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Rejection
Ok, I'm 17/f and I have a problem with this guy. Last summer I got introduced to him through mutual friends. We hung out ONCE for a few hours the day before I went to San Diego on vacation. We just went to the park and then to hang out at a fast food place where the guy works. Well, I went on vacation and long story short, he told me he was IN LOVE with me and asked me out. I wasn't attracted to this guy in the slightest and the "love" thing weirded me out. So, I NICELY turned him down.
I didn't talk to him again until the next school year (this year) and he barely spoke to me. I was fine with that because I didn't even know him. Well, I just recently started talking to him online and everything is fine. He compliments me a lot but whatever. My best friend was telling me that he told her how much he likes me again and how "not even God" could help him with this one.
He asked me to go to the park with him last night (for today) and he was at work so he told me to call him when I woke up. Well, I'm volunteering today so I can't go anywhere, but I'm really confused. I feel really bad for him to reject him twice, but I'm not going to date him out of pity.
I just need a way to turn him down without making everything weird. The thing is, no matter how much he likes me, he won't talk to me at school or even at the prom! I'm in one of his classes and he just doesn't say anything to me. And at prom he ignored me completely but later told my best friend that he really wanted to dance with me but he was too nervous. If you like someone, don't you at least TALK to them?
I just need something to say to him to not piss him off or hurt his feelings. I don't want to lie with something like "I'm not looking for a bf right now" or "my parents won't let me date"...I want a real statement but I want to give a reason this time so he doesn't do it again.
I may be 17 but I've never had guy trouble like this before. Help!
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Some people are so shy that they never end up talking to the person they like. That could be his case, obviously. If you're not looking for a boyfriend right now, then tell him that. He doesn't have to know that it's not true.
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just say, listen, i know you really like me, but i really don't. give him many complements like, you are a really great guy, and any girl would be lucky to get you. we are not a perfect match, but you will find that special girl... someday
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Just be like
"Hey, we need to talk."
Then;
"I know you like me, but I can't go out with you because we don't share those same feelings. It would never work out. For two people to be happy together they each have to feel the same way towards eachother. I'm sorry, but lets just talk and be friends."
That's the best I could come up with. You don't have to say exactly that, just something similar about how you dont exactly feel the same way.
But, good luck, hope I helped you Darling
-LoveSucks♥
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