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hey,i'm Nicole. I'm 23 years young. I'm from New York...i do the best i can on giving advice on this site.drop one in my inbox n i'll get to it as soon as i can.i like spending time with friends, shopping,and playing soccer. my interests are music, singing and dancing.

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My friend found a baby kitten at her work and I ended up taking it because she couldn't. It looks about no more than 2 weeks. It can bearly hold its head up and shakes when it walks, its eyes are fully open and it fits in the palm of your hand. I have a bottle for it and it takes a few drinks then pushes away. How do you know how much to feed it? Do you know exactly how old it i? Do you know what I need to do for a kitten this young? Please help!!!

My best advice would be to take it to a vet. For all you know, it could be sick and need immediate medical attention. Not to mention, it probably hasn\'t been vaccinated yet.

HTH

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I feel really good when I laugh and I love laughing. The problem is that I find almost nothing funny. A lot of people laugh when other people get hurt which is what most "funny videos" on youtube are about. And I honestly don't think they're funny ._. I also don't like most "funny" movies. Can anyone give me some ideas what I can watch? The only person I can think of that makes me laugh is ellen degeneres ._.

I like watching funny animal videos. They\'re usually pretty good for a laugh!

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I have registered for my 5th year for college and it seems as though I am not getting any financial aid money this year. What is going on? I filed my fafsa a month ahead of time. There was a verfication worksheet I had to do (which is suppose to be random, but I have done this for the 3rd time in a row) and I did it late, but that was after I found out that I can print my IRS transcript online, so I had to wait four weeks. 2 weeks because I accidently ordered the wrong one and another 2 weeks because I had them mail it to me. Still, that is not a good reason for me to NOT get financial aid because most of them are student loans.

Well I know that you can only get a TAP award for the first 4 years of undergrad work. As for a Pell grant, you have to meet certain requirements...the options are to be in the low icome bracket and one or more of the following : to have a child dependent on you, to be married, and/or to be age 25 or older (otherwise you\'re considered a dependent of your parents).

If you haven\'t received an offer for loans, then there might be an issue. Try resubmitting your fafsa and seeing if anything changes.

Also, check your state scholarships. Sometimes they offer incentives for certain degree programs.

Hope this helps!

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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand?

Coronary artery disease is the most common type of heart disease. It is where the blood vessels shrink/get smaller and allow less blood to get to your heart.

If you are having heart problems, you need to see a doctor. This condition can result in death if left untreated.

Best of luck!

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So, I'm 14 and this boy has already admitted he likes me and I have done the same. We arnt in a relationship but we both think it's likely to happen, we get along really well and we always talk. Over the last few days I feel like he's been dropping hints, the other day he was asking me about how far I had been and as I'm only 14 I have only kissed a boy, then the next day he asked me how far I would go with him and I just said 'I don't know' he replied saying would you ever do stuff like blow jobs and stuff, I didn't feel too comftable talking about this with him but I didn't say anything, I just kept saying 'not sure' ect...
Last night he asked me if I love him, obviously I said yes because i do, he said 'prove it;)'
I said 'how?' And he asked me to send him a picture of me, dirty or not.
I haven't sent one I kept saying 'I look a mess so no' and stuff, I don't want to send him a picture of me, I think it's cringey...
He also said 'when we meet tomorrow what do you want to do?' (This is this afternoon now) and I said I didn't mind.
He said 'I'm sure we can find a bed somewhere;)'
I'm pretty sure he was just joking when he said this but I'm just curious, why is he asking all this?
He is 16 and I am 14
Thanks :)

I completely agree with lightoftruth. I know that you like him, but I'm going to be honest with you-he doesn't seem like he is genuine.

I would suggest that you let him know your boundaries, and if he doesn't like that, then there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If he really cared for you, he wouldn't be pressuring you or making you uncomfortable as such.

Stay strong & hold your ground

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So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap!

Yes, it is possible that you might have contracted Chlamydia in the mouth. To be on te safe side, I would go to the doctor/clinic to get tested.

Also, I would suggest using condoms or abstaining from any type of intercourse until both of you are cleared. It's not worth risking your health!

Best of luck!!

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I'm 14 and I've noticed that there is always this thick layer or white stuff, it's not gooey or slimey or wet. It's not inside my vagina but on the inside around my vulva, it's really embarrassing and I don't think I could tell mum or a doctor. I've always thought it could be toilet paper? Not sure.
Any ideas on what it is and how to get rid of it?

Honestly, it's probably just discharge. It could also be a yeast infection, which can occur naturally (not an STD). They usually have to be treated using something store bought (like Monistat) or a prescribed antibiotic.

If left untreated, these things can get nasty. I advise you to go to a doctor. It's what they're there for!! And don't be embarrassed to talk to your mom-I'm sure she's been there.

Hope this helps!

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I have so many on my thighs and it's getting hotter outside, I'm gonna want to wear shorts! But... My stretch marks are really getting to me, it makes me feel uncomftable showing legs.
Anyone know any good ways to help them fade?
I know that they stay for life once you have them, I don't need reminding :)
Thankyou x

I just had a baby, so I'm right there with you! Honestly, do not use Palmer's cocoa butter-it doesn't work and smells weird. There's an oil that they sell at Motherhood Maternity stores called Stretch Mark Oil made by Mum to be. Here's the link: http://www.motherhood.com/mobile/product.asp?Product_Id=933990511&MasterCategory_Id=MC41

Hope this helps!

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my age is 16 and i am a girl from india last month i got into a relationship on 9th but it was nrmal and i got my periods on tym but this month i have not yet got my periods ? can his regular kissing make me pregnant ? he slept on me but wid all the clothes on ? can this make me pregnant ?

No, normal kissing cannot result in pregnancy.

Hope this helps!

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Hi. I'm a fourteen year old girl and I have terrible social skills. It comes to my attention that I only have two friends and I can't carry conversations very well(they end quickly.) I can make friends online, just like that, but that's different. The other night, my parents had friends over&& they started asking me questions and when I answered..they looked at me like what the he-y? It got really awkward, I wanna be able to make friends and know what to say/how to say. Advice is much appreciated.

I would say to try and work on transitions. When someone asks you a question, don't just respond. Respond with an answer and then transition to asking them something about them. Try a topic that both of you have in common-that should help to keep the conversation going.

Oh, and maintain eye contact and smile!

Hope this helps!

confusedbabii

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Is acne contagious? Because, ever since I started going out with my boyfried who had really bad skin, I've started getting zits, and I VERY rarely get them, but there's heaps!! D:

I have never heard of acne being contageous....but there is a chance that it may be a rash (which would be contageous). At the same time, you could just be extremely stressed.

I would suggest going to a doctor/dermatologist. They should be able to tell you what it is.

Hope I helped!

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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=561630
Well that was the question I submitted before. The thing is that me and this girl used to be good friends until a week ago when I supposedly "played" her friend around. I spoke to her, apologised to her in a large manner (writing a large essay!), she said everything was cool and told me that she's "willing" to talk to me IF I put in the effort, but when we used to talk, our conversations were dry, so I got rather annoyed and told her that "if I'm wasting my time trying to build back this friendship, let me know" and she told me, "there's no point in wasting your time, I don't want to talk to you".
I don't know what to do, I wanna get back with her, but she treats me like shit, so I want to get over her...help? thanks!

I would suggest to just not even bother. She is not worth your time, and clearly you can do so much better than her. If she doesn't want you, then she is not worth your time. Get some of your friends and go out. Try some new things. You WILL find someone new and who is genuinely interested in you.

Hope i helped!

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"Otsego Amigo."
Someone said this to me and I don't know what it means... Could somebody please tell me.

I think its Spanish, jeez I don't know.

was it hasta luego by any chance? it means until next time

pronounced ah-sta lou-egg-o

hope i helped

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I'm 17 n a guy..well its been well over a year since me and my ex broke up, I still can't get over her! I find it really depressing, I can't seem to get the courage to find another girl to get with after my ex. I'm not sure if I can ever get back with my ex, but I want to try, without seeming desperate or anything. If I can't do that, can you help me find a way to gain courage and talk to and meet new girls?
Thanks, helps appreciated!

If you want her back, tell her. You'd need to talk to her about where you went wrong and what you want to do differently and she needs to know that things will be good.

If you want to talk to/meet new girls, go out with your friends in a group and talk to some girls. Maybe have a friend hook you up with someone. Go to a party, or strike up a conversation with someone new. Have confidence in yourself!

Good luck & if you need anything else, message me!

-Nicole

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how bad does it hurt when a girl loses her virginity? is it REALLY painful?
and i also heard that sometimes the girl bleeds, but then some of my friends told me that they didn't...so when do you bleed?
and does it ever hurt the second time?

Some girls bleed when they lose their virginity, others don't. It's possible to bleed the second time also.

From my experience, I bled both the first and second times, but it wasn't painful.

Hope I helped!

-Nicole

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Does the guy ususally orgasm first or the girl? and if one person orgasms first does the other one keep going until they orgasm? just a tad confused

Guys usually orgasm first, but they usually stop after they do. Lame, but generally you have to ask if you want your partner to keep going.

Hope I helped!

-Nicole

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What does the expression "I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve" even mean?

It means that someone is showing their emotions to you and they're letting you know how they feel. They're completely open about it, and they're not holding back.

Hope I helped!

-Nicole

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I feeling mentally unstable and im only 15. My mom was very mentally unstable and I dont want to bring the family more grief now that shes well. For example, I'm getting paranoid like her, about irrelevant things. Second, I think im a mild sleep walker and im definetly a sleep talker. I dwell on negative things that dont matter too much and I talk to myself when i think of something stressful, in like an outburst. Its really weird and I didnt used to do this until stress came into my life. I dont have as many friends as I used to, im a little boring, and I used to have it all, kind of. I come off as confident and fun and most like me but inside dont feel the same, all the time at least. I know im really pretty but I use it to feel better about other things, for example, me saying im prettier that some girl whos skinnier than me but has a boyfriend is my escape from the pity of my singleness. I've only had one real bf and he wasnt amazing, never made out either, but this was my awakening this morning. I wet the bed. I dreamt I was peeing all over a toilet when i was peeing all over myself. It wasnt a full blown thing but still visible. I havent done this once in 5 years, embarrasing enough, and I didnt have to go badly- I can go to sleep having to pee badly and wake up fine. I never had sleepovers with friends, and at one many years ago with my cousins i wet the bed once. When I go out of state I sleeptalk more often, and I don't want to reveal private information. I've slept away at a 3 day camp once when I was ten with my friends and nothing bad happened, so now im going out of state for 4 days, and I want to be more normal. I want to know whats up with my in my many ways, and how to fix things so I can be closer to the old me. Great things happen to me that would bring most tons of happiness, but i really want a ton of good, real friends at school, and maybe a boyfriend and less enemies, because i don't do anything to offend anyone. That would make me happier than being the homecoming princess

I would say to either talk to a close friend, or maybe a school counselor. They're there for your health. You can even talk to the school nurse. If you feel that you're mentality is going to become dangerous to yourself, please seek out a real doctor.

Wetting the bed is normal when a person is in a weak mental state. When a person is young ( a child), they mostly wet the bed because of the fact that their bladder control is not fully developed, but some adults and teens who are uncomfortable in their place and time actually do wet themselves.

As for your wanting to be closer to the old you, well all I can say is to do things that you used to. Talk to some of your old friends and try to get together. Maybe you lost a hobby or sport that you lost along the way that you want to pick back up again. Maybe you just need to get all of your frustration and vent to someone. Writing also helps!

Message me if you need someone to talk to; I'm here for you!

-Nicole

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ok so i went to kohl's and bought 2 pairs of jeans-- one was a size 0 average and the other was a size 1 average/regular. for some reason, the size 1 is much tighter than the 0! i didn't wash them or anything, i just bought them and tried them on and the 1 is tighter. why is this?

it was the brand of the jeans. i know that Glo jeans fit really tight and Aero jeans are a little more loose fitting. to make it short, different brands sizes fit very differently.

hope i helped!

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14/f

I know its a while away(like a month and a half- 2), but i like to plan ahead of time.
our anniversary(one year) is october 25. and his birthday is november 12. i wanted some ideas of what i could get him. and for our anniversary i wanted to get him something to show how much i love him.
idk, he had a great idea for my birthday present (which he told me, but never gave me, and my b-day was a month ago...)

so ya, can you please help me?

ok the whole him not giving you a birthday present thing is not very cool of him.

but guys LOVE food. i think for one of those things you should find out his favorite meal and make it for him! (probably your one year)

and for his birthday...you could get him a videogame that he wants or something...his friends or parents should know.

hope i helped!

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