Member Since: March 31, 2007
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Last Update: April 25, 2007
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Dear Advicinators,
I'm a 17 year old girl.
I reasently had sex with my boyfriend
The problem is I feel like I'm not as in love as I thought. I've resonly had Eyes for another guy. What do I do?
DA (link)
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first u are way too young to do this... u could end up being a pregant teen. say, i am not in love but we can be friends
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guys get hard at night
what do girls get? (link)
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bubbley
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so i have short legs, meaning i have to keep my legs in shape for them to look good, but over the winter i gained some weight in the thighs, and then i had softball, so i got muscle. my question is, how can i loose weight in my thighs so they dont look so big? thanks so much (link)
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do a lot of Pilaties, (that is not how u spell it) it is a great way to lose weight.
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Ok, I'm 17/f and I have a problem with this guy. Last summer I got introduced to him through mutual friends. We hung out ONCE for a few hours the day before I went to San Diego on vacation. We just went to the park and then to hang out at a fast food place where the guy works. Well, I went on vacation and long story short, he told me he was IN LOVE with me and asked me out. I wasn't attracted to this guy in the slightest and the "love" thing weirded me out. So, I NICELY turned him down.
I didn't talk to him again until the next school year (this year) and he barely spoke to me. I was fine with that because I didn't even know him. Well, I just recently started talking to him online and everything is fine. He compliments me a lot but whatever. My best friend was telling me that he told her how much he likes me again and how "not even God" could help him with this one.
He asked me to go to the park with him last night (for today) and he was at work so he told me to call him when I woke up. Well, I'm volunteering today so I can't go anywhere, but I'm really confused. I feel really bad for him to reject him twice, but I'm not going to date him out of pity.
I just need a way to turn him down without making everything weird. The thing is, no matter how much he likes me, he won't talk to me at school or even at the prom! I'm in one of his classes and he just doesn't say anything to me. And at prom he ignored me completely but later told my best friend that he really wanted to dance with me but he was too nervous. If you like someone, don't you at least TALK to them?
I just need something to say to him to not piss him off or hurt his feelings. I don't want to lie with something like "I'm not looking for a bf right now" or "my parents won't let me date"...I want a real statement but I want to give a reason this time so he doesn't do it again.
I may be 17 but I've never had guy trouble like this before. Help! (link)
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just say, listen, i know you really like me, but i really don't. give him many complements like, you are a really great guy, and any girl would be lucky to get you. we are not a perfect match, but you will find that special girl... someday
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nice subject right? haha, well.
ok, so i was just wondering cosim totally clueless about my vagina and i think i need to learn more about it. (btw; 15/f) well i was looking at it in a hand mirror and i have no idea where i would insert a tampon or where i would finger myself or where the penis goes. there was it tiny tube-like thing inside another whole and i dont know if that was where and i wanted to finger myself to kinda stretch it out but i didnt want to break anything. so, anyhelp? (link)
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put it between your inner cheeks(if u know what i mean)
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I like a guy a year older than me, and I want him to like me back and know that I like him without being like obnoxious or telling him. How can I flirt with him. What things could I say??
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hay.. don;'t worry, i liked a guy 3 yrs. older than i am... just be yourself
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Heyy I got my bellybutton pierced almost a year ago and I found it only hurt when the barbell was put in but I didnt have a good experience! Anyways, I want my tongue pierced and I was wondering how bad that hurt! (link)
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DON'T DO THAT! it will soooo hurt!
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My grade will be testing ALL week and we can't bring a backpack to school. I'm going to get my period soon but i'm not sure what day. Ware could I keep a pad ware it won't be noticable since I can't bring a backpack? I don't want to waiste them on days I wont have my period. (link)
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ALWAYS wear pants with big pockets!
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15/female, freshman... ok so I swore to myself I'd try to never get involved with the guys in high school until a few months ago. This one really nice junior just ended up strinking a random conversation with me and for some reason I was (strange as it sounds)hooked. Well today I was finally gonna talk to him and I ended up making a complete idiot out of myself and then his (out of no where!!)girlfriend shows up. I feel so stupid. What do I do now?
-Feelin Crummy (link)
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i think u should just be friends with him... or if he is a close friend, tell him and he will understasnd
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sorry this is so long!!! i really really like my bf but hes the type of guy that dates alot of girls and i found out he cheated on one two. what i want to know is how do i make sure he never cheats on me or breaks my heart because the last bf broke my heart extremely bad.i really dont want to go through that again! so far its going fairly well and i kind of feel that he really might like me but im still afraid that its just a game hes playing( which by the way if he is hes playing it very well). he is probably the hottest guy ive dated and i really dont want to loose him so how do i make him see that im the type of girl that he can stay truthfull to? that im a girl he can keep. hes not in my grade so i cant keep my eye on him 24/7 so how do i make sure hes not messing with any other girls and esspecially in a way that he doesnt ever find out because i dont want to freak him out or make him think im a stalker. i just want to be with him for as long as i can. any advice will help. thanks for reading!!! (link)
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rule nuber 1.- always break up if that stupid weird guy has cheated. You will get hurt.(plus, he cheated 2-3x!)
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(I'm 14 years old, and a girl)
Alright.....I've had this problem for about a year now, and it's been the same the whole time...I love Hayden. I'm not talking crush, or infatuation, or lust, I am 100% sure that this is love. The only problem is, I've loved him for almost a year, and we just don't have a chance. I met him last year, in 8th grade science, when we got put at a lab table together. We became friends quickly, as we both HATED science, we enjoyed doodling during the videos we were shown, where we would sit in the back of the room and add our own details to each others pictures, we were both in choir, and many other things.
I'm not really sure when I started liking him, it just kinda happened. The earliest that I can remember liking him was the choir Chicago trip, where we basically spent a whole week together. Not long after, we decided to do the end of the year science project together, resulting in us having to spend time together working out of school. We went to Cedar Point for a choir trip, where I spend the entire day with him, talking, walking, waiting in lines for rides together, all that fun stuff. For a while, it seemed like I might have a chance with him. School ended mid-June, and a couple days into summer break, he called me and invited me to his house for a party. Basically, to sum up the day, it ended with us spendin the whole day swimming in his pond with 4 other people, 3 other girls, and another guy. While we were there, Taylor, one of the girls, decided she liked him...Taylor is VERY persuasive, and used her body to her advantage...long story short...2 days later we were dating. That day was the last day I saw Hayden during the summer. Then...high school started. I had decided that I was finally over Hayden, but I was secretly wishing that we would have a class together. I made it through all my classes except for the last one with no sight of him...and I was talking to one of my friends when he suddenly appeared behind me, grabbed my shoulders, and shouted my name happily. I knew from that moment that I was is deep trouble. After that day, things just kind of went crazy. I danced with him at Homecoming, decided at Christmas that I didn't want to love him anymore, gave him a letter that told him that I had finally moved on, and that I was happy to be his friend, went out with another person, got dumped, and then....two days ago, I had a party. I invited him and 7 other people, and I had a BLAST. Now see, something that hasn't come up yet is this small problem. Hayden has a best friend, Anthony. Anthony loves me, and Anthony knows I love Hayden. Basically, at this party, it just hit me....I knew I still loved Hayden, and I knew that I never really stopped, I only wanted to keep myself from thinking I did. Now, it would seem like this was already pretty bad...but no. Our school is splitting up next year, and Hayden and Anthony are going to the new high school, while I remain at the old. I want to stop loving Hayden, because in my heart, I know that nothing will never happen between us past friendship, no matter how much hope I still have. I know that really, the only thing that will stop me from loving him more is if we just kind of separate...for good...but I know that not being able to spend time with him, even as friends, would kill me. My heart literally aches whenever I think of not being able to see him, and it aches still when I think of not having him love me back. I don't know what I should do, and I don't know what he wants to do. I know that I want to keep in contact with him, I want to keep being friends even though we don't go to school together, but for all I know, he couldn't care less if he didn't see me. We're good friends, we talk in class all the time (pisses the teacher off to no end), I see him before school, but we never talk on the phone, or really hang out after school. If I were to ask if we could make plans, he would do it, but he has never really been the one to plan things. He does have a busy life, play practice until 5:30 every day, and he works from 5:30-8 (yes, its pathetic that I know this), but I just don't know anymore. I just wish that I could stop loving him without losing him...but I'm not sure it's possible. Please help me...I just want to give up. (link)
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listen... you are only in high school. your reall love will come. sure he might be a great boyfreind but hay.. a girl gotta do what a girl gotta do!
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ok well i have a best friend who i really like . i liked him before but he didnt like me back becuz he was "confused". now that he isnt anymore it seems like he likes me. but im not exactly sure how i can find out. he wouldnt tell anyone if he actually did like me [hes very secretive] so i cant ask a friend to ask him for me. i dont want the whole world to know either. last time i liked him i told him and long story short he didnt like me back and the whole school felt bad for me. wats the best way to find out without actually asking him, im scared of regection i really really am. and i hate it becuz he has tried to make a move on me twice [i think] and i kinda backed off. he had his face really close to mine and i think it would have led to a kiss if i hadnt pushed him away. and then he sat really close to me and i kinda scoot away. and i dont know why i do this. i really like him and i want him to like me back. and im afraid that im maybe pushing him away but why? why would i do that?? i do like him. and im not a prude or anything. its like i dont even think about what im doing and then later i feel stupid. help please. i hate myself rite now for being stupid. bleh!
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u are not stupid... just confused. next time, go what feels right INSIDE. not what you think what will happen next. if you fell uncomfortable, have a talk with him and say, i just not ready for this yet. you will do great with this guy.
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I was wondering for people who wants their body to be burned to ashes when they die, how come there's still a coffin to be burried even though their ashes are going to be kept in a jar?
For example, Anna Nicole Smith (link)
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i think it is just out of repesct for the deceaced person.
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hey thanx for the advise. its funny how u said i should kiss him and see what the responce is. just the other day i was hanging out with him and he put his hands on my shoulders. he was facing me and was really close to me. as in it was like he was about to kiss me. but then im not sure why but i pushed him. i think i got nervous or something. no one was even around. i wish i had kissed him.
do you really think i should? how when where when. when this happened was after school but part of me is afraid he will get freaked out. also if my friend, that likes him finds out i think she might hate me. i REALLY want to kiss him though. haha thanx (link)
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well, i think if you get that oppertunity again... go along with it. and if your friend gets mad explain the WHOLE story to her.. if she understamds you, then she is a good freind. hope this advice works!!!!
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i know i keep asking this question but i cant help it. it just hurts so much. i told my best frind i liked him. he was so flirty and everthing he led me on. and then when he found out that i thought he felt the same way about me he told me that he doesnt want a girlfriend. and when i directly asked him if he liked me he said no. but that was last month so much has happened since. when someone asked if i still liked him i said no rite in front of him. im not sure if he cared or not. but he still always flirts with me to the point where other people tell him not to. they think that he is hurting me by doing so. also there is another girl that likes him. she is in our group of friends. he knows about her liking him. i have never seen him flirt with her though. he will always flirt with me in public. he tells me he loves me but im sure he doesnt mean in a romantic kind of way. i value our friendship so much. he makes me so happy. m not sure what i should do at this point. i know he doesnt want commitment. i know he doesnt like anyone. i know he sees me as his sister rather than a girlfriend because he doesnt want a gf. but i cant help wondering if he would date me if he wasnt afraid of commitment. should i tell him that i like him or should i just try to get over him? he has no idea i still like him because i was trying to play hard to get, though im not sure that worked either. please anyone. im tired of thinking about him sooo much and then knowing that he will never like me.
thanx (link)
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one word for u ... KISS him. see what his reaction is!
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I really fancy this guy (lets call him J) in the year above me and I know he knows who I am and I've hung around with J and his friends, although never directly talked to him and I'm not sure whether he's interested in me or not.
Recently I went to this youth club and didn't know J would be there, but he was. When I sat down I was talking to this other guy (D) and then when I looked round as we had stopped talking me and J somehow managed to lock eyes and then we both quickly looked away. Then later, J came up to me and jokily warned me that D fancied me, I just laughed because he had made a joke like 'watch out, its dark!' but I didn't say anything back.
For the rest of the evening J sort of hung around with me and 2 of my mates, one of them who is like his best mate. He never said anything specifically to me though. When he and his best mate left I said bye to them and they both said bye back.
The next day me and my friend were on the train and so was J, when he saw us he went, 'Wow, its the girls from yesterday!' and I noticed that although he was talking to one of his girl mates, he kept looking back at me, but we never made eye contact.
And at school once he just stared at me for ages but he wasn't making eye contact so I couldn't be sure whether he was looking at me or someone behind me.
Then yesterday I went to the youth club again, he didn't really hang around with us for the first hour but I noticed him watching me when one of the guys got me up to do strange dancing (I felt like a total prat) and when another guy I'd never seen before came up to me, told me he loved me and then stood there hugging me for about five minutes, J smiled and made eye contact with me in a way that said 'He's crazy isn't he?' and I said, 'Riiight' (signalling that hug guy was strange) and smiled back at J. Then later we were sitting down and J sat near and when someone asked if we all (people in the area we were in) hung out together, he looked at me and then said 'yeah' (which is strange cos I don't hang out with him) and later on we made this eye contact and it was like no one else was there and it was just me and him, like we had this secret understaning, I looked down after a while. It was weird, but good.
I saw him today and it seemed that whenever someone talked to me he sort of looked at me in interest. But his eyes are really hard to read, when he's not making eye contact I don't know whther his eyes are just glazed over and he's just looking in my direction.
He seems to be not the type of person to approach someone he doesn't know very well and I'm the same, so I can see that it's going to be hard to get chatting to him.
Sorry if it was long, but do you think he likes me?
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ya... u should just come up and say, do u like me? if he gets red or anythin' he likes if he doesn't and just walks away, he still likes u.
HAY! if that doesn't work, just come up and kiss the guy, see what his reaction is.
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i have this friend, and we've been friends for a while now, but now im starting to really like him. so i wuz talking to his friend (who also happens to be my friend) and told him that i liked him, but not to tell anyone. i kno that was stupid because i know he'll tell him. i was thinking that i'd just go for it, so that's why i told him. was that just the stupidest decision i could ever make? (link)
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no, i think u had to say your feelings to someone, if u fell like that again, just write it down, and then tear it up... it helps! or keep a diary, that what i do, i can get all my feelings out without telling anyone.
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15/f
Well, I started high school this year at a new school so I didn't know anybody. But now I have friends and one that I'm really close to. He and I Instant Message all the time, flirt, hug... I can tell him personal things and he will confort me when I'm sad. he's awesome. But I love him. I have a huge crush on him. But since I knew he didn't/doesn't like me back, last night when the subject came up I said I used to like him but that I didn't anymore. And he's like, "but I liked being liked by you. :-(" I said he gave me the idea he didn't want me to like him. So we recalled an awkward conversation we had a few weeks ago that had ended with him saying, "Why does this have to affect our relationship as friends?" Then he asked if he broke my heart, I said yes, and he felt really bad about it. And I kept trying to tell him it ok because he can't help it if he doesn't like me the way I like him. But he says he feels like he led me on, then pulled the rug out from under me. Which, he did. But I was like, "no, no, it's my fault." But that's not really true. He DID led me on! A lot! But I don't want to tell him that because he already hates himself for hurting me. And it'll just make me feel like an idiot for thinking he could ever like me. Tonight we're going to the Spring dance at our school... and I'm scared I'm going to start crying. He mad me promise a while back that I'd save him a slow down. But now that I'm certain he doesn't ever wanna be more than friend, I'm scared I'll cry or things will be awkward. Our relationship is a mess now! What do I do? (link)
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wow! i think what u JUST said or typed, u should say to him... it will work out.
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14/f
So, I'm getting a haircut on Friday. I really want something new and different, but not TOO different, know what I mean? I want to look good, not weird. This is what my hair is now: dirty blonde( I hate saying my hair is 'dirty' but that's really the best way to describe it) usually straightened, about 3 inches past my shoulders, with chinlength pieces framing my face, as in bangs from fifth grade that never totally grew out. Totally boring, right? So, basically, I want you guys to give me some new, exciting styles that aren't too weird. Oh, and no extensions, my mom would never let me. As for length, I want it shoulder-length or longer, because I like good ponytails. Oh, one more thing that might help: I have an oval-shaped face. If you can find pictures of the style you describe, that would be great, but words work too. Thanks in advance! (link)
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i think i have the perfect thing for u! ANGLE hair cut or a big SHAG cut! or a bug Layer job, but if u want a really curly hair, just have him layer and layer!
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ok, there is this guy who definitly likes me ad i think i like him too. i have a feeling he might ask me out and i want to say yes but i know that people are going to wonder what i see in him and probably laugh and make fun of me. he's a great kid and really nice and he listens to me but he's not very attractive. what can i say to make people not bother me if we go out? (link)
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just say... hay.. he's cool, and it doesn't matter if he's hot or not! just enjoy yourslf with him.
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