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RE: How to convince my mom to let me visit my boyfriend in his home country
Thanks for the advice, but I don't live in the US and in my country the age of consent is 16, which makes our relationship perfectly legal. He's a year a year older than me- not 15. I really just wanted advice on how to convince my mom to let me visit, but thank you for your time regardless.
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Good, then all is fine if the relationship progresses to sex. But still there remains whether you are considered an adult in your country. If you are, then you can do what you wish but if they are against it, you'd have to not expect them to pay your way and be able to do it on your own. Also, I have heard from adult children living with parents that they want to do as they wish but if they go against the parents, the parents s till hold the trump card which means they can kick you out and you have no place to live. Yes, I have heard of many parents who threaten that and many who carry through on their threat. So have a good talk with Mom and ask her what things about you doing this bother her. Then try to answer each of her concerns with a plan you will stick to or compromise if possible. Lets say she is afraid of you meeting strangers and you can tell her you already met him when his family was visiting in your country so he is not a stranger. Although I have met plenty of males after a divorce at almost age 50 here in US and even as an adult met plenty of guys who were nice the first couple times andk then when they thought they had my interest in them hooked, they let down their guards and their real selves came out and those were not good people at all. It is easy to be fooled and to be away from anyone who could help in case this scenerio plays out might be a concern. So you might see if you have a male cousin or brother who would accompany you on the visit and be within calling distance if you needed help. I do truly understand hon as when my oldest was about 14, she wanted to mee t a male internet friend from 2 states away when his family came to our area on a family vacation. She wanted to spend time with him but I wanted to know she'd be chaperoned and had to meet the parents when they got to town. So they did come to our house and one day took our daughter to the beach with them for the day and I can't remember where the 2nd day. So a Chaperone might ease Moms concerns, as that was my main concern and the two were always with the rest of his family, never alone. If the only concern is worry of you eventually getting pregnant, you could always go on the pill before the trip and then that argument is no longer valid. So depending on what her concerns are, answer her concerns and find a solution to all of them so you can go. By the way, as enamored as the daughter was with the guy, after spending a little time with him, even though she enjoyed it and it seemed they clicked, she lost interest later in keeping up with him over the internet. I guess her explanation is one that rings true for many. Once having spent time in person with someone, trying to have a relationship on going afterward just on internet paled in comparison and eventually he no longer held her interest.
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