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Depression and anxiety
I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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What you really need to do is get a grip on the depression and anxiety first. Tell your doctor what you are feeling and that it's not going away. They will refer you to a psychiatrist for treatment.
Also, if you have only had three relationships that failed than you're doing fine. Many people have way more. What I would do is stop counting failure and take lessons from each and move on. These men were not right for you and it's not your fault. You probably dodged a major bullet by not marrying the person who ditched you.
32 is just a number and still young for kids. It may be hard to see your friends getting married but I'm confident it will happen for you when you are ready.
As far as finding friends go ask yourself what you are interested in and join clubs or if you like certain sports find co-ed classes for parks and rec. You can also meet people volunteering for the same cause. One of the best things to look into is drama courses or improv because it forces people who ordinarily wouldn't mix together in real life to problem solve together.
The most important thing is to never settle for anyone who isn't right. Also, make sure you never overlook people who may be under your nose and not on your radar. Often the best matches are made from people who don't meet your type physically or may appear a bit bland on the surface.
It's key with friends as well as potential suitors to be completely open to anyone who would treat you well. Always look for the awkward ones as they make the best friends.
I think things will start looking up once you handle the anxiety and depression with a doctor. It really will change your perception of yourself and the world and make it easier to get on with people. You have a lot to offer people but need to believe it.
People may like you but could be scared to approach or see that you are anxious and depressed. If they read body language and see you're unhappy they may back off a bit. Always be aware of that and what you migh inadvertently be projecting.
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