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Can be disvirgined if i finger sex
How is sex like dirty words to say during sex
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Virgin is a term that came up long ago before there ever was birth control, or ways to determine if a certain man was the father of a child. So in the past, men came up with this term and a rule that a woman they marry must be a virgin, meaning untouched by a man sexually in case she might be pregnant. A man did not want to give his lands and wealth over to someones bastard child after he died. In some countries today, sex with a man is still forbidden before marriage, even though it is an outdated custom.
Before I answer you, I bet you can figure out the answer for yourself if I ask you the following question. Lets use same sex couples for this one. If there are two penis's or two vagina's and being de-virginized meant penis in vagina sex, then at what point is such a couple no longer virgins?
Would you say that if a female never had sex with a male her entire life, only another female partner, that she was still a virgin? There are many parts to sex besides the penis in vagina part.
sexual experience includes masturbating, fingering oneself or for males, rubbing their penis. Sex can also be orally done to ones partner.
Your second question may have been done in a hurry because if you read it now, it does not make sense. The way I see it, you are asking possibly "How can Sex be dirty?" and a third question of "What are dirty words to say during sex."
Before I answer that one, just as I explained how "Virgin" is a misleading word and does not convey the actual situation in todays world, the word "dirty" to my opinion, also does not apply.
"Dirty" words in the past were words one spoke that were cuss words and a parent said if they heard you speak it, they would wash your mouth out with soap. Also, in the past, women were told to e housewives and raise kids and keep up the house instead of go to work. One thing they should not do was talk openly about sex. If I was writing this during your great grandparents days, I would be accused of writing 'dirty stuff' because anything that had to be avoided being spoken was considered dirty. So speaking even just the word 'sex' or 'penis' or vagina was tossed in with cuss words and considered dirty talk. Anything spoken between two mutually consenting adults during sex, is not to be considered dirty at all but part of the whole experience.
If that is the case, then what do we call any sexual speak, any innuendo's spoken to each other during sex? It is actually a use of the imagination as in doing role play only in this the role play is restricted to the words spoken. SO I will give an example.
Lets say my husband wants sex, as do I but he had trouble with our car and it's now in the shop and he will have to take the bus for a while and his mind keeps going back to our trouble so his mind isn't totally on the experience between us. So to engage his mind, (The mind is also part of the sexual experience for humans) I would tell a little story that pulls his mind to take part in the story. I don't mean to sound graphic or offend but I share only to teach you. So I would say something like, "This wench wants her handsome pirate to bury his sword to the hilt inside of her." Any reference to a mans cock, in other words that common ones, using imagination will work. It can even be silly enough to make you both laugh and laughter release feel good hormones which will make the experience even better. I am making up the next one as I have nevered used it. YOu
have likely heard an erection called a boner. So using imagination, if talking about an actual bone, how could that be sexual talk? If the woman
in a sing song voice sang part of the song explaining what bone is attached to what bone in the body, like 'the thigh bone is connected to the hip bone', a sexual version, silly as it is could be, the penis boner is connected to the vagina bone'. The vagina has no bone anymore than the penis has a bone inside. Many males in animals actually have a penis bone and if you think I am making it up, look at this link:
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The internet is a wealth of information on sex. Since it is not taught in most schools anymore and kids are too embarrassed or the parents likewise to have such a discussion, this means you have to do some self educating on the subject. Do not belive what your friends say, even if you consider them experienced because they may missing some important facts and end up pregnant, as in "he only touched me with his fingers so how can I be pregnant?" If you don't know the answer to how that could happen in some circumstances, then you owe it to yourself to start studying. I know of a gal who started educating herself as a teen and started a blog and shared short videos on any topic you could thing about regarding dating, sex and gender issues. I will post a link to her page. I have seen all her videos and highly recommend this as a way to learn some important facts in an easy way.
It is sex education on line. There are conservatives who do not like her. I'll leave that to you to decide. The actual info is as far as I have seen in other information sites, very correct. Here is one video from her site and you can watch every single one later by bringing up her name Laci Green or putting in Sex Plus in a search and then scrolling through all videos listed below.
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