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My arguing over nothing ...
Well I've been through things in the past that really effected me and the way I act . Stuff that messed up stuff in my head , definatly NOT mental . Like with my boyfriend , I get mad at EVERYTHiNG , like seriously . I'm so over sensitive and it's like if he trys to correct me i'm very aggresive & defensive .He says it pushes him away but always wants to work through it .. he's not asking to change me , just how I respond .. i'm VERY jealous to due to a past relationshiop.. please help & GOOD advice please .
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You are over sensitive because you lack self esteem or have very low self esteem. When your boyfriend corrects you, you feel that it's a personal attack because you feel the need to protect yourself and keep your ego intact. Basically, you are saying, "I am not wrong. If I'm wrong, I'm less of a person. How dare you tell me I'm, less of a person!" This also is evident in your jealousy. You could be jealous over another woman, but jealousy can also include any activity that takes your boyfriends attention away from you. You need attention and you need positive attention, only. You are needy, it's ego based and it's unhealthy.
Your boyfriend will not continue to support your needs forever. He will tire of it as a relationship needs two way interaction and the people in it need to be able to speak their minds regarding their partner. Ofcourse, in a healthy relationship partners do this in a respectful, sensitive way, but, they do it. If he needs to remain silent for fear of offending you, then he will bottle up all his emotions until he can't take it anymore and either explode or walk out.
You need to see a counselor to talk through any unresolved issues you have. Something tells me the issues you have go back to childhood.
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I know JUST how you feel.
Well, let's start off by saying you have a very good boyfriend if all he is asking is for this to change, and he's willing to stick by your side regardless. To change being overly sensitive and aggressive, try being in his shoes. Would you like it if everytime you tried helping your boyfriend, he'd snap at you? I say, give respect to get it back. It seems you have a very good man on your side, DON'T lose him to pitiful things like behavior problems ;) . As for jealousy, I have my own tactic but I'm not sure if it will work. What I do is think of myself. Think of the positive things about you. If you're attractive, have a good personality, lovable, then you should have no problem picking yourself up from a breakup if anything happens. Sometimes trusting blindly is hard, but boosting my ego helps. Especially if you believe it's true lol. If not, talk to him about what exactly gets you jealous, maybe he'll be nice enough to avoid the things. good luck :)
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