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Q: I missed my period, so at first i thought i was pregnant, but i took a pregnacy test last night. The result was negative. Are there other reasons that i could have missed my period? Or was the test just wrong?
I've looked up early signs of preganancy, and the only symptom i have, is not getting my period, so i really have no idea.
anything advice would be great.
thanks.
you might have taken it taken it to soon, try taking another one in a week and stress can also delay your period

Q: does anyone know any stores like hottopic?
you could try somewhat Zumiez or Pacsun.. they have some things close to what HotTopic has its like a goth punk store im sure if you live near a mall or something if go there im sure theres a store that has similar clothes to HotTipic

Q: Ok well I'm 13/f and I weigh around 165 pounds and I'm only 5"2. I don't look like I would weigh that much, but i do. So are there any ways for me to lose some weight? I really want to loose a few pounds before school starts up soon.

Thanks!
eating healthy, exercise daily thats really the only way to do it if you walk a mile each day and eat small portion meals a couple times a day with things like fruits and vegetables then thats good start you could ask your doctor or a die triton or even maybe your mom what you should be doing to lose a couple pounds

Q: i need to know how to make out
like the steps or whatever!!

Please
1. Keep your breath fresh and your lips soft at all times. You never know when you and the other person will cross paths and have the opportunity to kiss. Wear lip balm on a daily basis--no one wants to make out with dry lips. If you know you're going to be spending time with them, brush your teeth and bring some mints. Do not chew gum becuase it will increase siliva
2. Move slowly. The best way to prevent head-butting, elbowing, and clanking teeth is to do everything slowly, especially in the beginning and especially when you're changing positions. As time progresses, you can introduce more passionate kisses, but they can only be sustained for so long. Always return to a slow, comfortable pace.
3.
Make eye contact and smile. Pause every once in a while to meet your eyes with theirs and connect emotionally. This is also a good time to gently lean your forehead against theirs and put your hand on their face. Doing so reinforces an affectionate bond and can last anywhere from a few seconds to an hour. If your partner seems put off, they may be nervous, unsure of how to handle emotional intimacy, or they may not feel emotionally attached. If you're with someone you love, this is the best time to tell them that you love them.
4. Kiss the face and neck. Vary the kissing routine by moving away from their lips occasionally. Again, move slowly. If you move too quickly, they might not know what you're doing and next thing you know, your lips are crashing into their nose. Kiss the corner of their mouth gently, and make your away along their jawline. You can move up to their temple and forehead, or down to their neck. If you want to kiss their ear, don't peck--the kissing noise is quite loud and can leave a ringing in their ear!
5. Hug. Right after a forehead or neck kiss is a great time to wrap your arms around your partner and give them a warm, affectionate embrace. Like eye contact, hugging is an emotionally bonding act. Give both of your lips a rest, take a deep breath, and gently caress their back with the palm of your hand.
6. Stroke their hair. If your partner is a guy, run your fingers through his hair along the scalp from front to back, all the way down to their neck. If your partner is a lady, you can run your fingers down her hair, letting the strands run through your fingers. Keep in mind, however, that some hairstyles are not conducive to this. If they have their hair tied up or it's quite curly, your fingers might get trapped. Instead, run the tips of your fingers slowly along the top and around their ear, as if you're tucking a stray strand behind their ear.
7.
Talk. A little verbal communication will keep things interesting. It's not a good time to start a deep conversation. Just a small phrase in a soft voice will work (especially when accompanied by eye contact and a reassuring smile):




• "Are you comfortable?"

• "This is amazing."

• "Wow."
8. Lighten things up. This isn't the movies, where it's all perfect and passionate. You're both human, and there will be awkward moments here and there, no matter how many instructions you read. If anything awkward does happen, be quick to laugh with your partner and mend it with a hug or a kiss. A little bit of tickling here and there can also lighten the mood and make your time together not only intimate but also fun.


if you want tips and things i got all of this right off of this website

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Out

Q: I like the sweaters from american eagle and pacsun. They're not form fitting and when my little sister saw I was wearing one she basically told me I looked like a grandma or an old lady or something to that effect.

http://shop.pacsun.com/girls/sweaters-vests/Check-It-Out-Cardigan/index.pro

This is the one I have. I personally like the sweaters, but do they look old to you? I'm keeping it either way, haha. Just wanted an opinion.

paired with jeans, flats, and a long necklace
i think its cute, i like the pattern.

i think if it wasn't Volcom and it was plain like white or something then it would look like a "grandma sweater" lol otherwise its cute

Q: I love pets and stuff but i want to walk dogs and stuff groom and stuff like that but im 14 and short so noone thinks i can handle it when i can handle it because i have 4 german shepherds please help
i agree put fliers up, also if you have neighbors with dogs just try asking if they need there dog
walked and if they don't think you can handle it tell them about your dogs and how your looking for some extra money and stuff.. you just got to get out there thats the only way to do it


goodluck

Q: "try making the first move
you you have a guy in mind .. .drop hits to him that your interested and even flirt a bit and see what happens.. if nothing does he may like you but be to shy, a lot of guys are shy, so try making the first move and see how it goes from there."

WELLLLL. i dont wanna come off as flirty. im not like that . i actually am a humble person =/

[who happens to have tastes in boys lol]
okay well, if nobody is making a move
and you wont put in any effort to make a move...
then i guess you will have to live your life thinking what could have been

Q: guys have asked me out,just not great looking ones.
WHY DOES THAT HAPPEN! i know im not the onlyone im sure pretty girls get asked out by really ugly guys no offense.
i hate it. they say im a pretty girl but how come the guys i like NEVER LIKE ME. or liike the cute ones neevr ask me out. i think i AM a little attractive thouh but when will a cute guy ask me out!

what should i do?>
try making the first move
you you have a guy in mind .. .drop hits to him that your interested and even flirt a bit and see what happens.. if nothing does he may like you but be to shy, a lot of guys are shy, so try making the first move and see how it goes from there

Q: wats the diff between race and ethnicity and nationality?
race- is what you are like the human race.. the animal race..

ethnicity- is where you decend from.. like are you asian.. hispanic... mexican... british.. native american.. ext


nationality- is like your loyalty and relation to your country like citizenship

Q: Earlier tonight, my boyfriend and I had protected sex with a spermicidal condom. When he was about to c**, he pulled out. But the condom was still in me and there were a few sperm inside the condom. He said that the sperm leaked out onto the bed. I don't know if the sperm was near my vagina or not. But i quickly went into the restroom and cleaned inside.

My question is there a possibility I can be pregnat?
there could be a possibility but most likely your not since you used a spermicidal condom .. if you dont get your period wait a week and take a pregnancy test that really the only way to know

Q: How likely is pregnancy from precum?
it can only be likely if the guy has masturbated earlier that day, and if he has urinated after then its less likely also.. precum is just the bodys way of getting rid of anything in the shaft before ejaculation witch is mostly urine and if the guy has masturbated recently, then sperm .. chances are low but its still possible

Q: ok me and my bf got into a little fight but were all better now. but now he wants to give me oral to make up for pissing me off...i want to but idk how ike wat do i do while hes...ya..eating me lol i need serious help and he wants to do it tommorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
all you really need to do is lay there and enjoy it but i sometimes run my fingers threw my boyfriends hair when he is doing that hah, you could try that

Q: Okay, so I don't have a boyfriend nor do I want one, but I want to lose my virginity anyway. Please, don't tell me wait until you're with the one that you love, because I really don't want to.

I don't have any guys that I'm hooking up with at the moment, but I was hooking up with two guys, let's call them N and C, the other night. They all left for basic training. I'm tired of highschool boys (I'm almost a senior in highschool) all of the ones that I know are too immature for me.

Anyway, six months from now one of the guys N (the guy that I really want to do) that I was hooking up is going to be back. I got the other guy C (who I like more as a friend) to give him my address, and we're going to meet up and try things again. I really want to have sex with N, but... I'm really tight.

I know this because C couldn't get it in. Any ideas for becoming a little bit looser? That way, I won't have any problems in the future?
well to get looser, the only thing you can do is really masturbate more.. and when you do have sex try using a lot of lube, and it will probably hurt but it will get a lot better the more you do it..

Q: 15/f
Im 15 and im a virgin, im guessing thats a good thing? I have only had one boyfriend and we broke up we have only kissed and thats all, and sometimes I fantasize about having sex with him when I get urges. Im no longer going out with him but I stil Fantasize. Im wondering if thats normal and if its weird or what? please give me some good advice!
its normal, everybody does it from time to time.. the thing about fantasizing is only you no whats going on and who its with so theres no harm in it lol

Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and we had a baby boy 2months ago... he really wants me to marry him and move in with him i really think im ready and i know i could handle it i jus dont know how to convince my mom that im mature enough
well i think that since you already have had a kid... then well you should be allowed to get married... unless your like under 18 then maybe you should just wait till you are but if your older then 18 then.. she really has no say in if you get married or not

Q: 15/f
Hi I found out about 3 years ago that my friends parents parents both smoke weed. They dont do it around me or my friend they do it in there room, so were not around it, and they both are good parents, they both work and have a house of there own and there very responsible people, and I still have that thought in my mind that they both do it, and my my friends mom knnows I know about it and she tells me not to talk about it. what should my friend jasmin do?
don't say anything, listen to her if there good people and responsible and the child isnt getting hurt then there is no need for you to step in.. mind your business, weed isnt a major drug and more then half the US population do it.. so just leave it alone unless there using more drugs then that and the child is being treated badly

Q: So i had sex with my boyfriend, we couldn't kiss because he had a cold sore and we didnt want to risk the chances of me getting a cold sore. I went onto the interent and then it says cold sores are actually a type of herpes, like herpes simplex or something!! and we had sex but with a condom, i hear stories that i could get herpes even though he got a cold sore on his mouth and we didnt kiss. apparently herpes can be passed to another person just by the gentials touching! but he had no sores there on his penis! so am i infected?
it was a cold sore.. genital herpes and cold sores are too diffrent things, your fine, hes fine but if your absolutely scared.. see a doctor

Q: whats a site youve used that works THAT CAN SEND ME FREE SAMPLES of anything? like random.. or just anything. please list all that apply. thanks =]]]]
i know of one site...
www.trojancondoms.com



haha they send you free condoms

Q: i had a dream yesterday that i was pinned down having sex with a boy and woke up humping my bed. I didn't know that dreams can take affect in real life, but that was really upsetting.

janie93

if these are normal, how do i cope with it?
its normal, you where just horny you no how guys can have wet dreams.... well it happens to girls to lol

to cope with it well, there isnt much you can really do you were just horny try masturbating before bed to get it out of your system hah thats all i can thin of that could help

Q: ok so this year my school is starting a rotational schedule and so everyone has the same lunch period at the same time. and so i have one group of friends of ~ 6 people and then my other best friend who is not part of that clique -- she has her own circle of friends.

i want to sit with both groups but both sides are assuming i'll sit with them, and idk who to sit with! last year i sat with the group of 6 because my other bff didn't have lunch the same period as me.

honestly, i wanted to sit in a classroom and do homework during lunch after i ate with my other bff but i still need someone to sit with during actual lunch if i choose not to do homework one day.

sitting with the group of 6:
- PRO: i'd be in on the gossip (i wouldn't "fall" out of the circle)
- CON: i can't sit with my bff and i don't want to lose her as a friend

sitting with my bff:
- PRO: i get to see her cause i love her and she might do homework with me!
- CON: i might start falling out of the circle / the circle might get mad.

i know in the end it's upto me, and please don't say "one person vs. six" cause she has helped me more than those six people have combined.. i don't think i can sit with both cause my bff is friends with only one person in my circle.

(1) what do you think i should do?
(2) do you think i could possibly sit with both the girl and my group, encouraging that she talks to both me and the only other person that she's friends with in my circle?
well, why dont you rotate you know.. sit with her one day and the other group the next or try to get her to sit whit you and your 6 friends once in awhile or try to get both groups combined once or something

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