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I don’t know how to be in a relationship because this is my first and I rea
So this is my first relationship and I really like this guy but, ive never been in a relationship and I feel really bad because he’s had a bunch of relationships and this is my first. so, I’m really bad at everything like kissing and being romantic and I’m super excited to be going out with him, but I’m super new to all this how do I get better and stop being so awkward about this stuff?
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Theres a learning curve when ever we try something new. If he found something in you that he likes, then it won't matter to him that you haven't had psat boyfriends and therefore . . .experience. The best thing you could make to be your goal, is to learn how males think, reason and act which is totally different from how females do. You've probably seen funny posts about how men see things vs how women see things and they obvious are so totally different that they're not even in the same ball park. Let him know you want to learn how to understand males better and when ever he has questions about something you ssid or did, to ask you why and learn if its a female trait or something that is simply part of your unique personality,, just as some things will be part of his personality instead. Instead of always being afraid of him seeing your weaknesses or shortcomings, don't keep quiet and wonder what he is thinking about it. Say something that admits how you feel. I did that with my second husband when I first met him. He sounded like a college professor in his speech and that had me thinking (I was 49 at the time) that maybe I wasn't intellectual enough for him as I only graduated HS. Instead of worrying about every thing I said, wondering how he thought about it, or trying to pretend I was more knowledgeable, I told him how I felt about myself compared to him. And that was the best thing I could have done because . . . his answer was that I was perfect for him, not because I hadn't gone to college, but because he saw in me something that all the school learning in the world can't give a person, and that is Wisdom. You either have it or you don't and He said from our talks, he knew I had incredible wisdom and admired me for that. So I relaxed after that and was able to enjoy the relationship.
Also, some basics are the same in relationships but each person has their own likes so I have found that with each new boyfriend I had, I had to learn what things were specifically more important to him and could not assume or compare to the last boyfriend. If you have another boyfriend after this one, you will have to learn again what he likes in particular. Lets use kissing for an example. Lets say the current guy likes using his tongue while kissing and you assume that all guys like that. So when the next boyfriend kisses you and you use your tongue, that guy might pull away because he doesn't like it, assumes you do, and decides right there that instead of talking about it, finding out why, he just doesn't want to date you anymore because he doesn't like using tongues. It might seem a weird example but hon,j this is oh so true whether in your teens or at any age as an adult. Talking and asking questions is one of the best things you can ever do in a relationship.
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