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>> 22 years of age and in college. Graduated with an Associate's Degree in Medical Administration, now working with a laboratory as a jack of all trades customer service rep, hoping to pursue a higher degree in the healthcare field.
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m/16
so in 8th grade i was always doing stuff with friends and going on dates ahd stuff, and ever since i left my school and went to another school in the area, i hav been completely disconnected from my friends i talk to this one girl almost everyday but mostly online and on the phone and like not too many other ppl, i havnt done anything with them either, but i was really good friends with my friends from my old school. i was wondering how to get back in touch with them and to ask them to go out and do some stuff w/o being real awkward about it since i havnt talked to them or done anytihng with them in a long time.
Hi there ^_^
If you wanna get back in touch with people without it being all awkward, you can try making an AIM chatroom (if you have AIM) and invite all your friends. You guys can talk about how long it's been since a night out and maybe come up with a date? OR... talk to that friend you talk to every day, and tell her you miss everyone, and wonder if they can go out friday or whenever. Gotta put the idea out there lol. Good luck
Flirty :)
Well I've been through things in the past that really effected me and the way I act . Stuff that messed up stuff in my head , definatly NOT mental . Like with my boyfriend , I get mad at EVERYTHiNG , like seriously . I'm so over sensitive and it's like if he trys to correct me i'm very aggresive & defensive .He says it pushes him away but always wants to work through it .. he's not asking to change me , just how I respond .. i'm VERY jealous to due to a past relationshiop.. please help & GOOD advice please .
I know JUST how you feel.
Well, let's start off by saying you have a very good boyfriend if all he is asking is for this to change, and he's willing to stick by your side regardless. To change being overly sensitive and aggressive, try being in his shoes. Would you like it if everytime you tried helping your boyfriend, he'd snap at you? I say, give respect to get it back. It seems you have a very good man on your side, DON'T lose him to pitiful things like behavior problems ;) . As for jealousy, I have my own tactic but I'm not sure if it will work. What I do is think of myself. Think of the positive things about you. If you're attractive, have a good personality, lovable, then you should have no problem picking yourself up from a breakup if anything happens. Sometimes trusting blindly is hard, but boosting my ego helps. Especially if you believe it's true lol. If not, talk to him about what exactly gets you jealous, maybe he'll be nice enough to avoid the things. good luck :)
Flirty
Well I happened to become very nosey and I stumbled upon your page, I got to ask how did you get your picture to blink with pretty colors?! cause I looooooooooooooooooooove it!!!
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Bahaima22
Thanks for the Q :) I used Lunapic.com and you download the pics or pics if you want to use more than one pic, once it's done downloading you can choose which frame... or you can choose for the pic to have groovy rainbow. it's on the animation tab on the top. let me know how it turns out :)
Flirty =]
Hello, what are some weird stories that have to do with ghosts. Like, have you ever felt one around you? Anyones storeis would be cool?
I wanna pitch in! ^_^
LOL well one i can think of is when I had a sleepover with my best friend, and we were in the dark taking random pics with flash. and when we looked through all the pics, there were 2 that stood out. One had white spots around the pic, like orbs. and the second had a figure, kinda like a face O_o ... yeah we were really creeped out. Umm there have been times where things have been randomly knocked over... things move... i hear sounds... just wierd all over. Sometimes i feel like im being watched. Paranoia much?
FLirty :)
For a while now i have notice that i have a lump inbetween my vaginal opening and the anus. the lump is more to the side, under the outer labia. its hard to explain the location. But anyway, has anyone ever heard of this? Its shape is about the size of my finger print. It has no redness, it is not painfull, it is just a simple lump. Its colour is the same colour as the rest of my body. it doesn't feel like there is anything in it. it has never bothered me, i just would like to know what it it. i have looked it up on the internet and it seems like no one else in the world has ever experienced this. Should i be worried about it?Any answers or suggestions are appresiated.
Thanks.
Hey there :)
Us advicenators aren't doctors, but, from what it sounds like, it could be Genital Warts? Are you sexually active. Sometimes females get things down there that aren't related to STD's or STI's, so it's much better to visit your Gyn. Good luck!
Flirty :)
okay. im 15/f and my boyfriends 14/m. plz dont say anything about ages..
let me start off by saying. me and kyle have been on and off for awhile. and we have been dateing soildly for 4 months now. but the thing is when we make out he doesnt really close his mouth or anything he kinda makes me do all the work he doesnt put his tounge in my mouth or anything. its quite uppsetting to me. how can i fix his ways of makeing out with out being rude or mean..?
when he knows hes getting more then makeing out hell close his mouth more but thats the only time.
Hey!
Try being clear with him. I mean, you guys are young but at the same time, it's not fun doing all the work and receiving nothing in return. Try talking to him about what you like. You can sugar coat it by saying " You know what would drive me CRAZY?"... so and so... good luck
Flirty :)
Hello!!
I was wondering if you can change your name ? On, here . You know the one you signed up with? Please help!! Thanks for anyone who try's!
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Hey there :)
I don't think you can UNLESS you have a paid account... You can always message Danger Nerd ^_^ good luck
Flirty =]
i'm not sure if this is in the right category...
but lately i've been having a lot of dreams that i'm pregnant or that i have babies, almost every other night. any ideas on what this could mean? thanks.
Hey there :)
From what i've learned, our dreams are from our subconcious. meaning things we can't handle we store it in the back of our mind. As in the day we don't even wanna know about it. and once it's night and we are unconciously sleeping away, those subconcious thoughts interpret in a dream. Are you afraid to have a baby? Become pregnant because of things you might be doing? Are you eager to have a baby but know you cant? these might be possibilities... lots of other people believe that when a close friend or family member dreams of babies and pregnancies someone they know will become pregnant... another reason can be your babies can be symbols. Lets say you're dreaming youre having a baby and you pass away (God forbid), maybe your subconcious is trying to tell you those things you fear or that stress you keep inside is killing you. good luck :) you can always use google and type dream interpretations or something
flirty :)
f/16, boyfriends 16
been dating for 7 months, known eachother for 3 years
theres no question that i love him, during thepast 7 months we've been through more and made it through it, between him moving an hour away and me being hospitalized for 2 months for an eating disorder
and were still strong
i feel more comfortable around him than anyone, we basically know eachother inside out
right now were basically at the hj/fingering stage i guess but we've spoken a lot about going farther and what not
basically due to all my insecurities it felt that i wasn't ready, and the fear of him leaving and the rest of it
basically the other night we were making out, but like really, really going at it and he asked me if i wanted to go to the next level
i said not tonight
at this pont though there really is no reason for me to be so uptight about it and like i want to, but im afraid to? i guess
any advice on how to just not be so worried maybe?
btw my boyfriends the best and not pressuring me or anything, and he really was fine that i said no, but i feel at this point i should? he's been there for me through everything
Hey :)
Well, there is nothing wrong with you having a fear of him leaving after you guys have gotten intimate. In fact, many females have this idea... Some due to past experiences... So don't worry. My advice is, just follow what you want to do. A relationship is based out of love, trust... but also protect yourself and your heart first. If you feel you aren't ready, don't pressure your own self into it! As time passes by, you will get more and more comfortable with him, even more comfortable than now, trust me. Sex isn't important. So just stick to what you feel comfortable doing. When you're ready, you will flow right through it. Have you told him this fear you have? Maybe he can reassure you on his love for you, as a good boyfriend would. good luck!
flirty :)
15/m
ok i'm really good friends with this girl, she's almost 14 and i like her a lot she knows it we talk pretty much everyday and if not everyday at least every week we've talked about dating but i'm not sure she fully got it she's always dating guys that are assholes but i wanna show her that i'm different from all the rest i'm always telling her how amazing she is and stuff but she won't give me the chance but next saturday my friend set up a get together with her boyfriend me and that girl so i'm gonna make the best of it but i'm wondering is it worth it because i can't handle seeing her with another guy i wanna be that guy i know i'm right for her
Hi there :)
Well to start off, please, don't do anything to mess up the relationship, or else, the girl will see you as a problematic friend and the guy will probably want to pick a fight with you. I would recommend talking to your friend when she is single and being upfront with her. Shyness is an issue, but maybe over the phone can help. Tell her how you feel, but don't get into too much detail. Just let her know you have a crush on her, and that you're wondering if she would give you a chance. Too much declaring of feelings might overwhelm the girl or scare her.. orrr maybe she'll like. depending on the type of girl she is. Ask her what kind of guys she's into... get to know her relationship wise... then pop the question. good luck :)
One day after football one of my friends txt me that she likes me tired and having been alone for a while a go along. But it didnt feel right so to say. I had liked one of her other friends and still do a lot like really really a lot times 5 but when i told her she said so and so would be mad and my other friend said she probably wouldnt be quick to hurt her but always saw me with the one i like. Ive already fixed most everything but now idk if she even likes me i asked her i got idk i really like herhelp
Can you edit your question? (add info)... because it doesn't seem to make sense. I don't understand it... i don't think other advicenators do either...
Flirty :)
Ok so I met this guy on the internet, I live in Minnesota he lives in Canada, we have been talking for oh 3-4 years? We have talked on the phone and seen each other on webcam. Basically I want to meet him now and he wants to meet me. We want to be together but obviously haven't gotten that close til we meet. Anyways I recently went away for ten days forgot my cellphone and when I came back had a message from him saying "I get the hint, you're ignoring me" WHICH I TOTALLY WASN'T! So eventually I got to tell him I forgot my cellphone etc etc.. and we ended up talking about how he doesn't think I will come and visit or stay and I don't want to be with him etc (he thought I went back to my ex cause I didn't talk to him for ten days).
I really like this guy, I have a major major crush on him which is odd, because I am 20 years old. I just love his personality and I am falling for him big time, he has told me that he is falling for me, but I DON'T KNOW if it's all just a game to him or anything.
I know this question is confusing and long, but I really don't know what to do, this is how my mind is working right now. Hopefully someone has been in the same situation?
Hi there :)
Well, long distance relationships are tricky... friendships as well... But it seems you guys have seen eachother...heard eachother... the only step really IS meeting. How old is he? Is he older than you? According to his behavior, do you think he is mature enough to handle a long distance relationship? Or is he so immature he'd toy with your feelings this way? My suggestion is, get to know him (although you guys have known eachother for 4 years). Ask him questions like what he thinks about you guys being together... ask him questions you wanna know. And in the end... if you guys can come up with a date of meeting halfway, I'm sure it will work out. Be careful though =]
best of luck: Flirty :)
Hey! there's this guy who goes to my church and he's been eyeing me lately and he's pretty cute! ;) well, we really haven't been able to talk to each other because there's really been like no excuse to talk... But today I have the perfect excuse because its my birthday! So, how can I get him to find out, because that would be the perfect excuse for him to talk to me! Let me know! :)
Hi :)
Well if you have friends and family at church, request a happy birthday song :D.... let it be known hehe good luck
Flirty =]
I broke the chain off my necklace my boyfriend gave me!
Its so little I didn't even know they broke that easily?
Does that usually happen?
How can I fix it? and if I have to take it somewhere how much will it cost?
aww =/
That can happen actually... Idk where you live nor what the chain looks like, but take it to a jewelry store... any jewelry store and they shouldn't charge alot. less than 20 usually... but ask around get second opinions... gotta negotiate lol good luck!!
Flirty :)
So... about senior prom. Will it be DEVASTATING if I don't go? My friends are really cynical about it and don't want to go, and no - I won't be able to convince them to go. My best friend is setting it up. She has to go. I could go with her... but I don't really know the other friends that she would be hanging out with.
The thing is - I don't really want or NEED to go. But I just don't want to go and have an awkward time because I feel like I'm OBLIGATED to go. Is prom really that big of a deal?
Going to prom really isn't such a big thing. I don't plan on going, although everything about prom is nice. The place they set it up, the hours, and if you have lots of friends it can be more fun. If you want memories of how crazy you were at prom, go right ahead lol but no it really isnt a big deal to miss it ...
I accidentally washed a thing of chapstick with a load of laundry and dried it too...now there are spots all over my clothes...whats the best way to get those spots out?
hey there =]
hope this helps
http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview/id/546952.html
flirty =]
14/f
I'm sorry this is going to be sort of long.
Sometimes a really...well, sometimes I HATE my best friend. I know that's a really bad thing to say, but that's really how I feel sometimes. She never wants to do the same things I do-like when I say, do you want to come over? She says, flat out, no, which is not only rude, but it's really hurtful, or if I want to go on a walk, I always have to talk her into it, otherwise she says she's "too tired". I can never have fun with her-like if I say, I love you! She starts freaking out on me and calls me a lesbo, so I can never say that to her. And the most annoying thing she does is she ALWAYS cancels on me! Here's what normally happens:
I invite her over for a sleepover 2 weeks before. She says yes, and we get all excited and start planning out our sleepover. I have to bend and negotiate with my parents for it to happen- usually something like double chores, a lot of begging, or etc. So for the two weeks we talk about it and whatever. Then the night of the sleepover, the phone rings, I pick it up, and she's on the other line. Here's what she says: "Hey. Uhm, I can't come." The excuses are normally: 'I'm tired.', 'I don't feel like it.' 'My stomach/head hurts.', 'My parents don't feel good.', 'I haven't seen my mom for two days.', or 'I have too much homework.' Something along those lines. Once it was something totally out of the blue--her dad broke his foot, so apparently she couldn't come over. This really wouldn't bother me, but it's just that it's happened more than once. Actually, WAY more than once. Maybe fifty or so times.
So I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to her about it, but she gets all upset, and she doesn't understand where I'm coming from. I really love my best friend, I've known her since 3rd grade, so I don't want to end our friendship. I really need help! I'm sorry that was so long.
Hey there :)
Well, you're probably not going to like my answer, but I'm going to tell you anyway. She is NOT a good best friend. A best friend is always there for you, doesn't make excuses, enjoys your company... and to be honest she doesn't even seem to want to be your best friend. I can't help but think you deserve a better best friend. My advice is don't beg her to go out, don't try and convince her... That's what probably annoys her even more =/ ... leave her alone, give her the cold shoulder and see her reaction. Sometimes people don't know what they have until it's gone, you seem like a great friend so there's no reason why she should be treating you this way. Good luck!
Flirty :)
when you need advice uaslly u get it from yourself but i dont know if i should get it from my heart or my mind my hearts telling me to stay but my minds telling me to go which one to follow
These are one of the questions that I and most people have a theory for. Your heart can be blind, your mind can be based of other people's ideas, and your gut, well is risky. So honestly there's no answer for this question. Personally, I analyze my situation and pick one. But when it comes to other people seeking advice, I relate and see what i did and how my situation got sorted out that way it won't come out bad for them (if it came out bad for me). In your question you say "my hearts telling me to stay but my minds telling me to go".. which sounds like it deals with another person or people... So just analyze your situation. Let's pretend you're in a abusive relationship and you KNOW it... but you dont know what to do. your heart says yes because it's being hurt, but your mind says no because it's telling you the consequences. In this case, follow your heart. you KNOW it's unhealthy and if you seek help from family friends and authorities, you'll be at peace. Good luck
Flirty =]
you know when you really like someone ?
but they dont feel the same way;
but then again you dont really know;
how do you find out.
i know it isnt love;
so dont think i am naive
but i want to grab this feeling and take the chances it is giving.
So to be honest; i could do with some advice to find out how he feels about me...
he is flirtatious with me and he doesnt know i like him so that may help drive your answer ?
Thankyouu. :)
xx
Hey =]
Umm I'd say definately flirt back, and ask him out. See what he says ;) ... He's probably just as timid about it as you are. Good luck :)
Flirty :) (how ironic) lol
Oka there this guy i like and i liked him for like 4 years. And he knows i like him and stuff, and i havent really talk to him during those times. There was a couple of times he flirted with me but that was awhile back. And i be tryin so hard to talk to him but im jsut to scard to because i dont know if he wants me to talk to him or what. And thats what scares me, so i deiced to just give up and forget about it. Cause i know i want be able to have the guts to talk to him, for one im shy, and its kinda wierd talking to a guy all of a sudden that you dont usaully talk to. Right now im in the stage of confusing. What do you do at this time when the guy you like knows you like him and he knows wassup, and you afraid of how he feels about it. Honstly i just want to know if he even feels the same way about me. And there were times he flirted with me but now it just stop. What does that mean.
Hey :)
Try keeping in contact with him. Drop a text message or IM and say hey whats up? He should at least respond. If you try a second time and he doesn't respond then just don't try. Don't throw yourself at him, it should be 50/50. If you wanna go out on a limb, just talk to him. Say something like "so... look i know you know i like you, and i was wondering what do you think?"... Sometimes guys like girls who are upfront about things... Good luck ;)
Flirty