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Fantasizing more than normal?
I'm 27/f and I've read and heard that women don't think about sex or masturbate as often as men, but I think I do. I masturbate at least once daily, sometimes as much as 4 times. I fantasize often and sex is usually somewhere close in my mind's eye. I feel like my libido is in overdrive. My boyfriend has been depressed for a while and we usually only do it maybe twice a week, sometimes 3 times. Sometimes only once. But I know that's not either of our faults. I guess my question is, are there other girls like me who think they are a nympho? Sex isn't like a compulsive thing for me, though, I'm just constantly thinking about it.
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You are normal. You may have a higher sex-drive than your partner and that's okay. As long as you can go through your day filling it with normal things and aren't avoiding stuff just to go masturbate it's fine if it's 3-4 times per day. Also, during Covid-19 you're going to be stressed to the breaking point at times and have pent up frustration or desires even that needs to be released. This is one way of doing that.
Fantasizing is healthy as is masturbation. Your doing it more may have a lot to do with being constantly indoors. In fact, right now a lot of people are ordering in large numbers per an article I read sex-toys from Amazon and other companies because of social distancing and unable to have partners. Masturbation is fairly common right now with both sexes especially among your age bracket and even older as the only safe sexual release. We all do it but don't admit it.
As far as your husband goes find out what is causing the depression and get him proper help if he hasn't got it already. Medication he may on may lower lobido. You're not a nympho and thining about sex and not doing any acting on what you're thinking about is okay.
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Hope you don't object to a male reply? There is that belief that masturbating is something we do as a substitute for sex isn't there? However, plenty of women enjoy masturbating even if they are entirely happy with the frequency, and satisfaction they obtain from having sex with their partner. There's really no such thing as 'too much'. It is for you, and up to your how often. Sexual thoughts cross the minds of us all very frequently. It is not symptomatic of anything and perfectly normal. Sex addiction is generally characterized by people indulging in numerous, short-lived largely self-destructive 'relationships'. The cause is not the body 'needing sex' but tied in with the need for gratification and attention. An attempt to build feelings of self-worth which actually lowers self-esteem. The need for reassurance goes up, leading to further attempts to seek reassurance, which lowers self-esteem...and so on, in a vicious circle. Now this does not sound like you, from what you have written. I can appreciate that perhaps your sex-life isn't quite as 'busy' as you might wish at present? Hopefully you'll both address this issue. Depression has to be managed for many reasons, not just the effect on ones libido. You are, as you say not compelled to sex, and your relationship is not suffering too badly. I would suggest you masturbate as frequently as you wish. Mental fantasy imagery is fine and usual in women. Men often prefer visual imagery (porn, in a word!), that's just a difference in 'wiring' of male/female brains. In short, I would not try to think less about sex, but definitely think less (and hence worry less) about how often you think about sex. If you see what I mean? Are you the only girl who has had this uncomfortably feeling that they may be a potential nymphomaniac at some point in their lives? Most certainly NOT!
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