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i heard whispers sometimes..even when im alone and it really freaks me out:( what do i do?
OMG the same happens to me! One night I swear to God I heard somebody laugh in my ear but everybody was asleep. When I was young I was really scared and I don't know how old you are but to this day when I get a bit scared I still say what my mother told me to "spirits leave me alone only protect me like your supposed to" i still say it. My mother also told me if they're calling your name do not answer it out loud. In your mind is ok but not out loud. Sometimes I find it helpful to sleep with a night light on if the whispers get too much for you because everbody feels more at ease when they can see everything, Hope this helps!!xx
My skin used to be beautiful, it was flawless and I had a nice glowing olive skin. I was also really skinny, my nanny used to call me a stick because of it. After my 12th birthday I started my period and therefore had breakouts. I wasn't bothered at first because they weren't really bad and mum said it was normal. Then, for about a year, I noticed scars and marks from the spots I had. I dont pick on them but still they scar, so now I have scars on my face, back and chest. I also gained weight, thought it was normal, until I noticed that my bum and thighs are getting bigger, and not only that, I had stretchmarks! It's not that im really fat or anything, Im 5"1 and 8stone and i have stretchmarks. And then, last year i had chickenpox and every single blister turned to scars, now i have scars all over my body! Im really self conscious now and dont wear shorts and skirts without tights, I dont wear bikinis anymore too, and were goin on a summer holiday in asia, its stupid wearing jeans on the beach where its really hot. I think I may have really bad skin collagen structure or something that makes my skin scar more easily. Im so worried its gonna stay forever. Its affecting my self confidence.
I don't know too much on this but I can try to help you, it could be that your skin is highly sensitive and since you started your period your hormones are going haywire. What you have desrcibed here seems to be mainly about your skin. It would be best to see a dermatoligist about your skin and see if they could help. Try drinking lots of water to help with the cell renewal of your skin when you gets spots or cuts. You could also start trying bio oil or cocoa butter to help reduce the size or amount on your body if your really dont like them. As for your weight your a healthy weight so there's no problem there your just bigger than you were before. Your period could be casuing these problems and for some what you eat on your period can be a problem for your body. What i recommend is drinking plenty of water and creaming your skin everyday with cocoa butter or bio oil, then make and appointment with your docotor and explain whats happening and see a dermatologist to help with your skin problems. As for your self esteem you really shouldn't worry too much. Your really young and don't need to conform to society of really flawless skin because nobody is perfect. I have bruises everywhere but I just think to myself it's nothing abnormal so what do i have to worry about? Just try to be comfortable with yourself and not worry about other people Inbox me later if you need more help, Hope this helps xx
i want to die
Im really sorry to hear about your mother. But wanting to die isn't really going to help. It's going to be hard getting over your mother because i'm guessing you were very close. I don't know how old you are but i'm guessing your quite young. You have a lot to live for and need to experience the rest of your life. You mother may not be here in person but she'll be there in spirit. She would want you to continue your life, happily and do everything you would as if she were around. If it helps try and get a counceller to help with your grief it can really help my friend goes to counselling and she tells me she feels better after she goes because she can let stuff out. If it helps because it does with me try remembering why you loved your mum and just remember all the good times you had and be glad you were on good terms before she passed. You have to be brave if you want to move on its difficult but its not impossible. Inbox me if you need to talk some more. Im sorry again to hear about your mother, xxx
i'm 18. how can i get birth control pills without my parents knowing? I know since I'm 18 i can just do it but i don't want the bills to come to my house and stuff cause i live with my parents. and how much is it and stuff?
You could go to your local sex clinic and get some contraceptives but I don't think you have to pay for it you get it free on the nhs just like you do with condoms. I think if you consult your gp about it you can have a talk and be told which ones are best for you and then you might just have to pick up a prescription, that's what most of my friends do at the moment, i've never really known any of them to pay for it. Hope this helps!!xx
My skin scars very easily
That isn't really a question, but I guess your wondering why and how to get rid of them? The only reason for why that i can think of is that your skin is really sensitive. By using Bio-oil it can help reduce the scars or completely get rid of them. This happens to a lot of people and even if the scar doesn't go away after using bio-oil or cocoa butter then it could be an internal problem like your not drinking enough water for the cell renewal process.taking a multivitamin with vit-c(ascorbic acid)can help the healing process. If you smoke or drink then cut that out. Try this for a week, and drink 8-10 glasses of water a day. Hope this helps!!xx
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everyone cant stop going on about 2012! its scaring me, they say world will end. because all the weird stuff is happening.. the illuminati is becoming exposed through almost all the celebrities, 1000 blackbirds have dropped dead, over 100,000 fishes have just randomly died. Alot of people have started to sell their soul.. whats going on!!?!?!
The only reason why people are saying the world will end in 2012 is because they came across this calendar from the Aztecs and it stopped at 2012. Personally I don't believe the world will end in 2012, i mean they sed the world was supposed to end in some mushroom cloud from russia in an experiment and nothing happened. You really shouldn't feel scared, the media just like to report things and over exaggerate things to get people scared and cause hype. There's nothing to be worried about :) Hope this helps!!xx
17/f
*It would be great to get a guy's opinion*
One of my good guy friend's consistently (and very cute-ly) hits on me..usually through texts and the internet. He's witty, and it's very upfront. It's very, very cute. However, I don't know if it's genuine or if he's just being cute and having fun about it.
I know he thinks I'm attractive. I'm very hard to get as I don't flirt with just anyone... (..Trying not to hard to sound concieted. Oh, and I'm not a slut)
He goes to a lot of parties, and I know hooks up with other girls.
I don't know! I'm so confused, maybe he just hits on me because sometimes I can be playful back, or I'm not sure if he just gets a good laugh out of it.
Genuine, or not? What do you think his intentions are?
Any other teens out there that can help!?
Im not a guy but from what I can read here i'm not too sure if its genuine. You say he goes to a lot of parties and he gets a lot of girls, so maybe him flirting with you is a way of getting you like he gets all the other girls, do you understand what I'm trying to say? I think you playing hard to get makes him text you more and say all these cute and upfront things so he can possibly break down your wall and get to you. Hope this helps!!xx
my laptop has a built in webcam but it doesnt work anymore so ive got a usb webcam, but how can i get the usb cam to work on msn?
It's a possibility that you may need to update the driver software for the built in webcam for it to work, i don't really know much about it but if it comes up with an error message saying "please plug in a supported device" then you need to update the driver software. hope this helps!!xx
Well, I've had sex with two guys, and I had sex with another guy recently, who is my boyfriend.
When we was doing it, it didn't hurt at first, but after the firt couple of hours, it began to kill me. The feeling is hard to explain, but it was like on the left side of my stomach, and when he would push it in me, it would hurt, but every position he did, the pain would either be less or more. Im not too sure why it hurt; I figured I needed to stick it out, and it would go away because I've never had a guy pop my cherry, but it didn't, it just got worse. I don't know if its normal, or what?
It could be hurting because he's being too rough, or your doing it too frequently, it's best to go check with a doctor to make sure everything is ok down there, because some problems left unnoticed can become extremely severe, so have a check up just to make sure. I do not mean to scare you but pelvic inflammatory disease can cause abdominal pain during sex so it's important to rule this out, hope this helps!!xx
i am from india and am a muslim.... i have been in a relationship for a year now with a guy who is a muslim too and hard core one... i love the guy deeply and i have changed a lot for him... but he has a lot of expectations from me and wants me to change completely and adopt a new life all together... he has changed and so has his attitude towards me....he gets angry and doesn't behave in the same way as he used to... he is not like the guys i loved.... even though i really love him but i cant compromise on being myself... i cant leave him because i cant live without him.... m too used to him... n even if i do i know he will hurt himself.. he is very suicidal and can do anything.... i feel like m in such pool of mess and so confused... what should i do?
I'm sorry but what this guy is asking of you is wrong. And how he is making you feel is wrong too. He's trapping you in this relationship. You've changed to meet his expectations and he's still not happy, you need to leave him. Obviously it will be hard but this guy is not right for you. He's making you change and your getting nothing back. I get how you will be worried for his state of mind but your means of staying with somebody cannot be purely that reason. You need to get out quick, and if you really want to, get somebody he knows to keep an eye on him or let a doctor know. Hope this helps!xx
WEll im gunna get started i think my boyfriend is gunna brake up with me because i only kissed him once and we have been going out for a long time now and i want ot but i cant im shy help need tips
If you've been together for a really long time and really trust him then just go for it. Your together so it's not going to seem weird to kiss him. What you have to do is just relax and then ease into it. Better yet, talk to your boyfriend about it, tell him you feel to shy to kiss him not because there's anything wrong with him but just because, i'm assuming you think your bad?, there's only two ways to go about this and thats either talking to your partner about it whom im sure will understand or just going straight for it, just keep yourself relaxed, hope this helps!!xx
I have never released cum before during sexual intercourse. What does it feel like before you do it? Like how will I know when Im about to cum, so I can actually finish successfully?
*I've had feelings in the past of feeling like I had to pee really bad, and my ex use to tell me all the time that it was because I had to nut and it was cum building up, and for me to let it out, and when I try to during intercourse, nothing happens, it just hurts.
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The reason why it hurts is because your not allowing yourself to cum, if you've reached climax before then its basically the same thing. One thing you could do is just explore what is sexually pleasing to you to see what does make you cum, you have to make sure that your stimulated fully, there could be burning, and you might not be able to stay still, but you just have to go with it, relaxing helps you feel it more and helps you reach it faster. maybe oral sex might help? From my own personal experience, I know because my breathing gets heavier and i have to hold onto something and i can't open my eyes. But if you can't don't feel so bad. You just have to be patient and make sure your relaxed. Like i said, try exploring yourself to see what happens, Hope this helps!!xx
I saw you comment on my feedback, try a vibrator that could really help, im not sure if you've tried oral but for some girls thats where its all at. Don't force it out because then it won't happen, my friend had the exact same problem and she even cried because of it but i told her to relax don't tense up when you start feeling something there it could really hold it back. just keep trying and it eventually will happen, otherwise maybe you just aren't the type to cum. hope this helps!!xx
my bf and i fight more and more often. first it was once a year, then once a month then once a week and now every other day. over stupid stuff. what do i do? 18/f
thanks.
the first thing you have to do if find out what your arguing over, if its silly stuff like who left the toilet lid up or he's not cleaning up after himself then what you need to do is talk to each other about it, make compromises with each other in a bid to not argue again or at least argue over something worth your time. if you guys live together or see each other really really often it could be good for you to take time away from each other, because too much familiarity could be causing this xx
Alright well I am 18 and a female. I dated this guy named collin for about three years and we ended up splitting because he cheated. I was in love with this guy and I couldn't stand being anywhere near him after that so I moved to another state where I had family. After about 5 months he breaks up with the girl and then comes running back to me. We talk again for a while but I don't trust him. I met this other guy and we start dating. I didn't want to get to much hope up on collin because afterall he did cheat. Well now they both want me to give the other up and idk what to do. It'll be hard to give up either. I love collin but I nknow this guy is loyal and will treat me good. Collin would be a chance. I'm not willing to give up either so I don't know what to do.
Cheating is a bad thing to do in any kind of relationship and it can really put a strain on things. I would suggest the new guy in your life, you said yourself he's loyal and will treat you really good. Why should you have to be in a relationship where your constantly thinking if he could be cheating on you it would only bring up trsut problems, i can suggest all I like but you have to think about this yourself. Would you rather go with a loyal trustworthy guy whom you've just met or chance it for lets say your "chilhood sweetheart" who cheated on you and took 5 months to realise he wants you back?xx
One day when my boyfriend was over in my room we were dancing and grinding. I was kidding around and started to grind on his ass like guys do to girls. He said he actually liked it and I saw he got a big hard on. Now when he comes over and I feel like dancing he will make remarks about me grinding on his butt again. Sometimes I do it and when I do I can see he gets really turned on. Yesterday we did that and we ended up having amazing sex after. Is this okay or weird?
This is totally fine, your just finding it weird because normally its the other way around. Your boyfriend is just telling you what he likes and you should feel quite happy. But if it's too weird for you or you dont like it then have a talk with him, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with it xx
i didnt really have sex.
it was in and out kind of thing, i gave and recieved oral (im a girl) abd in the monring i had a lot of discharge very thick and white.
do i take a morning after pill?
im really scared but i know we didnt have sex!
i also gave two other boys oral the sam night does that mean anything
i no for a fact none of these boys have STDs btw.
Well the main question is did you wear a condom? If you didn't there is a possibility this could happen but becuase he didnt cum inside of you then its highly unlikely, i think taking the morning after pill is a bit extreme considering you didnt really have sex. Although you should be really careful when giving oral sex because there are dangers, and you were spreading bodily fluids about so make sure you do definately wash your mouth out properly. But when you woke up in the morning the discharge could have just been from where you got aroused. Hope this Helps!!xx