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What should I do?
I am a 14 year old girl and during my holidays, my twin cousin sisters came to stay with us for a few days and one day we decided to have photo shoot in our bikinis near our pool. But the next day those photos got sent to Mrs. Olivia, my class teacher and I was completely oblivious of this when I got a WhatsApp message of her scolding me for this and says she wants to talk to Mom.
I am so scared. What should I do?
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First, I'd come clean to your Mom as to what happened. You have done nothing wrong. Now if all three of you were nude in the photo, then yes, it is a problem. All my daughters would pose in their and my clothes just to take pics of each other and sometimes their friends were involved. BUT, nobody ever put on line or worse yet, sent straight to the teacher. If you didn't do it, then your cousins did and so your Aunt needs to know. They made a bad decision not asking your permission to post and its worse by targeting your teacher, like they wanted to rile up the teacher on purpose. That issue needed to be resolved. Now for the teacher, she may be on the prudish side and alarmed if she thinks too much skin shows. I am thinking thats well known if the case, because why else send directly to her. We have the right to wear whatever we want to wear for clothes and that extends to underwear, bathing suits and shoes. Your real problem is not that you did wrong in taking those photos. Those photos could be shared with anyone in the world and they wouldn't even think it was a bad thing to pose for in bikini. Tell your Mom what happened as the next step is her calling your Aunt and telling her what has happened. The true crime here is your cousins deciding to send such a photo of you, in bikini to your teacher. If you want, you may show her my answer. Unless your family is super conservative religious, I used to attend such a church when in my twenties, your parents should 't have any issue with it. Sometimes, people like to poke fun at people they feel are hung up on whats normal for sex. I witnessed a gal faint at the alter on wedding day because they hadn't even kissed yet...so strict were the man made laws of the church that parents were enforcing.They never had sex and annulled the marriage. I was at a beach wearing a bikini and this was a church event at the local lake. Many others wore various kinds of swimwear but all the females were told to wear a t shirt over their bikini the whole time. I refused. I saw that the wet t shirts from swimming looked a heck of a lot more seductive clinging to every bit of skin and bikini. By sheltering kids from things like this, they grow up not knowing a thing and thus are dysfunctional when it comes to having a loving husband or wife someday. My daughter was on a mission trip to another state and were told whenever they heard the phrase, "ground check" they were to stare at their feet on the ground and not look up until the leaders deemed that the offensive object could no longer be seen. She sneaked a look and they were passing a nude statue in the park and she was disgusted that these people were making a big deal over nothing. A man whistled and the girl next to her started sobbing and hyper ventilating over the whistle. That shouldn't be happening. Maybe in some ways, your teacher is like that, for the same or other reasons. Thats their perspectives and view and that is something that should never be forced on kids and teens. Kids who have something kept hidden away from them on purpose are more likely to be so curious that in secret they check it out and can be so naive with not being taught stuff that a teen writing in wanted to know if she might be pregnant from just a kiss from a boy. Now that is real ignorance and the adults are enforcing it. Its bad enough without your cousins jumping in and trying to make it worse for you.
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