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Depression and anxiety
I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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thank you for asking me a question. i just want to say that i am going through the same as you in the terms of trying to find love but haven't had much luck in the guy department. i am 31 and i too am experiencing depression and anxiety.For me personally i try to not compare myself to other people especially on social media- it's quite a challenge but you have to realize people's relationships are far from perfect. People only show you their superficial perfect life through pictures saying how great it is to be with someone they barely know or to have what they have. trust me- it isn't as perfect as you think their lives are.I have discussions after discussions with my mom personally and she says hard things like, they're relationship isn't as great as you think it is. chances are they'll be divorced soon and believe it or not i have seen it already- people move into each other's places too soon- without knowing the person. so what happens? many women get stuck living with a guy without a ring on their finger- no lady wants that unless they aren't looking for anyone serious. Marriage also takes a lot of self-sacrifice and some people put on a facade for years. Social media and people nowadays over exaggerate everything, it's quite annoying and it's quite old. deep down no one cares about anything anyone does on there. Guys are jerks and yes it is very hard to meet quality guys. I also read a lot of books on relationships and starting to read more on thinking more positive. I highly recommend the book "why men love bitches"- it is without a doubt a fun book.If you download the app called play books- you can also find a lot of free books on there for great advice on whatever you're feeling. i also use youtube non-stop for podcasts.As far as depression and anxiety- you could start joining groups. personally i jump around church groups, volleyball leagues, axe leagues and anything to help me get out of the house to help me find friends like you.I gave up on dating sites because guys on there aren't serious- we live in a tough world where people have commitment issues. I very much feel for your depression and anxiety, however know that you are young and people find love at all different ages. do not let a stupid timeline define your life- it's very stupid and unrealistic. people do different things at different times in their lives. I also listen to a lot of people like joyce meyer- she is a great speaker in terms of comfort and there's plenty of other people on youtube that can help you get through the hard times. i enjoy scripture as well- if you're religious it gives me great comfort in knowing that other people in groups are going through the same pain as us. because trust me- everyone is going through the same stuff as you and i cry too. There are lots of people out there trying to find love and i believe god wants everyone to have love if that's what their hearts desire. Also, try doing things you love doing- hobbies. hiking, dancing, trying new groups, meetups. Embrace yourself by being single- you can travel around or try new activities without some dude breathing down your neck.It's kinda nice to roam freely without a guy worrying about what i do. being independent is actually a pretty powerful thing whether you know it or not- you have the confidence to do what makes you happy. work on yourself! : ) find single groups or speed dating in your area, find single events.try not to think about it- chances are if you put your energy on something else and you're out and about another guy will resurface. everyone has their season of love- it isn't my time yet- but something tells me you're season will too come when you least expect it. If you're wanting other suggestions or have any other questions i will do my best to answer them- take care and love yourself!! <3
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