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i’m in love with a guy and I haven’t told him, now we’re starting to lose conversation and not talking as much. I regret not telling him and I can’t stop thinking about him, I’m scared to say it to him, but is it too late?
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Having a feeling towards someone is neautral. However do not live your life as "I wish" or "I should've" it is never too late to admit to someone that u have a deep feeling towards them! Go get your man girlll don't hold back and no matter his response , be proud of you that you were able to overcome that for yourself!
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Feelings don't always go both ways. Quite often, one person feels something strong, feels love while the other doesn't feel anything at all.
Next, if you are basing the fact that you don't converse much as a bad omen, then I feel I must remind you that between the ways of talking, face to face, phone calls or texting, that anything like texting, where a person isn't really free to just sit and wait for a response, seems to be the least liked by males and I know from asking plenty of males. The same goes for typing on line in chat rooms or any thing where they need to type much. I do not know what mode of talk you are doing the most, but I would encourage face to face talk and actual phone calls and see what the response from him is first. He may simply not like conversing in any way that isn't instant and involves typing. Also, many feel handicapped and others don't realize they are handicapped when they communicate in ways where you lack seeing facial expressions and body language. Something said in a serious tone that is just teasing, could be taken for truly serious over the phone even. Face to face is best. Now if he can't be bothered to spend time in person with you to talk, he has lost his interest.
Now lets reverse roles and I want you to use your imagination to answer your own question of whether you should tell him or not.
Lets say there is a guy, not this one, another who is secretly in love with you. You know the guy and have talked to him in the beginning simply to be nice and not appear rude but you have no interest in him as more than friends. Actually, you don't even consider him a friend because you don't click as friends, or have much in common. So you try to find ways to not converse as much with him so as to not falsely encourage him to be more than a friend or even a friend. Then one day he gets up the courage, thinking he has lost your interest and love because you don't talk to him much anymore and he tells you that he has been in love with you for a long time. Remember, you don't have these feelings for him, don't feel any chemistry. Does hearing him say he loves you, do anything for you? What does it do to your heart? Does your heart all of a sudden feel love for a guy you felt nothing in common with and had no special feelings for, before he told you? LEts take that further...do you think that at any point in your life, a mere acquaintence, someone you see daily whether at school, work, etc could tell you that they love you when you felt nothing for them before and all of a sudden, the magic words, "I love you," make you feel love too? How about a stranger saying the same thing. THe things we do know about a person we see often but are not yet friends with puts them on the same level as a stranger because the few things we do know are not the only important things about a person to know when choosing to love someone.
Do you see now how it is impossible to say or do anything that will make another fall in love with you and telling them, is just useless information because it is information that will not change how a person feels. So until you can discover if there is something else on his mind, a dying grandparent, Dad out of work, doing bad in a class or two, what ever the major crisis, his mind can be on it instead of on casual friends or girls. There may be a real issue occupying his attention if the change has been pretty quick. With the reports of Corona virus around the world, that alone is changing how people are bahaving and only a life long close buddy or the equivalent is going to be privy to stuff like this going on in the life of that person. Sorry hon, but what you are experiencing is one of the unfair things in life and it can happen to you several times. THere is no guarantee ever that just because you feel love that the other person does.
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