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theres this song that goes "shake your body like a bellydancer." it was really popular. i looked up bellydancer, like a bellydancer, and shake your body on itunes but it wasnt this. anyway, have the title, artist, or album. anything will help... (link)
i think it's called "bellydancer" & it's by akon. the albums called "trouble".


16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to? (link)
tell him the truth. i'm sure he'll understand. if he doesn't, then he's not worth it. seriously.


Okay so, I have seen these shoes in differnt colors like black, and tan for example. But, I can NOT find them in a store for the life of me! This is what they look like:

http://i11.tinypic.com/29ql9mo.jpg

Does anybody know where I can buy these shoes? I've wanted some for so long now, but I can't find them!
Thank you SO SO much if you can help! I'd appriciate it greatly. =) (link)
They look a lot like Keds. You can find them at almost any department store & they're not expensive at all.


my brother and i were in car accident recently and i was driving and totaled my brand new escalade. my brother told the police and our parents that he was the one driving so i wouldnt get in trouble since i had only had my licnese for a few months and he has had his for about 6 years. i feel horrible about the whole thing. should i tell my parents the truth or just let it be?

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Is he in trouble with the police? If he is, I'd fess up. Otherwise, I'd let things be. He obviously wanted to help you out.


we were havings sex and she thought she heard the condom break so we checked it and couldn't find anything so we continued and i busted and took it out and looked at the condom again and there was a slight rip in the top of it but some of the cum was on the bed and still in the condom she took 3 bcp's form her friend and peed blood the next morning could she be pregnet? (link)
She definitely could be. Take her to the doctor. Hopefully, everything's alright, but don't leave her if it isn't. It's your responsibility not to. Also, you should consider other methods of birth control. Something more effective. Hope everything works out.


I found out that quite a few classmates of mine have tried marijuana or weed. This really shocked me because I didn't think highschoolers did that sort of thing, or that drugs were even available. They told me that the drugs really aren't that bad, that they're actually safer than cigarettes, and that they aren't addictive. Are they right? How many highschoolers do drugs usually? Am I naive to have believed that? (link)
you're really naive if you think high school kids don't do drug. it's a huge problem. drugs are bad. cigarrettes will kill you faster than marijuana because marijuana is all natural. i guess in a sense it is healthier than cigarretts as long as you stay in your house. marijuana slows your reaction time majorly. it is very addictive though. i'd say 1 in 3 high schoolers have at least tried drugs. i hope i helped if only a little.


my friends and family say im fat and they always tease me about it when im only 103 lbs and am 5'3. I dont think Im fat but everyone else does. What do I do? (link)
tell them to shut the @#$% up. lol. i'm 5'2 & i weigh 120. you're fine. you shouldn't worry about what other people think anyway. as long as you're comfortable with yourself. [:


I love Death Cab for Cutie. They always make me feel better. What would you recommend to be their best album? I think I'm going to buy one to listen to when I'm sad but which one is the best and has mostly sad songs? Thanks. (link)
i have all their albums & my favorite is DEFINITELY plans! it's an amazing cd. [:


14/f/virginia

i am planning on running away from home. possibly to my dad's house. but are there like any laws that can stop me from doing so? like can i get put in juvy if i do run away and get caught? i cant take it in my house anymore. i just cant. i got to get out of here and soon. (link)
you won't get sent to juvy but you'll definitely get probation for at least 6 months. do it legally.


is it possible to hide the advertisement on the top of your myspace page? if so, how? (link)
no. it's illegal & if myspace finds out you did it, they'll delete your page. /:


Alright, now I get sleep and everything, but whenever I am in school and stuff, I still continue to be tired. Haha, it being boring doesn't help too much either. Anyways. I was thinking about purchasing an energy drink to drink in the morning to help me stay a little more awake, and I keep hearing of this energy drink, MONSTER. I hear it's great, it taste good, etc.

But: I am a picky person. I don't like alot of flavors and tastes.

So.

To anybody whose ever drank it, what does it taste like? I tried an energy drink once, it tasted like pineapple, and I spit it out, haha. I'm not repeating that again.

But, to anybody else, even if you haven't drank MONSTER, any other energy drink suggestions and what do they taste like?


HELP?! (link)
I don't think Monster tastes good at all. I'm all for Full Throttle. It's pretty much the best energy drink out there. It kind of tastes like that Sprite Remix stuff only better. & it definitely gives you energy. [:


well im 13/f and i haven't gotten my period yet. i guess i have big boobs i'm almost a B. ALL my friends have got theres but i dont know when i'm going to get mine, i hope soon. help me... (link)
don't worry about it. my aunt didn't get her period 'til she was 19. you're very lucky you haven't gotten it yet. i got mine when i was 8. ]:


ever since i was very young my mother has been abusive to me. i am the oldest of two children and the only girl, and my mother has always been jealous of my goals in life. she used to hit me severely when i was younger but the rest of my family ignored it and i have police reports but child services couldn't do anything because all i had to show were bruises and no witnesses. as i got older my mother started drinking a lot, she is probably drunk at least 4 nights in a week and she hasn't had a job for about 12 years. she just sits around all day and smokes and drinks and has her scummy friends over.

within two years though, i've been finding drugs and substances throughout the house that were clearly hers, marijuana and cocaine only. but she has the worst relationship with me because i don't go thorugh one day without being called a slut, cunt, little bitch, twat, you name it. i don't even fight back anymore because it's pointless.

this past december my mother in a rage pulled a knife out on me and put it to my throat. my entire family witnessed it and my dad ripped her off of me before she could have done anything. i called the police and because my father denied it happening they escorted me out and i began to live with my aunt up until now.

i just came back because my mother asked me to and appologised, and because she is my mom i agreed. but my younger brother is moving out with my grandparents because he cant take it herer anymore, and her name calling towards me is starting again. bowls and bags of marijuana lay around my house and it's disgusting. she smokes around all of us and my brother and i both have asthma but she dosn't care.

i've never lied about the situation or cried wolf to get pitty, the only firends who know about it are ones who have witnessed our fights.

my father won't divirce her because he says she'll take all of his money and we'll be broke. and he is scared of being alone since my brother and i are on the verge of graduating highschool.

is there anywhere i can go where they will put a stop to her durg abuse/ alcohol abuse/ child neglect, or is there any way i can have a restraint against her because i don't think it's fair my brother and i have to be thrown around to family members to live with because of her choices. it would be nice to live ina normal home for once in my life.

where can i go for help? (link)
try & get emancipated. i'm not really sure how you go about it. you could google it or something. sorry i couldn't help more. [:


I am looking for a breed of dog (mixed is fine) that is especially good for children, and it would be great if it did not shed much. Thanks for any suggestions! (link)
i've had a cocker spaniel for the past twelve years. when i was younger i dressed her & up & fed her with spoons. she's just an amazing family dog. VERY FRIENDLY. she doesn't shed what-so-ever & i highly suggest them. [:


Im going into my sophmore year of High School, and for some reason, this past year I have been getting really harassing phone calls/voicemails, messages on myspace, and IM's from screen names I dont know. I never did anything to deserve it, but people keep calling me a slut and a whore. I dont understand why they are calling me that, and I dont know how to stop it. Its so unfair :( (link)
i agree with the person below. you need to start fresh. *69 the phone numbers & get them blocked. don't bother reading the messages on myspace & block everyone that isn't on your buddy list on aim. drama drama drama. don't let anyone bring you down. stay strong & ignore those who envy you. you're a better person. [:


I;m 14 an I Have had a few boyfriends but the thing is i cant stay that long with them when ever i see them or they want to even just talk to me i get weird and break up with them but heres the weird thing when we are not togther i can do anything hold hands kiss hangout talk without getting weird but once i know where togther i get weird. Whats worng? (link)
a lot of girls have the problem & i'm definitely one of them. you're afraid of commitment. maybe you should start "talking" to boys before you decide to persue a relationship with them. you know? get really comfortable around them (i'd give it at least two or three weeks) before you actually consider yourself "boyfriend & girlfriend". [:


what do you do if you like two guys at once and they both like you?? (link)
wait it out & see what happens. there's no way to decide between to boys without regretting it later. give it some time & see who's worth it in the end. [:


ok so i had glasses for 3 years now and i REALLY want to get contacts. i went to the eye person and then he tried to put the contact in my eye but i didnt let him. this was a while ago. people tell me it takes hours for them to put them in.

idk if i still want them cause i hate that feeling of putting them in your eye and idk if its worth it.
is it ??? help me (link)
you'll get the hang of putting them in after a week or so. it's really not bad at all & they are DEFINITELY worth it. [:


whenever i eat mi stomach bloats very bad.
so i try not to eat so it doesnt stick out.
does anyone know what i can do to make it not bloat?
please hlp me and sometimes when i eat it hurts and makes me want to puke what should i do? (link)
drink a lot of water & keep away from salty foods. [:


16/f
is it possible to be a "whore/slut" and still be a good kid?
okay. i seriously think i have a problem...like i do not know when to say no. If i get asked to do something or anything of that nature i just dont know how to say no. I'll just do what ever he asks.

and i know its not true, but i feel like all the guys i like and spend time with and get to know will stop liking me if i dont do something for them...
how do i shake this image??
thanks. (link)
i kind of have this reputation. i messed around with a couple boys i wasn't dating but i never have considered myself a whore. if you think your situation is getting out of control i'd would get help from a professional. as long as things aren't out of hand or you don't feel horrible about what you're doing don't worry about it. you're a teenager & it's completely normal. [:




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