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Age: 17
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okay, soo i'm 15 years old and i've never had a boyfriend before.. I find being my age and never having a boyfriend is kind of lame. haha.
I've always been really shy, so talking to guys is something i've never really been able to do.
All my friends have had boyfriends but they're all not shy. i've always been shy so coming out of my shell is hard, the only time guys really talk to me is to get the answers on a worksheet, or to ask me for a pencil! anyways, I like this guy but I have no idea what to do to get him to like me too. I don't have any classes with him anymore but I do see him in the hallways sometimes. when we did have a class together he was always really nice to me, he would notice everything about me like if I got a new pair of jeans or other little things and he would always TRY to talk to me but I was too shy to hold a conversation with him.
WHAT DO I DO?!
what are some ways I can get guys to notice me? I don't want to get of highschool and have no experience with guys.
How can I come out of my shell at school?
I neeeed help :(

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hi I am 18 and i didn't have a boyfriend until i was 15 either I lost my virginty to my best friend and we ended up dating and then he broke my heart i took him back and about a year later i got pregnant he was there for me but he left me when she was 10 months he broke my heart again.
If you want to talk to this guy you need to become really good friends bu not to good where he won't date you but start there and then little by little he may like you in the end.

well i hope i helped


Guess what time it is? Yep time to name the baby!

I found out today that I am going to have a girl, and I need help coming up with a list of girl names that end in the letter "Y."

It is what I always wanted but now that the time is here the only one I can come up with that seems fitting is "Accidentally" LOL!

Thank you please? (link)
harmony
Trinity
baley
lacey
haley
ashley


hello sorry to bother you but this is very importent to me i'm 14 yrs old and my doctor said i have a sist i'm over weight so i think thats the problem. i want to know what can the sist cause , how searious is it and what can i do to help it to go away ? my doctor said that i might need to have surgery to take it out and i want another opsions do you think you can tell me all you know about sist it's very important to me please and THANK YOU..... (link)
HI I know some people that have gotten ovarian sists and sometimes they will just come and go and others you do have to get a little surgery nothing serious but sometimes they can cause you not to be able to have kids but thats is on a rare occasion well thats all i know

hope i helped :)


There is this guy I’ve been with for almost two years now, and our relationship has been kind of bumpy… We’re very different from each other, until we come across these little things that remind us both how similar we are… But anyway, the differences between us have started some very big fights and we have been fighting since six months into our relationship. About a year into our relationship, he broke it off because he said we fought too much and because we were so different… That crushed me, but things started to build up again, and before we knew it, we were celebrating our second valentines day together again. I’m in love with him, crazy about him, and I thought things were starting to improve between us, But this past February, he broke it off again after another big fight… He said he couldn’t take the fighting anymore and he was tired of hurting me, etc. etc… But he wanted to remain friends… I wasn’t so lucky this time around and he’s been trying his best to stick to just being friends… He doesn’t kiss me anymore, he doesn’t tell me he loves me, and I hardly get to spend time with him anymore… And I’ve tried, but it’s hard and it hurts to not be close to him anymore, and I guess that because of that, we’ve been fighting way more than when we were together… It’s probably immature and stupid, but the fact is that I can’t pretend to just be his friend when I’m crazy in love with him… And I’ve told him all this, and a while ago after another one of our fights, I told him I couldn’t take it anymore, that I’ve been too depressed trying to be his friend, and that we fight too much and that I couldn’t take it anymore and I told him that it was best if we didn’t see or talk to each other ever again… He cried and he begged and he kissed me and he said he loved me too much to loose me forever and he asked me to please try harder to be his friend… So seeing him so hurt, made me give in again and I tried again, but the fights came back, and a couple of days ago we went trough the same thing again… I told him I hated fighting with him, cause it was hurting both of us and I told him I loved him, but that I couldn’t pretend to keep doing this… I was a bit more firm this time, but he cried again and that was that… I erased his number from my phone, but the next day he called me back over and over again, until I eventually gave in and answered… He told me he loved me and couldn’t live without me and that he needed me by his side (just not as his girlfriend), he cried a lot and begged and said he would kiss me if I wanted and that he would spend all day with me together and we could make love and do everything we loved doing when we were together… and I gave in again, and yesterday, Friday we did just that… But at the end of the night I cried again because I knew that when the day was over, we were going go back to just being friends… And that’s what happened and here I am, depressed again because I can’t have the guy I love… BUT technically I do have him… So my question is, should I wait until he’s ready for a relationship, or should I let him go, for real this time… And if he loves me so much, why doesn’t he just want to be with me, am I missing something? Any advice would be appreciated,

I think I’m going crazy. (link)
ok yeah this is really immature on his part he obviously wants you or he wouldn't keep calling you what you should do is tell him that you can't do the friends thing because what are you going to do when he get a new girlfriend then you will be nowhere it seems like right now hes using you until he does get one so just ignore him don't answer his phone calls just don't talk to him at all trust me he will realize how much he misses you there and he will come back to you more then a friend but for now just stay away

hope i helped


me and my friend both like the same guy.... she dosnt know i like him but i know she i like him. she always talks about how much she think she loves him. me and him have been going out secretly. she just thinks we're friends. she told me scince we're such good friends if i could ask him out for her. i dont want to hurt her feeling, i feel guilty i'm dating her crush. she's been my bffl ever scince i knew her,and he said he likes both of us..... what should i do? (link)
ok first of all if he is dating you and tells you that he likes both of you that sounds kind of bad to me it doesn't sound like a good relationship so i would break up with him and let your friend date him, and since he said he likes both of you then he probley isn't that good of a guy anyways so i say move on or your just going to get hurt.

hope i helped


my parents are normaly pretty cool about stuff but i have a good [guy] friend who lives realllly far away so when he comes over i want him to stay over night. they say no because theyre paranoid or whatever. i wouldnt dare do anything with him, but its retarded to make him leave the day he comes down and im pretty sure he wouldnt be able to stay anywhere else. can anyone help me think of valid points to say to them? ive tried telling them the fact that he lives far away and stuff and they just arent listening to it. thanks in advance. (link)
ok i have had the same problem but it was with me staying over night at a guys house when my mom wouldn't let me i wrote her a note saying that me and him were just homies and wouldn't think about being anything more then that at all and he keeps my mind off stuff that is making me feel depressed and its just like best friends staying at a bestfriends house my advice to you is to write your parents a very thoughtful note


does doubling up on condoms [using two at a time...instead of just one] create a bigger chance of preventing pregnancy?? (link)
No doubling the condoms is way worse then just using one because then the two condoms would rub to gether and rip eachother which would make a whole and that way sperm can get out and into you so DONT Double the CONDOMS

hope i helped


how much does an abortion range from (link)
i disagree with the person that said to use google because if you don't want anyone to find out bout it then well the sites you look up will always be on your computer and advicenators just says advicenators on the top so yea ask what you want to ask and it is about 100-500 dollars like the other person said


I had sex with my best friend. We currently aren't going out, and I don't want to. It was a night that I got drunk and I wouldn't say he took advantage of me because I wasn't fighting him. I'm not afraid of being pregnante because im on the pill yet I regret it. He called me, and was like I just wanted to tell you that the other night was magical and that I enjoyed it very much.. And now I hate myself because he's my bestfriend and he wants a relationship with me when I'm questionin even being friends with him.. He knew I was drunk and didn't care. I don't blame him for getting drunk but I do because he did know it wasn't right.
How do I tell him that I regret it? (link)
ok i have kind of been in this situation well lets see i didn't want to go out with my bestfriend but then i had sex with him and well i didn't mind that but then when he asked me out after that i couldn't say no because for one i did like him alot and plus after doing that with him well it would of been a bitch move not to go out with him but now my relationship with him is better then ever


To Start with I am Female and 16. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and he has brought up having sex quite a bit recently. Me and him are both virgins and he seems pretty keen to get it over and done with. I am worried however, not because i don't think i'm ready, but because i was wondering whether I should shave down there because he would prefer it or should i just leave it? I keep getting told different things. Some of my friends says it shouldn't matter, but then a majority of people I have spoken to said that guys prefer it to be shaved. Does anyone know what guys prefer? (link)
ask him what he likes but i say just do what u feel comfortable doing you can shave some of it and trim the rest or just shave it all off whatever you feel would be better.
hope i helped


Hi, I Am Female And 16 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and we are thinking about having sex in the next few months. Me and him are both virgins though. I am worried about how much it is going to hurt on my first time. I am quite shy sometimes and don't like showing I'm in pain. So the question is How much does it actually hurt? And How can i cover up the pain or reduce the pain? I desperatly need help with this. Please help. I am kind of scared about how much pain I may have to go through, but I just want to get it over and done with. So, How much pain? and How can I cover up the pain or reduce the pain? thanks xx (link)
ok the pain isn't that bad if your not thinking about the pain and don't worrie bout covering it up because its going to hurt and when something hurts you always have a reaction to it the pain isn't as bad as everyone says it is
hope i helped


so he's pretty popular.. im somewhat popular i guess.. we both like know eachother.. like who the other one is.. n talk online a little bit.. but i want him to like me.. how can i show him that we "click"? (link)
just hang out with him and well i don't know i am in a relationship right now that i somewhat popular but he is really popular and we met through a friend and hung out alot and became best friends over 2 months and then we started dating so yea just start hanging out with him and be yourself don't act like anyone but yourself
hope i helped


my names lisa...(13/f) ok so im good friends, well actually best friends, with this guy named jake...and for some wierd reason i think im starting to like him, but im way to scared to ask him out or anything because im afraid it would wreck our friendship. Plus i have no idea if he even likes me or not...some people say he does but i dont know for sure. What do i do!?!?!?! (link)
ok ive been in this situation im goin through it right now lets see i had this friend and he was really good friend and he liked me alot but i couldn't get myself to say yes and go out with him but then he asked me out finally after like 1 month after asking me out i said yes to him and i am going out with him right now and it is going good because we know eachother so well already and i can tell him almost anything and he tells me i think about everything i can tell you what will happend next but i will tell you to take a chance and just move with it don't hold back
hope i helped


16/f
What's the best way to ask my mom if I can go on birth control ? It's not because I have sex, but because my cramps unbarable. I brought it up to her once before, and she said I was to young & how my older sister didn't go on it until she was 18. Any ideas on how to bring it up to her and/or how to get her to say yes ? Anything helps. Thanks :) (link)
you don't have to get your parents permission to get on birthcontrol they don't have to know but if you want to ask your mom about it then tell her about how bad the cramps are and how one of your friends had the same problem and the birth control thing worked for her so i think it would help me alot say something like that
hope i helped


I'm a virgin and me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex. How much would i bleed. What if i end up bleeding on the bed or something. any tips?

thanks. (link)
well some people bleed alot like i did but others just bleed alittle and it will get on the bed you can's stop that you can put a towl down though to make it less grose
hope i helped


im so scared i might be pregnant. i had sex with this guy on may 18th. he didn't come in me, he had a condom on, but then he took it off, n he came in my underwear, which i put on like right after. that day was a friday. on saturday night, like at 11 or 12 at night i felt kinda nauseas. i dunno why. then i felt nauseas monday morning till like wednesday morning, but it might have been because we were disecting pigs in first period every morning. after that, i didn't get nauseas or anything anymore. i got my period regularly three times. i just finished my third time. i noticed it was kinda light. it ended maybe a day or two sooner than usual. last night in the shower, i noticed my stomach got a LOT bigger. not like super huge, but i'm a skinny girl, &it got bigger. could i be pregnant ? (link)
i don't know i think you would have noticed before now that you might be pregnant but i don't know you could be


im a 15 year old female. i think i might be pregnant but im not sure.. there is no way i can go out and get a pregnancy test. so is there any other way of telling if you are pregnant without the test?

thanks! (link)
no i don't think there is well i guess there is one way take your temp. and if it stays the same for a week then that mean you could be preg. but i would get a test somehow if i were you. don't worrie everything will be fine im sure you have someone that can buy one for you
it will all be ok


Hello, I'm 16 female and I had my period and the beginning of June and then about 5 days after I begin leaking a dark color, but it only lasted about 2 days. and then after another 4 or 5 days it started again and only lasted a few days. and It happened once again. And now it is july 13 and I haven't actually I don't think have had my period and the weird stages of bleeding have stopped. I did have sex in mid July, but we used a condom and he pulled it out when we did have sex. We do fool around and he cums, but I can't think of a time when I could have gotten any on me. so I was just wondering if this has happened to any one and what it may be. So please any advice is welcomed!! (link)
um well i looked all this info up and well it says that if your period blood is bright red color it is your period but if it is a dark brown or pink color it could be spotting
you might be pregnant i would take a preg. test


Does it actally hurt your first time? Why? Do you bleed???? how long does it last? (link)
um both my sisters said that it didn't hurt for them but when i first had sex it hurt really bad to where i almost wanted to quit but most the reason why was because i was pernoid.
it hurts if he tears your hymen or pops your cherry (sometimes)
yes i did bleed alot but my sisters didn't and nither did one of my friends
the hurting only lasts a little bit the bleeding doesn't last that long either
hope i helped


When you comment on someone's "Honesty Box", can they see who commented or is it TOTALLY anonymous? And can other people see what you've commented on someone else's honesty box or is it just the person who can see it?

Thanks! (link)
ok no the whole thing is totally anonymous and no noone but the person can see what you have written in there honesty box and they won't even know who it was so when it say reply it will reply to them or to you but knowone else can see it at all




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