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i have a really bad cold and have been blowing my nose constantly. now my nose is really red. i was wondering what to put on it to make it go back to normal color

Neosporine (sp?) before you go to bed, scentless moisturizing lotion during the day (such as Aveeno for dry skin). If you don't have either of those, vaseline or cocoa butter should work.

~Maria, 17

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What are some good ways to masturbate

17/f

www.solotouch.com

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14/F
alright, I belive a woman should only have hair on her head. when I shave I can't get the whole place cause i'm terrified of cutting my vag. ligitimate fear though.
So I would like to wax, but I'm afraid it will hurt. And I don't know where to buy any waxing kits and what would be usable on my vagina.
So, can you tell me where I can get some. Over the counter please! Or tell me how to shave near the labia er whatever.
Please, I'm begging !

You can use Nair.

http://naircare.com/products/products_bodywaxstrips.aspx

http://naircare.com/products/products_rollonwax.aspx

http://naircare.com/products/products_bikinicream.aspx

http://naircare.com/products/products_facewaxstrips.aspx


You can also buy razors made especially for the bikini area. The smaller the blade and the handle the better.

~Maria, 17

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Ok, as you all know, summer's coming up. During the summer, i'm going to Florida with my dad, so we'll be at the beach 24/7 of course ha ha. Ok, I'm getting my haircut soon and I want a punkish short bed-head look. About the length of my shoulders, and layered ALL OVER. And I cute layered side fringe that covers a bit of my eye. My face it round/oval so I think it will work. Question: I have NO IDEA how to explain it to my hair dresser, so can anyone find any pics? I've looked everywhere, but I can't find one. I straighten my hair too so it must be straightened :] I want the ends of my hair to look like this too ------> WWWWWWW
All zig zag and such. Thanks SO much!

You know, as you described it, I got a pretty vivid picture in my head (and I'm completely hair retarded). Hair dressers are pretty used to getting unique requests, so I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem.

Pictures (although they are only resemblances of what I imagine you want your hair to look like, you can print and take them all to your hairdresser and point out the part that you want in each hairstyle):

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv670%2Ftruckdriver_in_pink%2FNew%2520Hair%2Fhair.jpg&searchTerm=new%20hair&pageOffset=2

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi272.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fjj167%2FTwinkle_little_star_5667%2Fhair.jpg&searchTerm=hair&pageOffset=2

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi194.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fz124%2Famanda_june9%2Fhair.jpg&searchTerm=hair&pageOffset=3

http://www.hairuwear.com/ProdImages/Layered-Straight-PIP_03.jpg

http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b342/ix3biliejoe/m_e6e7c78ee24f4c83f9fd2ac286710456.jpg


~Maria, 17

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ok..i skipped a period and i'm not sexually active.what is up with that? i do't know what it is supposed to mean, it is kidna weird. Can anyone tell me what is wrong or what is up? thanks in advance!!

I just wanted to add to YoungGrandma's great answer: I don't know your age or when you got your period, but the first couple of years after you start menstruating its pretty normal to skip a period. And again, stress, change in diet, change in weight, and medication can make your period weird.

~Maria, 17

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when you massage someone's penis through their pants? enough to make them cum. so, basically like... grabbing their penis, through their pants. haha. is there a name for that?

Fondling I would guess. Lol. Or a dry hand job. I really have no idea. Just some guesses.

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I am 13, I am in 6th grade, so here is the question: If a girl bumps into me, and stays touching me, does that mean she likes you? We were walking into class, and she bumped into me and kept touching me until we got into the class room. Our shoulders/upper arms were touching each other until we got into the class room. Also, if a girl bumps into me often, does that mean she likes me?

I would imagine she does.

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im doing a report on Jia Li Jiang, the main character in that book. I have to draw a picture of her a long with the report, but I have no idea what Jia Li would look like.. are there any like images that show how the character was supposed to look or any images that you think would reflect how Jia Li would look? or if you really cant find a picture of a 12 year old girl from the chinese cultural revolution, then just explain to me what she'd look like cause i have no idea. include ideas for clothing as well. thanks a bunch :)

Supposedly what she looked like:
http://www.tuvy.com/resource/books/r/red_scarf_girl.jpg

Some ideas of what her clothes might have looked like:
http://www.shanghaisherry.com/uploaded_images/scan(2)-787394.jpg
http://www.ljhammond.com/essays/images/family.jpg

I would personally draw her in a simple blouse with the red scarf and some plain black straight let pants.

~Maria, 17

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I'm writing an essay and I need to write about three times that I've completely just turned my life around or changed it, and what i got so far is pretty much 1) when i went from being a straight A student and loving school to hating it and skipping school 2) when i realized my friends were bullies and decided to totally change my friends circle

i need to write about these times in a way to make it sound funny, do you have any tips? I want it to be really lough out loud funny! maybe even a bit sarcastic.

Well, what I found, is when someone tries to be funny, they're usually not.

Some tips?

When you're writing, laugh at yourself. When you are able to laugh at yourself, people will feel more comfortable laughing with you especially on such a touchy subject as a life change. Let the reader know how silly you were for not realizing your friends are bullies, for example.

Be sarcastic. Blow things out of proportion.

Write your essay as if you were telling your story to a friend. Don't be too formal.

Stay true to the topic. Don't get carried away, this is an essay after all.

Let loose and have fun with it.

~Maria, 17

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okay so i have pretty white teeth and i brush them 2 times a day and like my left top front tooth has become extremely sensitive to like cold things i may drink to the point were it kinda hurts.. but my teeth are like not gross or anything so does anyone no what might be the problem?

Just that one tooth became sensitive all of a sudden? That's iffy and does NOT sound normal. I'm not a dentist, but you could have your tooth rotting from the inside, for example you could have a cavity in your tooth in the part that is touching another tooth (so you can't really see it).

Do you floss? Are your gums sensitive? Do your gums bleed easily? Does it hurt to put pressure on that tooth?

I would go see a dentist about it, but before you do that, try changing your toothpaste to one especially designed for sensitive teeth and see if that helps.

~Maria, 17

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I have my period during a big dance! So like where do i put everything? I'm not wearing boots so i can't put it in there. I can't bring a purse because that would be tacky. SO WHERE DO I PUT IT?!

Wear a tampon and pad. Bring some extra tampons and ask a friend to carry them for you if she has pockets or a purse. Usually at dances there is a place where you can put your stuff while you are dancing, like a cubby or something. That way you can go to the dance with a purse without having to dance with it.

~Maria, 16

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but can any harm come from rolling up pieces of paper, lighting it at the end, and smoking it?

my friend and i have been doing it for a few days and i looked it up on the internet and found nothing and i really dont want to die from something stupid like that.

so pleaaaase tell me if something bad can come from that?

Well you're inhaling a whole bunch of soot and smoke by doing that, and because those pieces of paper have no filters I would say your lungs are gonna get damaged much faster than cigarettes.

Don't do it. Its stupid. You're going to have trouble breathing before too long.

~Maria, 16

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i asked my mom if she could take me to my boyfriends house, and she said no so i started to flip out at her. so i called my boyfriend and said sorry i cant getta ride there. and he said why so i explained to him what my mom said. and then my mom grabbed the portable outta my hand and threw it out the window. then she said "give me your cell phone" i threw a fit and ran upstairs and locked my door and texted my boyfriend saying "my moms going physco, shes taking my cell away, ily" and then i went to my bed to 'fake cry' "dont take my cell away stop it!" and she knocked my door down, and started crying "laura, i cant tell you why, but i need your cell phone, i cant tell you, ou wouldnt understand, i cant tell you, im sorry" and she started sobbing on me andi started crying on her, so i took my battery out i was like fine.. here. and she was liek "i need the whole phone!" andi threw another fit and she just left with half of my phone... does anyone have any idea whats going on? my mom never asks me for anything and she always gives me what i want.. but whats happening!???

Give her the phone. She is probably the one paying for it, and as much as it sucks, she has every right to take it away.

It seems pretty important for her to take your phone, and I don't know why because I have no idea who you, your mom, or your boyfriend are. I would just give it to her. Right down some important phone numbers if you must, but give it to her. (If your mom knocked down your door it must have been pretty darn important to her). You'll live without your phone: worse comes to worst, you'll be using the house phone or a friend's phone.

~Maria, 16

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Hello. This is LM, and this time I'm the one who needs advice! Anyways, I recently got my permit. I went through driver's ed, I'm doing driving school in a couple months, etc. etc.

I know the rules of the road, I don't speed, things like that. I went on the highway for the first time today, got off at the first exit, and ended up in rush hour traffic (well, for a small town we have a LOT of cars, haha) and to put it bluntly, I freaked out. I didn't lose control of the car, so I know I as doing okay. Is there any way I can reduce my anxiety/nervousness about driving? Tips from experienced drivers, or actually anyone who drives legally, will help me out more than you can imagine.

Thanks in advance! ♥

I've been behind the wheel for a year and a half now, and I was pretty scared starting out, too.

Have a trusted adult with you when possible. Someone who won't freak out, and if something does happen, will be able to handle the situation calmly.

Always know the exact directions to wherever you're going.

Similarly, know the rules of the streets. For example, which streets are "one way" streets, which lanes are for turns

Change lanes ahead of time. (and always do S.M.O.G. Signal, check in Mirror, look Over shoulder, Go)

If you are really nervous, put on some music. Do this before you start driving, and once you do, no changing channels or skipping songs!! Keep both hands on the wheel. Have the music play softly so you won't get distracted.

Glance at the rear-view and side-view mirrors every 5 to 8 seconds. Knowing what's going on around you can put you more at ease.

Don't let bad drivers get to you. If someone is tail gaiting you switch lanes and let them pass. Keeping other drivers happy will make you more happy thus more comfortable.

Drivers will honk at you from behind once in a while. The first time this happened to me, my instinct was to GO, and unfortunately, I did, and almost ran over a person that the honking driver behind me didn't see. So if someone honks at you, ignore it.

Same thing with passengers, never trust them. If they tell you "Its safe to go now," or something along those lines, check for yourself.

Your nervousness should stop though as you get more accustomed to driving. If you feel like your nervousness is taking over your ability to drive, pull over, turn off the car, and take a couple deep breaths to calm down.

~Maria, 16

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female.
so my dischage smells really bad. and i get a lot of it when im not on my period. it sucks its like having a sec. period. well i was wearing tampons with it but people said that was a bad idea. and i cant stand pads. and they dont work well with thongs. so i didnt wear anything today bc yesterday i had little discharge well today i could smell it really bad. can other people smell it? i heard that only you can unless your really close to other people. something with the body. like you smell it because the body knows its coming from it or something?
thanks in advance

Well, unless they are really sniffing, I doubt they can smell it.

But discharge isn't supposed to smell as bad as you describe. You might have some sort of infection (like a yeast infection, which is pretty common and nothing to worry about with the right treatment). I would schedule an appointment with your doctor. Don't be embarrassed about anything, their doctors and are there to help you.

You can also buy panty-liners made especially for thongs.

~Maria, 16

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13/f
okay i want to be in swimming [at school] but theres a problem... :
what happens when im on my period?
im not aloud to use tampons
and i started my very first period one week ago so im not regular and its still to early to use a tampon
so idk what to do
help??

The water DOES NOT stop the flow. (I'm a swimmer so I would know). And swimming without a tampon is a bit unethical (how would you feel swimming in someone's menstrual blood?). A pad would do very little, if anything at all.

I would talk to whoever isn't allowing you to wear a tampon. Tell her (I'm going to assume its your mom) that you will wear it only for swimming. If she still doesn't let you, here are some good arguments:

-I can't skip swimming when I'm on my period, because not coming to practice for four days straight will cause me to get out of shape, and it takes about a week to get back in shape, so this whole swimming process (which is good for me) would be completely pointless.

-Tampons aren't harmful: if you use them according to the instructions in the box the risk of getting TSS is very low.

-Tampons are much more comfortable then pads

-Exercise helps periods to be more bearable, so it is best that I swim during my period which means wearing a tampon because I can't swim with a pad on (It will be very noticeable and it will offer no barrier from the blood leaking into the pool)


~Maria, 16

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ok well im
16-f

school dance in a few weeks
im about 5\\\'7\\\" so about average height and i have middle tone skin.

here are some pictures of me and my hair/face to help maybe....
well since these stupid links wont work no matter what i do you have to add b 4 2 (no spaces)in between albums & car_chick
http://s16.photobucket.com/albums//Car_Chick/?action=view¤t=106_6152.jpg

http://s16.photobucket.com/albums//Car_Chick/?action=view¤t=106_6169.jpg

http://s16.photobucket.com/albums//Car_Chick/?action=view¤t=106_6160.jpg


i need help picking out dress colors and length or w/e just need pictures of dresses to go by or something...

and need hair ideas please help!!

I would say light pink, blue, peach, or yellow would look great on you. As for length, right at the knee.

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=294175&CategoryID=26692&LinkType=EverGreen
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=294156&CategoryID=26682&LinkType=EverGreen
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=272647&CategoryID=26682
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=257147&CategoryID=26682&LinkType=EverGreen
http://www.edressme.com/4584p.html
http://www.edressme.com/223452.html
http://www.edressme.com/13650-v.html

~Maria, 16

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Okay so i accidentally left a half of a plastic bottle of milk in my locker... its liek a milk chug thing

its been in there since thursday and it wont come out till tuesday.... will it like start to mold and will like the stench seep out of my locker or will like (since its sealed shut) nothing happen if i dont open the container

It's sealed and it's plastic. Nothing will happen to it. Even if you open it I doubt that it will smell. Don't worry about it. Just make sure that you throw it away so someone doesn't drink it by accident.

~Maria, 16

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my breasts have gotten a large amount of like
stretch marks on them
and i haven't even gained weight or anything
and i've been growing pretty steadily
why do i have this?
i hate it so muchhh!

I assume by growing you mean getting taller, so your skin must be stretching. And because breasts stand out from the rest of the body, the skin stretches the most on the breast.

Cocoa butter works very well to clear up stretch marks. I know from first hand experience. It won't go away overnight, but it will help heal them.

~Maria, 16

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everytime i get out of the shower my hair is really tangled and is hard to brush what can i do

Brush your hair while its dry before you shower. When you shampoo, squeeze the shampoo into your hair, basically don't rub it in, just squeeze it in with your hands. Its supposed to make funny noises as you squeeze it because of the suds. The idea is to not create any tangles. Also avoid folding your hair on top of your head (if you know what I mean) and lathering that way.

Of course, you tons of conditioner, the thicker the consistency of it the better. I recommend Pantene or Herbal Essence. Brush the conditioner through your hair with your fingers, adding more conditioner to any knots that you feel. Again, avoid folding your hair on top of your head.

When you towel dry, squeeze your hair, don't rub the towel through your hair. Basically blotch your hair.

Dry hair is also easier to brush than wet or damp hair.

~Maria, 16

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