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How can I tell a guy that I am not interested in him ?
First of all, I got to know someone online on discord and now we are friends on FB but he is not my style and I don't know how to tell him without making him feel like it's his fault... He look like he is a good person but I cannot feel attracted to him . What can I do ?
Gender: female , 20 , Greece
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Just say you want to say something in case he has ideas for something more than friendship, that it is all there can ever be because there isn't that kind of chemistry.
If however it isn't about him wanting a romantic relationship and you originally wanted to be a friend, him too but now don't even like him as a friend, then you don't want to say anything to make him feel bad as a bad. People still at this age, question their own behavior as the problem when it is simply not having enough in common. And no matter how much you might state that you have found little in common and are not going to be friends on line anymore, he may take it wrong. It's better if he doesn't know. NOw if it is a person you know face to face, have met, it is better to say something than leave them guessing. However, just a person you've never met except on line, and I have met my share too, we simply drifted apart, even though we started off excited as f riends, both eventually were not interested later and we just stopped looking to see if the other wrote as it became more infrequent til it stopped. So to do so gently, you might just not get on line with him as often, and make the times shorter, let him know you are busy with new things and new friends and have less time to spend on line. Ultimately, that is the better thing for everyone, to spend less time in cyberspace with a person you've never met and spend time with friends in real time face to face.
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Sweetheart,
Just put it out front saying you're not interested in him. There's nothing wrong or rude about it. If you try to be extra nice and don't make it completely clear, there's a probability that he might take it as a false hope which would hurt him even more. If you're okay being friends with him, mention it, though not a grand idea. And it's not his fault nor your's that you are not attracted to him.
LoveAnne
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