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Hi. Last night i had a strange dream where the girls in my family were trapped inside this house and there was a scary man who threatened us all the time. We kept thinking of ways to leave the house but he had two guns.
the strange part of the dream was that I was expecting. It was so surreal to me that I was shocked in the dream. I am 20 years old and I have never been in any relationship like this nor do I have any plans. I don't consume any media that would make me thirst for motherhood. The closest i have come into contact with a baby is baby sitting (when i was 12 and then when i was 17).
is this dream just random rubbish? The man was my old teacher who was awful at teaching his subject and got scammed a lot. I don't know why he was there or why he was holding guns. I do not have any brothers and my father (Thank GOD) is extremely loving and caring, we all get along with him well. Was this my brain creating a weird show? Either way, this dream keeps haunting me and leaves a strange taste in my mouth. I dont want to have a child right now, i am scared. Please help , thank you (link)
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I'm no dream expert but they do have websites where it helps you analyze your dreams like dream dictionary and other sites to help you out. Sometimes I google things on my dreams and look on there to see if anything makes sense. Also, sometimes if you eat before bed you get terrible dreams and you probably already knew that. But not to force prayer on you, but I usually pray before I go to bed for good dreams. There was this sleep gummie that I used to take and it gave me nightmares all the time lol. But I have learned that there are dream pages out there from a psychology class, maybe some psychology sites have dream stuff... I probably was not much of help but I do look at dream stuff all the time on google and by googling it other people have their thoughts on similar dreams. Sometimes we just have bad dreams
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I’m 16 and a female and I have had the same three best friends since junior high. In the past, we’ve all been inseparable. But recently, they have been ignoring my texts and hanging out without me. I’ve reached out to them asking if i did anything to offend them, but they’ve all brushed it off by saying “of course not” so I really don’t know what to do. (link)
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Those don't sound like good friends to me, I've gone through many phases where I thought people were my friends but they left me and hung out with the same people for years and even into our 30's they are still with those people.
Not that this pertains to you or not but I feel like you grow more as a person if you develop new friendships excluding ones from your younger years. It's all about quality too especially with how they treat you.
It sounds like you also tried to confront them- if they brush you off then they aren't your friends. At your age people care too much about what people think of them and they're catty and rude.
I hope they either come to their senses or you could move on. Try hanging out with other people- they might even approach you and ask you what happened? I would shrug it off and say I deserve better friends who love and value me not people who have double standards and are two-faced. It's also a rough stage where girls go through and sadly it never stops.
Teen years suck- I remember jumping around group to group and it was easier since I couldn't get caught up in the same people without any investment of feelings being involved.
I hope you can find some comfort in ignoring their crappy behavior and find better people to invest your time in.
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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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thank you for asking me a question. i just want to say that i am going through the same as you in the terms of trying to find love but haven't had much luck in the guy department. i am 31 and i too am experiencing depression and anxiety.For me personally i try to not compare myself to other people especially on social media- it's quite a challenge but you have to realize people's relationships are far from perfect. People only show you their superficial perfect life through pictures saying how great it is to be with someone they barely know or to have what they have. trust me- it isn't as perfect as you think their lives are.I have discussions after discussions with my mom personally and she says hard things like, they're relationship isn't as great as you think it is. chances are they'll be divorced soon and believe it or not i have seen it already- people move into each other's places too soon- without knowing the person. so what happens? many women get stuck living with a guy without a ring on their finger- no lady wants that unless they aren't looking for anyone serious. Marriage also takes a lot of self-sacrifice and some people put on a facade for years. Social media and people nowadays over exaggerate everything, it\'s quite annoying and it\'s quite old. deep down no one cares about anything anyone does on there. Guys are jerks and yes it is very hard to meet quality guys. I also read a lot of books on relationships and starting to read more on thinking more positive. I highly recommend the book \"why men love bitches\"- it is without a doubt a fun book.If you download the app called play books- you can also find a lot of free books on there for great advice on whatever you\'re feeling. i also use youtube non-stop for podcasts.As far as depression and anxiety- you could start joining groups. personally i jump around church groups, volleyball leagues, axe leagues and anything to help me get out of the house to help me find friends like you.I gave up on dating sites because guys on there aren't serious- we live in a tough world where people have commitment issues. I very much feel for your depression and anxiety, however know that you are young and people find love at all different ages. do not let a stupid timeline define your life- it's very stupid and unrealistic. people do different things at different times in their lives. I also listen to a lot of people like joyce meyer- she is a great speaker in terms of comfort and there's plenty of other people on youtube that can help you get through the hard times. i enjoy scripture as well- if you're religious it gives me great comfort in knowing that other people in groups are going through the same pain as us. because trust me- everyone is going through the same stuff as you and i cry too. There are lots of people out there trying to find love and i believe god wants everyone to have love if that\'s what their hearts desire. Also, try doing things you love doing- hobbies. hiking, dancing, trying new groups, meetups. Embrace yourself by being single- you can travel around or try new activities without some dude breathing down your neck.It's kinda nice to roam freely without a guy worrying about what i do. being independent is actually a pretty powerful thing whether you know it or not- you have the confidence to do what makes you happy. work on yourself! : ) find single groups or speed dating in your area, find single events.try not to think about it- chances are if you put your energy on something else and you\'re out and about another guy will resurface. everyone has their season of love- it isn't my time yet- but something tells me you\'re season will too come when you least expect it. If you're wanting other suggestions or have any other questions i will do my best to answer them- take care and love yourself!!
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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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It sounds like you're trying to figure out who you are. I am a bit of a tomboy myself where I like to wear comfortable clothing and when I get in the mood I like to dress up with some makeup.
I recommend looking up groups in your area- I'm sure there are lots of people out there like you trying to figure who they truly are. Try googling "gender identity groups-include your zip code or area that you're in." That way you can get the proper love and support you need in figuring out who you are.
ALSO- Facebook probably has LOTS of pages out there like- "Discussing gender critical & gender identity"
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I tried to delete my Covid-19 question but it didn't let me after it was posted. I noticed that it came across as me being entitled when it's the opposite and not the vibe I was trying to project. I know full well that there are tremendous risks for the other 4 people I live with. I'm not the only person who goes to Wal-Mart or does the shopping. All of them go at once despite the risks.
I'm not allowed to go anywhere but the variety store and around the block. We live a few streets away from all the restaurants and stores so my folks don't want me out walking. I don't bike either. I also assume every person on the street is stupid when it comes to Covid-19.
I'm relieved that masks are now mandatory here in all public spaces and walking on a sidewalk. You'll get a $1,000 fine provided an enforcement person sees you if your face isn't covered.
I'm also the kind of guy who will tell people to get out of my space if I feel they're too close in a store or walking too near. I also have sent back pizza and other food items that were not delivered contact less. If there's anyone paranoid about health and that of other people around me it's this guy.
The point I didn't make well in my first question of which I couldn't delete was that this isn't an issue of stir-crazy feelings everyone else has. I have a form of depression where I'm either happy or deeply depressed and it's either one or the other. I've been stable for 2 decades. Where I get in trouble is if it cycles from one to the other or stays in depression for considerable time.
Worse is the manic energy that just doesn't go away unless channeled into some activity or I'm constantly active at doing something anything.
To me being able to go out serves a purpose. I have filled my time as I said before with movies, concerts, theater, comedy clubs and attractions as an outlet to feel better. I don't have access right now to human interaction, support, or normal routine.
This is why I pointed out what's the difference between one place deemed safe versus another. Anyway, I'm occupying time with drawing and caring for a new animal friend. Maybe that will help.
I just wanted you to see that I am putting people first and have from the start but things haven't gone both ways but we know the reason why.
it's frustrating that nobody here believes anything the government says or does with rendering places safe. My family thinks Canada will turn into the U.S. with all the problems they have with Covid the second places open up.
We've opened up in 4 stages over a period of 5 months. It's frustrating. If you have any more advice that's great. It's fine by me to delete the previous question unless you think it's helping others. (link)
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What you're feeling right now is completely normal since everyone in this virus is completely nervous and going through depression.
If you're wanting to find activities I would suggest trying to find a nearby church- they could have virtual meet ups if you're interested in socializing with others or a meetup group- where they might have virtual groups as well.
meetup.com.
Also, you don't necessary have to live nearby in order to join a virtual group.
As far as delivery- I'm sure you could call up the place and tell them you want a no-contact delivery for pretty much any company.
I'm an American- so I do find that really interesting when you said your family thinks your country is turning into ours lol, but the thing is- it's everywhere- meaning everyone is HIGHLY effected by it. Countries like Italy, France, China and all over the UK are effected.
Don't worry about your post- people like me are on here trying to help answer your questions.
Honestly there isn't much we can do about the virus other than stay put and put our trust in God- God wants to help us.
Try to keep yourself busy by doing things you enjoy doing and stay safe by wearing a mask and washing your hands.
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I am a 28years old married woman and the only child to my parents. I am very close to my parents, especially my mom used to be my whole world before I got married. Things have changed a little bit now as I spend all the time with my husband in abroad far away from my friends, relatives and parents. My parents have a faulty marriage. Initially after their marriage, mom was abused and ill-treated by my dad and his family (typical Indian Joint family) but after my birth my parents moves to another city (close to my material grandfather's family and their relatives) due to my dad's office posting and started as a nuclear family. Now my mom got entangled by her parents and brothers family issues. They used to involve her on every family related problem and she was made to go to their house to resolve every issues. After years of using my mom's help and wasting her energy my maternal uncles and their wives also insulted her and being such inhumanly ungrateful that they absolutely deny all my mom's contribution to bring peace in their otherwise troublesome lives. I have witnessed all these wrongdoing and mentally as well as physically taxing situations that my mom has to deal with. I tried to make her strong in giving back answers when others try to insult her. I fought for her. I have stopped communicating with so many ingrate relatives as they treated my mom with no respect. I protested for her rights. I fought many times with my dad for dominating my mom. But its been a few years now that I have started noticing how my mom tries to provoke guilt in me when I don't support her. She makes me feel that I am becoming like those ungrateful relatives who insulted and denied her contributions in their lives, that I am becoming ungrateful and like others I am forgetting all her selfless sacrifices and contribution in my life. It has become so difficult to discuss her faults with her. Sometimes I feel my dad is right in some aspects where my mom is wrong but I can't tell it to her without a heated up conversation. She doesn't admit her shortcomings. So most of the time I try to avoid discussing any family related issues with her.But she calls me up and keeps complaining about my dad and how he fails to perform his nupital duties. She asks me constantly to talk to dad as it is solely my responsibility to talk my dad into being more serious about life and become responsible. I asked her not to force this burden on my shoulder. But she makes me feel guilty for not paying attention to this trivial family issues. I am fed up. I even feel guilt when spending happy time with my husband. As I consider myself to make my parent's relationship a happy place, I feel guilty to be lead a happy life with my husband because my parents are not happy in their relationship. I know it unfair to my husband. How can I overcome this guilt trip? (link)
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So what I do is I look up psychology articles on how to deal with certain people. It's really hard to overcome guilt trips since I experience this as well.
I find articles on https://www.psychologytoday.com/us to help me cope with things like people being passive aggressive, gas lighting and guilt trips. Depending on your situation that website is a great source to help you cope with whatever kind of abuse your going through- emotional trauma blah blah blah.
If you're struggling with needing the right support and not sure how to deal with it another option is support groups and counseling.
https://safeconnections.org/
Not to get too personal but they also have a hotline available- 24-Hour Crisis Helpline at 314.531.2003. It's an excellent resource for people who are struggling at home- yes I have used it lol. It's always great to talk to a professional they can get the ball rolling and help you get on track.
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I’ll start by saying that I am of a legal drinking age. But I’ve never done ANYTHING sexually. Other then with my own hand. So this is embarrassing please be nice. With that being said I want a vibrator but I’m embarrassed to go in to an adult store and say I want a vibrator. I know I could order one but I don’t want one of parents getting it. Because sometimes they don’t pay attention to who’s stuff they are opening. Should I just ask my mom for help or just buck up and go get one? Like if your a mom would you want your daughter coming to you asking for a vibrator or would you rather not know? If you would say to ask her how would I even bring it up? If your wondering my mom is pretty cool but I know when my sister told her how many partners she’s had my mom did not want to know. I also know my mom has vibrators.
Sorry it’s so long!! Please help though!!! (link)
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It's perfectly normal to feel like this, as you get older things like this won't bother you. If you don't feel comfortable purchasing exotic things yet- you can always try sites like Adam and Eve or Amazon for sex toys. The sex shops by your place might even have websites to purchase stuff as well.
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Are there any anime/manga experts here? I love the style of drawing and am studying how to draw characters, hair, poses, eyes etc. and am doing well there. The thing is the closest I've ever seen to anime or manga is Into The Spider-Verse. I have never seen an actual show or movie. I want to know what is good and popular or rather where to start to immerse myself in it. Perhaps you might be able to help or recommend what you enjoy watching in this genre. (link)
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Hello, I'm not sure if you have facebook but there is a page called "Anime Nerds Institute" where there are lots of anime fans on there who enjoy anime just as much as you do. The page posts daily just about everything anime related including shows people watch, cosplay, fan art, etc. There's a good chunk of them always on the look out for new shows like you or are pretty into that particular genres, I know when I scroll I always see people posting their favorite shows on there.
Also I'm sure you can find plenty of blogs, groups on meet up or find people to help you network with your anime online via google, social media.
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I am from Austria, 31 years old and a female. I met this guy at dinner with my friends. The two of really hit it off just talking, we had a great time, exchanged numbers. He sent me super romantic texts. So i figured it was okay to open up and i told him about stuff I was interested in plus, I asked him what his plans were for the weekend. After that he stopped responding. On the same day Friends told me, that a few days ago, he called them in the middle of the night to tell them he has fallen head over heels for me and he doesn't know what to do. So I tried it again after 36 hours, asking if he was very busy and that I hoped that he doesn't think of me as bothersome.I asked him to meet up with me to talk, because our mutual friend made me blush with her questioning. Of course only if he still wishes to do so. No reply. I did not want to engage to him, i just wanted to tell him that I would like to get to know him a bit better before deciding on anything. So now after a couple of days I realized he ghosted me... Next week I have to go to a party that unfortunatley cannot be avoided without causing a lot of trouble and he will be there aswell. How can I keep my dignity? Even though I am awfully embarrassed and i feel super stupid... (link)
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I feel like it's a guy that is toying with your emotions. Honestly, I have so many books on guys and I LOVE THEM. One book I have is called why women like bit.. lol. Have respect for yourself and call him out on his crap, and if he cannot change his behavior-move on. Our society is pathetic when it calls to "dating." YOU'RE NOT AN OPTION!
Love yourself, protect yourself and stand up for yourself. There are plenty of jerks out there and trust me I know how you feel lol. I'm single too and it is impossible for me to date as well. I go to speed dating events and believe it or not, those guys there were noobs, just wanting sex. Honestly, I realized those kinds of guys will always be hot and cold to only mess with your emotions. You deserve better and it really is sad how guys do this nowadays. Guys aren't guys anymore.
Find fun hobbies to do- maybe you'll find a better class of guys in those hobbies.
It's hard- I have yet to find a decent guy.
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I didn't go to college and have two young children. I currently work in a factory 2nd shift and hate every day of my life. I also have sales experience. I currently dont have the time to go back to college and wont for 3 to 4 years. However I cant seem to get promoted even though I have sales, prospecting, and interpersonal Communication skills. It's also frustrating due to the fact I can explain Quantum computing/Entanglement, AI, political science, differentiating factors involved in solar, vapor, hydro, wind, fusion, fussion energies, have an in depth knowledge of history, finance, and general business. I spend hours studying just because I love to learn and challenge myself but I cant move forward in any job. How can I overcome this? (link)
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Some community colleges might have work-force study where you can learn different skills. Coding is always in high demand, so programs like launch code are available.
Also, there are lots of meet-ups to learn new skills.
It sounds like you could be a tutor as well.
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Do you have to pass any math exams or be good in math to be a medical assistant? (link)
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I went to school for Medical Assisting. You will have to take a state test in order to be registered. Most places may have that as a requirement. There was not much math, but there was some math involved. Overall, it too depends on where you work at.
I went through a 10 month problem and it's impossible to get a job.
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How can i reach my climax during sex? (link)
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You might want to talk a doctor about this or possibly do a google search. Or maybe practice with yourself.
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I need to save up money for college and this seems like a pretty easy way to do it. What website should I post on? To clarify, I mean editing for writing, like essays or really anything. If anyone could help me with this, that would be great. (link)
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I am sorry I personally do not know of any websites however I would try googling it or having someone look at it. Most schools offer free tutoring.
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