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Hey everyone. My name is Caleb, and I am a 16 year old male. I really enjoy helping others with problems they may be having. If you have a question about anything at all, just ask, and I'll give you the best advice I can. Thanks.

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I was really living the life! Queen of the whole 1st year high schoolers was never hard to get used to. I was the most popularest girl in the whole grade, but only because I was head cheerleader, and ofcourse like every fairytale I had the star player on the football team, the most popularest, cutest guy in the whole grade, as MY boyfriend! Life could not get better! My dad had a great job so I was what you would call "Filthy Rich", and lived in a huge house!
Then one day my very rich dad lost his very "rich paying" job. We moved into a room in an apartment room, and I had to quit the cheer squad because we could not even pay the $80 fee. Then after that the roomer got around that I was now poor, and my boyfriend dumped me, which meant my popularity went buh-bye! Soon after that, my daddy got a call from his job asking for him back, so we got our house back and I re-joined the cheer swuad and the roomer went around and my ex-boyfriend asked me out. I said to him we can try. So I am going out with him on the Tuesday after X-mas, and I'm going to see if he really likes me or my popularity! But this guy is SOOOO cute, popular, and romantic! Should I dump him or take back my role, i mean after all, he is the MAJOR CRUSH of the whole grade and he likes ME out of 56 other girls! What should I do?

Dude! What are you thinking? He'll only stick with you if you have money and a gynormous house? Give it up. You'd probably be that much more popular if the HOTTEST guy in the grade wasn't good enough to get you back, so in the interest of you and your popularity, hell to the naw.

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I am 28/f. The situation is complicated. He has had a female best friend for a while now. I have always felt a little jealous, like he was spending more time with her than with me. I know her and her boyfriend, and thus am 100% sure he is not cheating with her, but I am still jealous. About two months ago, we started marriage therapy. When he told me he wanted to to that, he said he felt like he should move out for a while and had arranged to stay with this woman temporarily. Now I am insanely jealous of her. He knows this. So does she. They are starting an internet business together, and as work at the same place, and spend a lot of time together as a result. We have been doing well in therapy. He understands my jealousy and has been spending less time with her over the past couple months, but now they are starting to spend more time together again. In fact, he is at her place now working on their internet project. Her bf is there too, but it is still hard for me. I don't know if I will ever stop being jealous of her. Honestly, I would feel better if he never saw her again. But I know that they are just friends, and I would feel terrible asking him to not see his best friend again.
Oh, about 5 years ago, I had a male best friend. My marriage was on the rocks then too as I was in the midst of terrible depression (for which I take antidepressants still). My husband let me go out with my friend all the time, so now I feel like a hypocrite not wanting him to spend time with her. But I never made arrangements to live with my friend.
Other than this issue, we have really worked out pretty much everything in therapy and are doing so well. I am very much in love with him again, and he loves me and makes it very clear. That only makes me feel worse about this jealousy I feel. Then I get stressed. It is a downward spiral from there.
I guess my questions are: Should I be so jealous? What can I do to make it less of a problem? Will I get over it? Should I ask him to not see her, or is that just a bit harsh?

Well, I understand why you would be jealous. No offense to you, but I would never let my wife go out somewhere with another guy, but on the other hand, I also wouldn't go out with another woman, and definitely not live with her. I mean what kind of crap is that. He chose to be with her over you. That's ridiculous. If you're married, you're married. That's it. You don't just say oh well, we're fighting I'll go stay with this other woman, even if she is his best friend, until we can live together again. What kind of crap is that. The truth is you shouldn't take this much crap off of him. I mean I wouldn't say he couldn't be around her, but working together should be enough. After a reasonable time of working together, he should come home and be a husband. Husband first, best friend second. You have to come first, no matter what. I hope you work it all out; I'm sure you will. Good luck.

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Hey!
Im 14/f
I have this prolem where people keep pointing out that i have rather large boobs. It is really embarassing and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I am a 34B.
So i guess i want to know if there is any way to appear smaller or make my breats less noticeable.
I wear a lot of polos and dont really like very baggy clothes.
Thanks so much!

34B is perty big for a 14 year old. Maybe you'll get C's or D's someday, then you'll have a problem. I wouldn't think it'd be a problem then though.

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Its natural to want to clean yourself, ect. But its also natural to be in love. Or even to crave sex. How can anyone help it if they like men, not women, or vice versa?

your feelings as a member of a particular religious community notwithstanding,you have a responsibility as a citizen to support the extension of the same civil rights you yourself enjoy to everyone equally. Race, sex, religion, and sexual orientation must not affect the even application of civil rights.
Homosexuality is not morally wrong, but even if you believe it is, you must not oppose the right of any person to claim equal privileges under the law.
the bible is not literally written. God says 'adam and eve' because that is the NORM. Most people aren't gay. But that doesn't make it wrong, just not what eveyone does. If your argument is that gay couples can't get married because they don't produce children, then you have to say that old, or infertile couples shouldn't get married as well, because your using a whole different argument to validate your point of view.
Its been great.

Ok, the Bible also says that a man shall not lay in bed with another man and vice versa. I mean that's not a verbatim quote, but it says that. I didn't say it's because they can't produce children, it's that even if both are fertile neither can. Old or infertile couples, if they were fertile, could reproduce. Homosexual marriages can not produce children. This nation was founded on Christian beliefs and laws. Yes, everyone is equal, but homosexual marriages should not be allowed. It's as unnatural as a man and a dog getting married.

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Hello people =]. I am 5'3'' (63 inches) and I weigh 139 pounds.. I want to loose a lot of weight and fast. ( www.myspace.com/meg_92 ) I was wondering... does anyone know any diet plans.. exersizes.. that can make me loose weight, get ride of "love handles" that my mom keeps bugging me about?.. please help!

ps. i do exersize, i am a cheerleader so i run almost daily and do a lot of jumping around..

Well, basically, you have to eat good and exercise. Running is good. To get rid of the love handles do some side crunches, but that only goes so far. Eat more small meals that are low fat and have some protein in them. Eating small meals throughout the day will boost your metabolism, so will protein. Other than that, it just takes time. Good luck.

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does sex and masterbation feel the same or is it
diffrent (for the first time)?

Different. You won't really know til you've done both.

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Ok, so i recently read an answer you gave to a guy who was asking about Openly gay Celebritys. You said that gay marriage was unnatural, and wasn't valid because there were no children.
i would like to point out that many things that everyone loves are unnatural. Such as soap, cars, birth control and glasses.Are you against SOAP??
And, if , by your standards a couple has to produce children to have a valid relationship, then infertile and old couples can't get married, because there will never be any children.
If you can give me one good reason why its wrong then i will change my opinion.
p.s. sorry forit being so long.

Well, about the soap thing, it's natural to take care of your body, like hygeine. So keeping yourself clean is perty natural. Older and infertile marriages that are between a man and a woman are natural because MEN and WOMEN are supposed to be together. God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve, or Eve and Eva. I mean come on, cars and birth control, it's natural to transport yourself by way of vehicles to work or whatever. Birth control is to keep you from having kids when you're not ready; how is that not natural?

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i strighten my hair all the time. Almost every time i wash it which is evry 3 or 4 days, does anybody know any good shampoo's, conditoner's, sprays, serums, mousses, anything that will help. I want the cream of the crop, not just anything so be sure it works

Try washing your hair everyday, not twice a week. Cleaner hair is happier hair, yay. Bathe often too, helps with the stink. Better yet, just incorporate some basic hygiene.

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Why are people so close minded? I thought I'd ask you since it in your case it probably takes one to know one.

Well, let's be open minded. Let's just try to accept everything that comes at us in life. Let's let human cloning be done. Let's let terrorists rome around unchallenged. Man and Woman is natural. Homosexuality is not. Cloning is not natural. Allowing others to run over you is not natural. Gay rights to marry is just one of the issues that can be included in your "Why are people so close minded?" argument.

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Since when is having children the point of marriage? If it is, then should we also stop elderly people, infertile women, men with ED, and people who have had vasectomies/tubes tied from being married?

You said gays shouldn't be married because they cannot have children. I'm just wondering if this applies across the board.

Umm it ain't natural. Elderly men and women and infertile men or women or men with ED are natural. Homosexuality is not. These people could have had children; Gays never could.

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I'm delivering a speech favoring gay rights in america for my college and I'd like to compile a list of openly gay celebrities but I can only think of about four and I can't find anything on the internet that's reliable. So I was wondering if anyone could possibly help me find something.

Thanks in advance.

Why should gay people get married? It's not natural; they can't have kids. So, why should they be allowed to get married? That's like saying I have a right to be in the NBA, even though I suck at basketball.

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my dog is a maltese and turning 2 years old [ i guess 14 in dog years ] and lately has been barking a lot at night. he used to when he first got here but stopped. about a week ago he started to bark after everyone goes to sleep. so i have to keep going down stairs and wake up and either hit his cage or take him out to the garage for him to run around and come in...but he keeps barking a few minutes after i go up. what should i do? should i try to tire him out by running with him or something right before we go to sleep? or will that have an opposite effect and have him wanting to play more? please i'm desperate - i havn't been able to sleep at all because i'm the only one who is willing to go downstairs. thanks in advance.

Smack him on the nose and say no or SHUTUP! Worked for my dogs.

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Well my gf broke up with me then the next day made out with her ex. then me and her loved eachother again and we kissed and stuff and had a good time. then she told me she doesnt want love or a serious relationship but the next day has a bf that she had just told me the week before how she hated him so much. so i guess the question is really just what should i do next try to persue her or forget about her cuz ive tried that and its workin i guess but i still cant just forget her shes saved me from too much and has been there when i needed her but now we seem detached but i still luv her so idk just want some opinions please.

Ok, well about when she said she hates that guy, a lot of times when a girl says that or gets mad when she's talkin about a guy like that, it means she still has feelings for him, otherwise she wouldn't be so upset. Second, I wouldn't waste on more second of my time on her. You already took her back once after she dumper and made out with another guy and then gets a boyfriend after kissing you again. No way should you put up with that. I'd just ignore and act like you're not bothered at all. She may come back to you, but if I was you, I wouldn't take her back. Well, I helped. Friendly advice from Burnie Mac.

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15/F

I know everyone is probably getting annoyed with all these fitness questions, but I need help.

If I do the bysical(sp) for 1 hour everday or 3 times a week, watch the calories I eat, & just stop eating sugar foods, will that be good enough to lose weight?? I`m not going to eat any junk food or anything sugar & just stick to juice & water. Do you think this is a good start?

If you guys want to add something more, be my guest. =) Thanks

Well, if you want to really look better, you're gonna have to do more than just the bike. Like for instance, sit ups, crunches, running, light weight resistance, things of that sort. The juice probably isn't a good way to go; it's loaded with sugar and carbs. Plain water and any type of fitness water is the best. Well, I happen to know a good bit about fitness seeing as how I powerlift, play football, and lost 50 pounds last year, so if you have anymore questions, just ask me. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Burnie Mac.

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Thanks for al the advice. Yeah it's weird a girl i just want to be friend with comes to our house while were gone and leaves me cupcakes on the kitchen counter. She trespassed. Don't you think this is crazy? What should i do about this?
But i also I used your advice and when we were leaving class I fianlly talked to her. I asked her where she'd been at. She had been sick a couple of days. She was smilling but looked up rarely and talking sweet but looked like she was in a hurry. What does this mean? What do you think i should say to her next? How can I tell if she likes me or not?

Thanks

Dude, the girl gave you cupcakes, she acts shy around you, plus, she gave you CUPCAKES. Yes! She likes you. Marry this woman. CUPCAKES!

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um i know this is kind of a weird question but how do u kiss/makeout? like what are some "techniques?" and what exactly is making out, it it basically french kissing? thanks, i rate

Haha, you just do it; no big deal. Just go with the flow. After a few times, it gets easier. Good luck. Friendly advice from Caleb. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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My power is out and Im SO bored!
I NEED something to do.
the way im doing this is on my lap top but I cant plug it in because there isnt power and it only has a little power left! So I cant use it for much longer.
Theres NO lights, fridge, TV, or anything.
Its also cloudy so its dark and theres not a lot of light to see.
Im home alone.
Please give me some ideas of what to do!!

www.bored.com

Enjoy.

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17/f
I don't know what to get my boyfriend of 4 months for valentines day. I cant get him a shirt because I already got him that for his birthday. I was thinking chocolates.. but is that enough? If that's not enough.. should I make him dinner? Should it be all fancy with candles and everything? Or should it just be like eating dinner in front of the TV? Any other ideas for what I should get him? Thanks

Well, since I happen to be a dude, I'll tell you what I would like; maybe it will help you some. I'd really like for my girlfriend to make me dinner and invite me over to eat with her and watch a movie or something. If you did that and gave him something, like chocolate or whatever, he should be plenty impressed; at least I would be. Well, I hope I helped you. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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im going to use an example from my sisters history to explain this. I ask her out using your approach. She says yes. We date for a little while and then break up. Will that kill the relationship we already have. This has happened to my sister 3 times. thts why i said the first sentence. Thnk you so much aagain.

P.S. you can probably tell im not very good at this dating stuff. And if you ever get any more dating tips,could you please email them to me at magicman0922@aol.com? i would really appreciate it. Thanks again

I'll send you some tips dude. Just ask me anything you want to, and I'll help you out the best I can. I've been through some pretty weird stuff with girls, so I know some things, but there's always more to learn.

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sorry to bother you again. Just wondering, this girl is my best friend which is kind of weird because that usually does not happen to me with the girls being the best friend. I mean she is in 5/6 classes and she already tells me most of her secrets. I know i like being around her and i know she likes being around me. I just dont know if she likes me like i like her. And i f i do ask her out, and she says no, will that ruin the relationship that we already have?

Well, being attracted to a girl physically and all that stuff fades after a while. Friendship is what holds a relationship together. I mean I can't lie to you, if you do go out and yall break up, it will be a little awkward, but you can still be friends. I really think that if you like her this way, that you should try it. Just take the approach I told you and see how it goes. If she says that she doesn't like you that way, then just say, "Well, that's okay. It's no big deal. If you don't want to do this, then we don't have to; we can just be friends." It won't be all that awkward. I hope I helped. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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