell him how you feel. Then if he still brushes you off, treating you like dirt, then you might realise the true him! If you don't have any friend-talks then its best you ask him, if he likes you. See what he says, if you need further help just ask me! BTW ask him seriously and make an impression that you are being serious and you want to know. I know it takes lots of guts to ask him but, its the best way! Relationships sometimes fail because there is no communication between the two.

Thankyou!
Venzuela

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I have a boyfriend who has already had sex. I think i'm ready to have it and I love him very much.
I want to have sex with him.
But i'm afraid of what will come after,
or when people find out.
And it'll be my first time and I wont know what to do.
And I guess I'm just scared and need to know
what i should do before sex to make sure im protected enough and is it okay to have it if im ready?

You have to be very sure that you are ready! And no one can be more sure than YOU! BUT, you have to be at a very decent age. Who cares what people think? Make sure everything is out in the open with this guy you love so much, does he know its ur first time?
Wear a condom, definately and its better if you're on the pill too, just to be extra cautious. If he thinks wearing a condom is ridiculous, don't listen to him! As long as he wants sex, you both have to be protected!

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I have chatting to this guy for like a really long time, (I like him), so one day, I told him through msgs that I liked him and he replied, he likes me too. But how do I know if he really likes me or he was just saying that because he didnt want to hurt me or make me feel unwanted? I have told him about my past bad relationships that didnt work out. Now what do I do? Im confused Venzuela!!!

Have you tried communicating? Try ask him, 'Are you sure you like me?' Start off something simple, true and very honest. Basically, just speak from your heart, and its best to do this face-to-face!

Thankyou!
Venzuela

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