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private question to Solidadvice4teens
i didn't like your comment on my question on how to get someone out of your life i really don't want to be asscoiated with people like that gil i mentioned plus i am only going one day there and she goes four days as usual but i do plan on parting from that school later in the future so i hope you can get this as a private question.
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When I give advice I don't always give people exactly what they want to hear. If I did I wouldn't be doing you or anyone else any good. I'm sorry you didn't like the advice I gave but I took great care in answering based on the information you provided. If you re-read what I said you'll find that I tried to identify reasons why she behaves in the manner she does and how you could be the better person and a friend rather than approach her with scorn and make an enemy like so many people around her likely have. I wanted you to see from her perspective who you were against.
I don't give people advice on how to ditch another person or get them out of their life. That's not why I am here. I'm here to figure out why you feel that way and offer solutions and other ways of looking at things because ditching someone or trying to cast them out isn't a good thing to do.
It seems to me you have an issue with intolerance and her disability and behavior associated with it and just don't understand her and think of her as a type of people you don't like. The problem is with your perception not anything she has done.
You're getting a car ride to and from school. She's in the car one day a week as well as at your school. I think you can find a way to tolerate her one day a week there and back. That's not asking a heck of a lot of you.
You can always bring a handheld game, book or portable music player (your phone works) and put that on for the duration of some of these trips.
You also have to understand another thing. If this ride was set up by the school board for busing it can easily be taken away if there is fighting or they observe you treating her as though you can't stand her on the way to and from school. The driver will be looking at your attitude towards people you are riding with and it's the same if you are getting a lift from a parent.
Anyway, you don't have to like my advice but it comes from encountering this type of problem before and from trying to give you the best solution I can given on what you wrote in.
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