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Q: What are the requirements for being a Level 1 Moderator. I can't find them. I was one, once. But then my computer didn't work for a like 2 weeks so I wasn't one anymore. So..can you give me a link to the page? Thanks ;)

How do you get to be a level I moderator?

You must meet these qualifications:
You've been rated five times
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You joined one month ago
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You've updated your column in the last week

Hope I helped!

Q: I live in this small town and everyone is all in everyone's buisness(well the adults are). Anyway, I have big dreams and I really like to accomplish those things. I'm a little smart and people seem to detest me at my school because, I don't get on my hands and knees to try to please them. I have a rule for myself and that rule is to trust my instincts and I really stick to that rule at times. I'm content with who I am , and I am independent . Last year I was friends with a guy and he had a girlfriend . He told me the most ridiculous things about his family, and the thing is that I always stuck with it (although I am in doubt). I support my friends. Last year, I liked this guy, and we used to look at each other and court other people to make each other jealous, but he did that the most. He became popular and became a jock and all, and he's really good at manipulating situations, I guess because we both play chess . Anyways, he goes with another girl and when I saw them together, it stung . It hurt and there's days that I feel as if I'm over him . Recently , I've been wearing make-up and that friend with the most ridiculous things to say- says I needed to take it off but others just stared and gawked at me . Everywhere I went eyes followed and the guy I like looks at me just when I have my head turned . I saw him do this in a mirror . I need tips on how to get over this dude, and why people don't like me . I'm not stuck up. Also, why's my guyfriend acting like a jerk towards me and why can't he be happy for me ? He has a girlfriend . My friend said it was because, he couldn't keep his eyes off of me . Should I stop the make-up thing to save our relationship ? Well, thanks and by .

What! He(your friend) should NOT be mad at you because you are wearing makeup. You can do what you want, and if wearing makeup boosts your confindence or you do it for whatever. Keep wearing it. Its your face, your life, your makeup! Only way to get rid of liking guys is time. Give it a few months and you'll be over him and the new guy you like will be John Smith:) If you know what I mean.

Q: how do u make that hair style with your hairthat makes it curly ands scrunched? if anyone knows what i mean can u tell me how to do it>?

much love!

Okay after the shower, wait like 10 minutes and apply lots and lots of moose onto your hair. Grab your hair, and make a fist..do that all over your hair..and then put hair spray/gel to hold it..and when it drys its beautiful and curly!

Q: How long does a pro baseball game usually last ?

a hour, hour 1/2...maybe 2..depends

Q: okay i went to this dance last night and was dancin a lot. I danced witha kidd who was a sophomore (i'm a junior) and well he was really hott!! omg we liked dance to 3 songs and we even danced to my fave song "ice ice baby" by vanilla ice!! then my friend and i met up with this guy and his friend and well let's just say his friend had acne problems and bad breath!! he gave me his sn!! he's a kewl kidd and someone i would definitely wanna hang out with but i told my friend to get me the kidd i danced with to 3 songs sn!! is their a possibility 4 a friendship or romance in these situations??

signed,
-VaNiLLa IcE GiRL-

Well since you liked the guy that you danced with so much, get his number, sn, or whatever. Their is always a possibility for a realtionship. So good luck!

Q: okayy i usually wearr likee a shirrtt with my boobs hanging out and my stomach showing.. or a shorrt skirt with a shirt that pretty much coverrs my stomach with my boobs poping out .. is that wrong should i lett guyss havee to wonderr and like wunt to find out whats under it all .. or is it better to keep dressing like ido

Well if your chubby, thats gross. I know people that dress like that and their chubby so its nasty. But if your skinny, and you wanna show it off..why not? But it might send off the wrong messages to guys.

Q: Hi. I dont know if this is the right subject for this but o well. Neways, I am allergic to cats but i was around one today and instead of sneezing and stuff I break out really bad around my eye. Now my upper eyelid and a lil below my eye is really bumpy. I have a meeting with someone later tonight and I need to do something about it. I REALLY dont want to cancel but I might have to. Please help me n tell me what I should do. Thanx.

ok well try to cover it up with makeup...just for tonight! then tomorrow get pimple cream stuff.hope i helped

Q: Does anyone know of a website where you can read books online or of any website where I can purchase the book, "Once Upon A Castle" by Nora Roberts . Besides Amazon . com . Thanks soo much .

Try searching the book at www.cliffsnotes.com

Q: I have this friend that i went to school with last year and now that we've moved on to meet new people in the school year, this girl started to get her into business that she doesnt need to be in. now alot of my new friends cant stand her and i think shes okay, but i tell my friends that she is still my friend no matter what they say. i think they are a little uneasy about that mostly because they are scared to lose a friend or something. not they they dont trust me or anything.
Please help me with what to do. Thanks!

Just talk to your friend and be like "Sometimes you do this and this..and my other friends get mad" or something...but tell her you still wanna be her friend and all..hope i helped..and your friends shouldent care but sure!

Q: Ive never smoked weed and I dont plan to.. but why do people do it ? Like what happens when you get high .. whats so good about it ?

I've never tried it but I heard it relaxes you, and you dont think about nothing like your problems and stuff..so yea..i dont do it though cuz hugs not drugs! haha

Q: I really dont know what category to put this under but anyway.... i started my period in July and my boobs aren't big! I mean i atleast want them to be a size B!! I am 13 years old! But do you think they will grow? **help**
P.S.-I rate high! ;)

Of course they'll grow.Your only 13..you have many many years for them to grow. Just be patient. And if you see other 13 yr olds with C's and stuff that just means their developing faster. Dont worry you'll get boobs you just gotta wait.

Q: Ok...my friend Abby has major problems. She's always telling everyone shes fat when shes only 100 pounds!! We are 13 and also she used to cut herself. She passed herself out in the shower and she got a big bruise on her back. Her mom is always in jail for doing drugs and her mom had a mixed baby! Abby lives with her grandparents... and they dont take her seriously when she says that shes Depressed. I tell my mom everything she tells me and my mom is really trying to help her and my mom even looked up people to help her...do you think we are doing the right thing by helping her? or should we let her deal with her parents? please help my friend! i will apprecaite it soo much!

ey you are doing the right thing. Because her grandparents wont believe her, and her mom is not there for her. You are a true friend and I bet she loves you so much. So keep trying to help since know one else cares.

Q: Uh well I was on advicenators setting and I really want to know how do I get the settings to work like /img/bg/bg1 88.jpg to show up on my advice column . I read the instructions and all, but I had got confused and all . Can you translate what they mean and how to use the settings . Thanks. If this'll help I only have a monitor, modem, mouse, and e.t.c. I hope I was specific . My advice column name is Courtney . Thankyou soo much for helping me .

I dont really understand your question. But like, on your profile settings..to get a pic up it has to be a certain size and can only be jpeg or jpg so if its too big, or not one of those images.. it wont work. Sorry i didnt help but your question was confusing. So ask again with a lil more detail and I'll try to answer again!

Q: do u know any kind of site that i can use to post my poetry besides poetry.com?? -thx for all who help

go to http://www.postpoems.com/ -your own free poetry portfolio online

Q: ok my homecoming is october 30th. i have a few questions. can anyone tell me a really good selftannig product because its told cold here to go tanning naturally and my mom wont let me go to a tanning bed. so that is my 1st question. my second one is can anyone give me a specific site for hairstyles for homecoming. and my 3rd and last question is what kind of dress should i get what colro and were (things like that for the dress) thank you guys so much! and i rate if it helps!

Whatever you do dont wear pink..everyone and their mom is wearing it now. Get that Neutragena self tanner those work great. But for a site for hairstyles...i dont know. sorry.

Q: ok i just saw my boyfriend last night and i wont be able to see him til next friday if that an i really wanna go to his football game!! on friday night but im not sure if he wants me to go i mean his cousin asked if he wanted us to go and she said no he didnt but then she dont rly wanna but i miss him soo much!! last night i was with him for like 5-5 1/2 hours and it was grreat and i just really wanna be with him bcz we dont go to the same schools...what should i do and or how should i ask him ...its not as easy as it sounds..
signed,
MiSSiN HiM

Well if you guys miss eachother, then go! Why would he want his girlfriend not to come? I dont think you even have to ask, just go.

Q: ok...my best friend Bethany gets really annoying sometimes and she always makes up lies to make her life sound cool and exciting. She told everyone that shes smoked weed...and she hasnt. and she told everyone that she's not a virgin, and she is. and she just get's really annoying and i get mad at her easily cuz it bothers me and i jus say whatever comes to my mind and most of the time, its not very nice. and i wanna be friendz cuz shez awesum and i love her, shes muh bestest friend ever, but if i keep sayin wut comes to mind, i*ll lose her. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

You should talk to her and say that lying about stuff she does, doesnt make her popular. people might think she's a slut or something. yea you get attention if people think your not a virgin, but not the attention you want.

Q: This guy told me he likes me. And i like him too. he hasnt asked me out but do you think he will? if he doesnt should i ask him out? i dont ask guys out but is that a good or bad idea. or should i ask him why he hasnt asked me out? help

**~rachel~**

It depends on who you ask if its bad asking guys out. Personally, I think if the guy hasint done anything that you have to do it yourself. So ask him out, whats it gonna hurt? He said he liked you...so go ahead and do it. Good luck. Anything else?? Just ask me!

Q: k i did sumthin w/ my bf be4 my mom found out she doesnt trust me and im working on regaining my trust becuz then ill actually be able to hang out w. ppl and maybe me and my bf will go bak out. (we broke up becuz i was grounded for a really long time..so we just r kinda taken a break u cud say and i wanna prove to him i can hang out again cuz i really like him...) anyway, today in skool there is this lil place and we hooked up. just made out. of course with my luck a teacher came in and i went to the principals. shes like, "i hear about ur little inappropriate incident" etc and "if this happens again your parents will hear from me." i was relieved that she wouldnt call them that day..but this is the bad part: tommorow is a day at my school and my mom is coming to work at a certain part of it. its a homecoming/pep rally type thing. so the principal will be there and i AM DEAD becuz i bet she will tell my mom and dad if she sees them. that is NOT GOOD. cuz 1st of all my dad is coming to visit becuz he is working in a diff state from our house and i dont want to get in trouble again. i am so afraid she'll tel...help me.

dont worry! if the principle wanted to tell she'd tell at the time it happened. So yea they might have small talk but I'm sure she wont say anything about you and your x.

Q: If anyone has any personal expiereinces with this, that be great!
Anyway, there's a few guys in my school who i talk to and we're regular friends. But, they sometimes say things to me and i dont know how to respond. They say likie, "hey can I get with you?" "ooh ur so beautiful" and " i give you 9 out of 10" I want to flirt back, but i dont want to make a fool of myself. I know theyre kidding, and flirting, but how can i do the same without blushing, or saying something stupid?Because thats what i usually do. I just sit there and laugh. Does anyone have any lines or things to say back to them??