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ok ive done a hand job before but my friend keeps askin when is he gettin his and i keep tell him i dont kno and like i dont wanna come off as a ho doing that to someone im not with..is that hoeish ? i do have feelings for him though (link)
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If he is just a friend and he is seriously asking you for this, then he is using you. Make sure he has feelings for you before you do something like this, otherwise you will come off as a whore.
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like a week ago my boyfriend and i were messing around and i gave him a hand job (he put a condom on) and while i was giving him a hand job he was holding his penis and then when i was done he fingered me and my period hasnt started yet but ive been having cramps lately and i usually get cramps but could i be pregnant? (link)
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No you cannot be pregnant. He would have to have his penis inside you. the sperm could not live on his finger. Just out of curiosity, why was he wearing a condom for a handjob?
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alright, my friend is gettin really paranoid. he keeps thinkin that there might be "side effects" from masturbation. he's 15 and he says he's like addicted to bangin himself. so are there any "side effects" from too much masturbation? if so, what are they?
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Nope, no side effects. And it is perfectly healthy, most males reach sexual maturity at 14-16, so they need to have sex, or at least feel like they are having sex. As an after thought, he could get an increased need for sex, but thats about it.
Hope I helped, redlion
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I lost my virginity in Feb after my 15 birthday. Since then my boyfriend and I have had sex atleast twice a week. He pulls out so we have never completely finished, and we have never had a pregnancy scare. Recently our sex has felt diffrent though. Like it has lost the unique, wild touch it once had. Could I be bored with sex? I get the same pleasure, but instead of feeling fulfilled afterwards I just feel-there. Can someone explain this to me? I'm so confused... (link)
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I know it's all you hear, but birth control is the best thing for you at this point. When you are on the pill, you won't have to deprive yourself of the pleasure you get normally. Condoms are messy, and easily break or slip off, plus its not as fun for the man.
Also, variety is the spice of life. Change things up, maybe with different positions, a different setting, or even a different partner. I would try the first two of those options before the third. Once you are a little more experienced, I would suggest finding the Kama Sutra.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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hey u kno how ppl have upside down question marks? an exclamation points! well i wasnt to kno how they turn them upside down i rate high thanks (link)
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the russian mail man is being a jerk. that will close the open window. Reesespieces022 has it right.
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I really really like this guy, adn he says he likes me too. Every night he says he loves me, but I know he likes this other girl a little bit too. Why isn't he asking me out? He knows How much I like him and he likes me too so he says. Whats the deal?
-signals are confusing me- (link)
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Well, I could feed you bull, but I'm pretty sure he just wants both of you. If you feel that he really loves you *is forced by my concience to roll eys* then you could always ask him out.
Redlion
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I've heard many times the "You'll know when you're ready" line. I was wondering, HOW do you know when you're ready to lose your virginity?
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When you have no doubt the guy (or girl) you want to have sex with is a good person (or bad person if you're into that sorta thing) and you want to take your relationship to the next level. I see it as the purest form of love, but that means nothing if you don't believe in love. I guess its just a personal choice.
Sorry, that wasn't much help, Redlion.
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My clit sticks out a little. Is that strange? Should I be embarrassed? (link)
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Nope, not strange at all. Don't be embarassed about your body, its perfectly normal.
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well me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and well it took 4 months for me to kiss him and well thats all ive ever done with anyone...well now hes kinda wanting more and is testing his limits and well i know its normal for guys to try that but i dont know...im only 14 is it normal for 14 year olds to do stuff like that? see my boyfriend has always gottin some from everyone hes been with accept me, but i kinda know that he cares for me b/c he waited so long and well if i do get up the nerve to do it once, will i have to do it alot? is he going to expect that more? should i do it? any advise? (link)
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Guys love a little anticipation, it makes the act that much better. But on the other hand, if you don't want to do anything, don't let him force you just because of his reputation. It is perfectly normal for 14 year olds to do more than that. Not a whole lot more, but more than kiss, maybe move to a french kiss next and then a little touch and feel. It's probably not a good idea to take it much further than that. And yes, guys will always expect more. It can't be helped. Just make it clear to him what you are willing to do.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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What is the right age for a male to start getting erection and be able to burst?? I am thirteen years old but I still cant have any erection...But all of my friends (same age) say they can have erection...Some even say they have been having erection since they were 11 or 12?? Maybe this sounds gay but I have actually seen them having erection in the mall or in the school shower...Is this bad? I am so worry about it...Is it possible that I won't be able to have any erection throughout my whole life?? (link)
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Puberty hits guys differently. Some are sexually ready at age 10, some don't hit maturity until 15. Don't force anything to happen. Don't worry about looking at theirs, its natural to want to compare. You should be able to have an errection, but there is a small possibility that you cannot because of birth defects or other complications. Let me stress once more, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT. I doubt any of your friends are doing anything besides wanking off, so they really don't have anything to brag about.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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This might be a stupid question, but does it hurt to have sex? Do you bleed?
just wondering (link)
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If you are male, it shouldn't hurt. If you are female, and it is your first time then yes, it will hurt when the guys penis breaks your hymen. You will probably bleed a little bit. If the guy is gentle it doesn't have to be excruciating. If he's not... well, just hope he's gentle.
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ok...there is this guy that i like and we flirt alot...his friends told me that he says im hott and that he likes me...he always stares at me and hes always asking my friend questions about me...well i know everything might seem great, but theres one problem, HE HAS A G/F!!!...she doesnt go to our school and he never talks about her...i really like this guy and i dont know what to do...i need mostly guy answers because i would like to know what hes thinking, but girls answers would be great if youve been in this type of situation before... what i should do??THANKS SO MUCH ~ ♥ ~ (link)
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Ok, you really have nothing to do right now. If the guy has a girlfriend and he likes you, he will break up with the girlfriend to be with you. BUT in the event that he does NOT break up with this girl, you should stay far far away from him and possibly tell the other girl what happened.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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ok so my best friend likes this guy and i was like o ok but i didn't know him. well tonight we hung out with him all night and now i think i like him!! is that a bad thing? and what should i do if he askes me out? (link)
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Well, if you want to keep your friend, don't flirt with her guy. On the other hand, it is ok to like the same guy, as long as you don't act on your actions you should be fine. If he breaks up with your friend and asks you out, you are at risk of loosing your friend as well. This is really not a great situation at all.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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i need help getting an orgaasm, i dont know how, and i am too embaressed to ask any of my friends.. i do know what masterbation is, im 15 years old and alot of my guy friends talk about it, but i still dont knowhowto masterbate myself. Can someone please explain to me how i can get an orgasm, can you tell me what to think about, how to masterbate, what to touch down tehre , and how to touch it, please, thanks this would be great help. (link)
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Erm, I'm confused about the gender of the asker. Clarify if you want a better answer.
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okay well im 13/f and i accedeltally masterbated with out knowing it, at first i didnt know what i did but then i really started to enjoy it and do it to myself on porpose and i dont want to do it anymore but i dont no how to stop any help i rate high (link)
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Well, you are coming to sexual maturity, so if you don't want to have sex, this is the best way to get it out. But in the case that you really want to stop, you could try the cold turkey method. Sorry, most people want to get off more, but you want to get off less. Its kind of amusing.
Sorry I wasn't much help this time, Redlion
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I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track? (link)
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Well, you certainly have a lot on your plate. First of all, you need to reign in your dad. You know what I mean, use that little girl 'but daddy' crap and make him listen to you. Make sure your mom is there to support you, but don't make it look like you are teaming up on him.
Abortion might be an option, but you said you want it, so you need to find a way to finish your education while having a child, and (I assume) be with your boyfriend. First, you need to find a way to have the baby taken care of during the day. If your mom doesn't work, she might consider doing it for you. You WILL go to school. You WILL NOT drop out. If you do, I will HUNT YOU DOWN and drag you back, because you will not have a very pretty life without your nice, public school education. Second, you need to forget Mike. The guy just wanted some tail, and when he, like so many teenagers, 'forgot' to wear a condom got landed with a kid. Screw him, if your boyfriend is so great, he will help you through this. Try very hard to stay in school. If that is not an option, make sure your boyfriend is. I know you are going through a bunch of crap right now, but you can pull through this with your kid, your parents, your education, and your boyfriend. Thats going to take a lot of work, but it is possible.
Hope I was more help than the other 'columnists', Redlion.
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what happened when a guy gets an erection? can he get one from making out? (link)
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My brilliant answer? Blood fills his penis. Yes he can get one if he is sexually aroused. It sticks out and is quite noticeable, if he is big. In slacks or pants it is still usually noticeable.
Hope I helped, Redlion
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is 13 too young to get married. i mean yeah it is but like i mean if you really felt you were ready could someone marry u without a parents consent. or even with one (link)
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Without parent consent, you have to be 18. Even with parent consent, I believe (not completely sure) you have to be 16. I'm not going to lecture to you, I answered your question.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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hi, next month i have my first appointment for the gnyo, becuase im 15 and have had my period irregular since i starting getting it 4 years ago,so my mom made me an appt...so anyway my concern is that, a couple months ago my boyfirend and I of 9 months decided to take are relationship a little farther and he fingered me, quite intensly and has done it a couple times..(but I have never had sex, and dont plan on it anytime soon)I am worried that the gyno will tell my mom,(becuase i know the gyno will be able to tell,becuase i am quite stretched out from it) and i really dont think that my mom wants to hear "oh by the way your daughter has been fingered" and she will be quite dissapointed in me. If i ask should the gyno keep my information confidential?
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You are a minor, and I assume living in the US, so yes the Gyno can tell your parents your physical condition, but that doesnt mean they will. BUT- assuming your hymen has not broken, he will not really be able to tell. Yes, he can tell how loose you are, but that could be from other things. He might question you about your sexual activity, but he might not. I would suggest telling the doctor everything, but if you don't feel comfortable with that, don't. Just to clarify, doctor-client confidentiality does not apply to minors, so don't take that for granted. But doctors are usually pretty good about that sort of thing.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
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ok, so i have this really personal problem, i am a 16 year old girl, but i was born with male genatiles. I dont know what to do becuase i have a steady boyfriend, we have been seeing eachother for about 3 months. We have gone to third base( but i gave him pleasure not the other way around)and he told me taht he wants to do the smae for me. Im afraid that if he sees my 'down there area' that he will be grossed out. But i really really love him. Help me, how can i tell him?!
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Erm, I really can't help you here, but directed at the other people answering:
YOU SICK FUCKS! HAVE SOME COMPASSION!
My apologies to any who offered advice that actually made sense. For future reference, if you have nothing beneficial to say, don't say anything. And yes, that makes me a hypocrite by posting this.
Redlion
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