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What about my gender?
Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much.
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Hello. I wish you had said how old you are, but I will answer anyway. But I imagine you are young and still creating your identity. I don't' think there is anything wrong with feeling feminine one day and masculine the next. After all, you are bombarded with images of both, all day and every day. To me this is no different that wanting to be a super hero with super powers and imagining what it would be like to have them. So if you are young, this is normal. By that I would say, under age 25. As you get older and make lasting friendships with people you meet in college or on the job, you may want to maintain a consistent image. You may settle on the one you are the most comfortable with. And you might keep that gender image for the rest of your life. Or you may not. I have a young friend who was married with children. In her thirties. I don't know what made her attracted to a certain woman, but it happened and she is now 100% sure she is a lesbian. And she is not with that same woman, but has continually sought out the company of women. The opposite can happen also. And I think it can happen any time in a person's life. There is nothing wrong with any of it. There is no "right" way to feel. Though, for those of us who are born with a certain gender and are comfortable with that their whole lives; well I guess their lives are easier. That part of it anyway. But for those are are still questioning, well I believe that in time, they will find something they are comfortable with. However, wearing a tom boy outfit with makeup is GREAT. Why not! and wearing a feminine dress with no make up is also very natural and very beautiful. Here is what I think....I think you are very beautiful, inside and out, and anything and every look you decide to go with, suits you just fine. You don't have to "define" yourself unless you are ready to. And don't let anyone else define you. Good luck to you dear!
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