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Q: sean,
i am soo mad right now!! i wanna cuss but i cant because god is holding me back!!! thsi kid was cussing me out on my buddy profile for my geustbook!!!! AHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he was saying that i cant sing and that when i did my sign language for class about god, they all layghed at me, and that kid brought it back up.. i dont know what to do so please help this son of a gun realize he is wasting his time over his jealousy!!!
Madison palencsar.... your cousin!!!!

Don't let him get to you, there is always gonna be people like that. Always laughing at you. Its in the Bible, im not sure exactly how it goes but Jesus says that if im persecuted you will be too. That means if I am made fun of and laughed at you will be too. But Jesus didn't let that bother him, he just loved them no matter what, because they didn't know better, all u have to do is show them the love of God, and how God has changed your life, and they will come to you someday and look for God in you, the will want what you have, which is God. Your life is the biggest witness by showing people the way we act and how our lives reflect Jesus.

Q: Alright... I'm gonna start this generally... I like this guy (heh) and I think he likes me back, I feel like there's no one else like him, but the problem is he lives far away and I never get to see him... what am I supposed to do?

Well, long distance relationships are hard, but they work. talk to him, call him, keep in touch with him. tell him how u feel and who knows, maybe someday u guys wont be as far apart. hope this helps.

Q: I like this guy who liked me not to long ago but i said no to him and now i like him again and i dont know how to tell him cause he and i dont talk at all ne more...What should i do???

Well, are you friends? If you aren't, then just start talking to him, make him know your still friends or you want to be friends again. Then when everything is good, and the time is right, tell him. hope I helped

Q: ok...on oct. 25 last year i got my permit...so its in a little over a month when i can get my license...how do i do it...i heard i need 2 make an appt. and stuff....and can u tell me what u do (tests etc.) i know u have 2 do a driving test and other stuff...but please tell me how i need 2 prepare and if i need 2 make an appt. and stuff....Thanks!!!!!!!!!!

You have to go through segment one and segment two classes and get ur level 2 permit (temps) then after 6 months u set up an appointment to take the road skills test and if u pass u then take the certificate they gave u, to the secretary of states office, ir ur under 18 u need ur parents to go with u. hope i helped, this is exactly what i had to do to get my license.

Q: ever heard the song bossman ft. rod lee? they have a song called welcom to bmore or somthing and i cant find it at all or the lyrics...anyone know?

I think this is what ur talking about http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/beenieman/bossman.html if its not, then try going to www.lyrics.com hope i helped

Q: My sister always likes going swimming with me and my dad. I find it fun too! But the thing is she's been planning it since last Sunday for her me and my dad to go Swimming today. But when I went to the bathroom this morning, I found out that I have my period. So I told my mom that I couldn't go swimming. But then when we were driving home from Church today, my sister brought up the subject, and my mom said that I couldn't go. She kept on asking and asking why I couldn't go and we told her because I can't. So now she's really mad at me. She's only 9 and doesn't know about periods and stuff so she's really mad at me. I feel really bad. I wish she was a little older so that she could know. So now I feel really guilty. What should I do?

Well tell her that u are sick, and u cant go swimming when u were sick like u were, tell her that u promise that u will all go swimming (Insert a good date here). and she will forget about being mad at u.

Q: ok well im 14 and a girl and ive been goin out w/ this boy for awhile now and i love him more than anything and hes so awesome and nice to me and cracks me up all the time!!!! but he has this friend logan that keeps talkin to me and like every1 knows he likes me and i like him but just as a friend!! just as a friend!!! hes so freakin halarious and is funny but sometimes he talks to me infront of my bf and i think my bf is startin to think i like logan more than him but i dont and i cant be mean and tell logan hey stop hangin out w/ me u kno!!! i mean i dont wanna make my boifriend mad at me cuz i like him more than any1 ever and then i also cant be mean to my friend logan wat the hell do i do im so confused this sucks!!!! plz help plz help!!!

Well u can nicely tell logan that hey, we are just friends, and tell ur bf how u feel about him and tell him that he is the only one u love, dont u think 14 is a little young to love someone like a bf? well thats my opinion, hope i helped so i can get a good rating.

Q: does anyone know the symtoms of ADHD? also, do you know of any sites that have those online tests for it? please give me sites giving info on ADHD if possible too. thank you soo much this is important i find out. i will rate ya a 5 :)

You get really easily distracted by things, and u are hyper most of the time, and u talk alot. hope this helps.

Q: ok.....ive liked this boy for awile now and i think he was starting to like me but im not sure and now this really hot new boy came to our school and im really starting to like him ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but i have told my friends that ive liked this other boy for awile now and now ive told them that i really like this new kid and to make matters worse this girl that i told her i like him now"all of usudden" she loves him now and she wants to go out with him?????
wat do i do?
13 female

Well who is the gurl, a friend? if she is a friend tell her that u like him and hopefully she will be mature and back down, but hey, u like 2 guys? if one is taken, u can always have the other one. oh and one other thing, always let a guy know how u feel, do it soon b4 he gets taken, hope this helps.

Q: This is the first time for me to admit this but i guess that is the first step. For 2 years now I havent been the best eater. I have been told that I have anorexia and I am starting to not feel well at all. People at school give me weird looks. I want to kill myself but I have a child on the way. I dont think I can go any further in my life.

Tiffani C.

The people at school that give u the looks shouldnt bother u, ignore them, they are only stupid immature teenagers. Just take a look at how much u eat, if u eat and ur still hungry, eat some more, u have a child in u that needs food, if u dont eat right the child could die or be born premature or have some kind of birth defects, just eat more, i will pray for u. hope i helped.

Q: Well im a christian, i just sometimes dont feel like going to church and praying and reading my Bible, i want to do other things, i never have time to do it. what can i do?

Well that is just ur flesh taking control, u need to grab it and tell it no. u need to tame ur flesh, in order to do that u need to make ur fleshly man smaller and ur spiritual man stronger, in order to do that u need to get into a habbit of reading ur bible and praying everyday. Dont let the Devil win this one.

Q: I hope you are a strong Christian I really need help! ok im a christian im 14~f and i have been a christian for like 3 years..yea well my brother is all hardcore and im not evn close to it. for some reason everytime i sin i think bout God and then i dont care...and then i sin some more..idk its like i know i have to get back on track and i pray to God askin him to change me but do i really want the change? im really questioning my salvation..i dont wanna go to hell! thanks and i will rate!

Well i know what u mean, it just seems like ur fleshly side is taking over u and doing what it wants to do, u need to tame ur flesh. Heres how, when u eat it helps u grow and live, but what if u dont eat? its the same with ur spirit, when u feed ur spirit (reading the word, praying, etc) the spiritual man inside u grows, and the fleshly side gets smaller and smaller. you just need to take control, dont let the Devil take over ur life, watch what u do, listen to, say, etc. I suggest reading first and second Timmothy, wich is what Paul(Timmothys spiritual father) wrote to Timmothy, to try and help him get thru his teenage yrs. It has helped me get thru a lot of things, hope it will help u.

Q: Just wondering, what kinda christian music do you listen to? rock, rap, pop? worship? and who do u listen to? :)

Well i listen to mostly rap, my favorite group is Grits, they are awesome, i have their cd and i want their new one. I have worship cd's too, to get my mind set on God for when i pray and worship him. hope this helps

Q: Ok i read yur column and my thoughts are a few ppl got mad for you mentioning god..you have to remember that not everyone believes in god and not everyone is the same religion..so dont mention god or religion unless they ask you to or unless they do.

and..some ppl are just not getting the answers they had hoped for so they get mad at that..

yu jus have to step into the other persons shoes and tell them advice that you yourself would also take..

hope this helpz!!!

Ok yeah ur right, i forgot that not everyone likes Godly advice, thanks, maybe u can rate me good, for being nice, hehe lol

Q: this is a continuation to my question from earlier about the boyfriend doing the new things in bed.

well i asked him where they came from and he told me that we needed to try new things. alot of people told me he may or may not be cheating. like i said im just suspicious becuase we havent had sex in a while, and then all of a sudden we do and its all this crazy wild shit. i'm not saying that i didnt like it... its just strange. strange since we havnt done it in a while, and also cuz he didnt even like discuss these new techniques with me, he just went about them. and of course i went with them cuz they werent bad ideas and all. also, i am pregnant, so like my sex drive is always down, and his is always up. i read that this is very normal, like there is just something that turns guys on about thier woman being pregnant, and there is something that turns woman off about being pregnant, i guess cuz we get all fat. but yeah, because of my low sex drive, i kinda have been pushing him away. could there also be a possibility that he just gave me some space to wait for me to want to do it again? or maybe he got self consious, and was thinking he wasnt that good anymore and wanted to find some new techniques for us to do to make things better? i dont know, but i am like really beating myself up wondering where he got them from. what i really need is a guys oppinion. and if there may be any girls who have experienced this sort of situation that would be good too.

Well im a guy, so heres my opinion. Has he ever cheated on u b4? if he has then there is no reason why u cant think that he is doing it again, and is he the type of guy that would give u space with sex, when u wanted it? those are things u should think about, i think u need to talk to him and ask him, ask him to tell u the truth, when u ask where he got them from, he shouldnt answer with, just thought we should try new things, it should be an honest answer. all i can say is that, communication is the most important tool in a relationship, if there is no communication, then there is no relationship, see? well i hope my male opinion helps, does this answer rate good?

Q: Hey can someone tell me what an administrator is on this site? How do you get to be on? What do you get to do if youre an administrator? I'm clueless!!

Thnx guyz:)

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if ever banned, was at least 6 weeks ago
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gives good advice
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level 2's can rate questions also, delete questions, suspend members for up to 5 days, see who is asking questions, approve new questions
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you will probably never be one
level 3's can ban people forever, as well as doing everything else the other mods can do as well. Sorry its so long but theres a lot to tell, i looked it up on the help site. hope this helped, Do u rate?

Q: My 15 year old friend engages often in un-protected sex. No matter how much I tell her to wear a condom, or my god, at least go on birth control, she continues to give herself to random guys, especially under the influence. Recently, she slept over my house and woke up with severe morning sickness. She also became constipated, and complains now constantly about her stomach hurting. She hasn't gotten her period yet either. I called planned parenthood for her and it did nothing. I can't think of anything else it could be but pregnancy, and they want to schedule an appointment, which would mean she would have to tell her mom, which, stubborn as she is, would be a struggle at best. She's my best friend, and I cannot see her do nothing about this situation...any advice?

Well if she is ur best friend, all u can give is love and support, pregnancy's are hard, just ask her if she will do a favor for u and take a pregnact test, like EPT or something, just to see if she is pregnant or if its something else, wich more than likely its shes pregnant. I hope this helps, Can u rate me good?

Q: if your bf didnt't have sex with you for a while, and then when you finally did have sex again, he did things differently, would you think he was cheating on you? i ask him about his new little things he was doing, and he said its cuz we need to try new things. but i dont know what to think. im scared he may have learned these new things from another woman.

Well sorry to say but u could be right. I didnt say u were right, its just a possibility, or u are right and that other women he learned it from was from a porno movie, he could of just wanted to see how it works out also, just to try new things. Dont always think the worst. hope i helped, drop me questions anytime u want.
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Q: ok, well i cut. and i dont want to hear the "oh dont do that! blah blah blah" im really trying to stop and i dont need anyone to be pressuring me right now. but anyways..i usually cut on my shoulders so no one can see and so that i dont kill myself. but the other day i cut my wrist. and i mean, i wanted to, but i didnt want it to bleed...and i didnt even push hard. i just ran it slightly across the skin. and it just started bleeding. im fine and everything, but is that normal? like is the skin just really delicate there or something?

Aww, why do u cut urself, do u not like urself, if u want we can talk, well yeah, some parts of the skin are really delicate for some people. I dont know if its normal but if the skin is delicate for u then yeah, its normal, but do u think hurting urself is normal? I hope i helped, ask me anything and i will do my best to help.
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Q: okay.. me and my friend, the other day at lunch wanted to get higher in tha line so i was like.. heyy.. that guy is hot.. lets go talk to him.. and we went over there.. and i was like.. wow.. your so hot.. and he was like.. thanx.. you are tooo.. so.. it was kool.. well anyways.. he asked me out.. and i said i dunno.. just so i can get to know him better first.. and now my friend is like.. no.. dont go out with him.. your steling him from me.. and im like.. uh.. ok? he was mine? so.. should i go out with him or not? * i WiLL rAtE*

Well u should always put ur friends feelings in the picture, if she never called dibs on him, then how is that stealing him from her, sit her down and talk to her, tell her that if she is a good friend then she would say "Take this opprotunity gurl, go out with him" u know? well i hope that helps, ask me anything if u need it.

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I only have to say that, no man has all the answers, but we can give advice(our opinion) to people to try and help them, we can't live the Christian lifestyle without Christian friends to help us up. drop one in the box if i can help.