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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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Alright so here's the deal I'm female and 20 years old,
I was with this guy lets say "X" for secrecy. Five months, I really felt a connection with him so deep that when I fell or hurt myself he'd be like ohh my hand hurt today and i don't know why... But things started to get hard and we argued a LOT and broke up. The night we broke up he was IMing my best friend and they had umm phone sex? I found out the next day and was so hurt, that I went straight to this guy who I had been flirting with while i was with "X" we'll call him "Y". So me and "Y" we have EVERYTHING in common from music to food to movies etc etc etc we haven't found anything that we don't both like. He told me he loved me and wanted to be with me and I told him I loved him... but today I just feel confused am I doing the right thing? Who should I choose X or Y???? I have no idea. Has anyone else ever been in this situation?
You need to make this decision alone. Try grabbing a piece of paper-- and putting X on one side and Y on the other. Start by writing what you like most about them. Then, make one about what you dislike about them. This may or may not determine the best guy for you-- but it'll help clear your thoughts.
But, just a little advice-- any guy who's going to have phone OR ANY sex with your friend, is not worth your attention.
Hope I helped!
Could i get pregnant if my bf and I had prtected sex and i have not had my period for a few months?
I am 18 by the way. Im a little over weight.
Yes.
Ok. I have been working on getting rid of this hypchondria, but I still have these draw backs...has anyone gone through this and could tell me how to overcome it. I have a really bad draw back, and then i feel really depressed or suicidal because of how the hypochondria makes me feel, and of course batteling what i know is true and what i know isn't true in my mind, and then i start to feel better...then a few weeks later i have another draw back. Now I would like to say that it is a lot better than it used to be. I used to have to deal with it every day, now it is only every few weeks or so. I just don't like dealing with it at all. I do not take medicine, do not wish to..I would only like holistic advice or meditational advice. I would really appreciate it if you only gave me advice if you have experienced it or are experiencing it and are doing something to make it better. I also take folic acid, vitamin b12 and 6 and i was taking goji juice for a while and meditation helps but i don't do it every day...is there like a good affirmation i could do? or a specific God I could pray to? Thank you for your advice...
I suffer from the same thing as you. My hypochondria changed my life. I relate to you very much. I'm only 21, and have spent wayyyy to much time obsessing over my health. Recently, a panic attack brought on by hypochondria blacked me out at the wheel, and I hit a stone wall and a telephone pole. Physically, I was okay-- but my car was totaled. These are the things I'm suggesting that have helped me.
Get a COGNITIVE Behavioral Phycologist{Not for drugs.)If you have trouble looking this up in your area, ask your physician.
Keep yourself busy. I know that every chance I have to think, I obsess on 37 ways I could die. Find a hobby, volunteering, art, exercise, whatever it is that you find comfort in.
His name is God.. and yes, he can help too-- but it merely depends on what your beliefs are.
As for meditation--
Get yourself in a comfortable place-- without distraction. Start from your toes, and tighten the muscles in your feet for 5 seconds.. then relax. Do this 10 times-- then move to your legs, stomach, arms, fingers.
Once you're relax, visualize a dumpster in your head(i know it sounds silly).. imagine yourself walking to it, carrying bags. Inside these bags are thoughts that cause your hypochondria. Throw the problems in the dumpster. If they return while you're doing this, throw them in again and again until they stop. When you've gone over all your stresses, close the dumper, and slide it out of your head.
Stay away from computers!.. They're wonderful for everyone who ISN'T a hypochondriac.
I really hope I helped. Keep me updated!!
hi
i need some advice on a matter.
ok last year i was very unhappy in my relationship, therefore i sort comfort in other places. i never slept with anyone else but another guy who i was friends with before i met my current boyfriend sent me flowers saying i deserved better and stuff like that.. there were 2 guys and the other we were close but never kissed or anything as well.. just after our 1 year we broke up for a few weeks, then we got bak together and we both had changed as persons. he was much more considerate and nice and i am much more stronger. i told him that i did seek comfort in other places and he understood and was sorry. i didnt tell him everything that happened just that i was unhappy, yet i still feel guilty for leading the other guys on and now that our relationship is perfect i need to forgive myself, i no it was stupid to talk to a guy that says i deserve better because it made my relationship very confusing esp because i was unhappy but i dont talk to them anymore at all.. we are happy again and yet it still bugs me that i spoke to other guys.. should i still be feeling this way even tho it was 6 months ago and i didnt 'cheat'? someone please help me
Give yourself a break. You were confused, and there was obviously some soul searching that you both needed to sort out. Forgive yourself, and allow happiness in. You may have made a mistake, but this goes to show that you've learned from it.
A crush I've had from probably November last year knows that I like him, because I told him, and was really nice to me, although he was probably quite shocked haha.. but nothing happened because he liked someone else, a friend of mine, actually, but now they're not close anymore, and I've noticed we always seem to be the first people to notice each other walk into the room, or accidently catch eye contact.. there's been other people for me, but I'm kinda crazy about him, more so than I have been for anyone else in my life - do these little things that happen very often mean anything? What should I do? Or am I being paranoid, and should just get over him? Any help HUGELY appreciated! Thankyou so much in advance!!!!! xx
It sounds to me like there's some kind of common attraction between the two of you.
Look at this from his perspective-- he knew you liked him, but started something with someone else. Wouldn't you feel a little hesitant to approach yourself? He probably feels insecure with the decision he made in the first place. If you want anything to happen here, you're going to have to make the conversation. I'm sure he's nervous after all that's happened.
I suggest you be up front. It's hard, but nobody on here is going to give you an answer like he will. If you honestly too shy to create conversation all together-- wait on him-- see if he says anything to you during one of these situations where you connect eyes. Casually, even humorously, ask him what he's looking at even. It'll relax things, so he knows that you don't hold anything against him.
Good luck hun, keep us updated!