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Should I go out with this guy? And how to tell my mom (continuation)
Thank you so much for your wonderful advice! I talked to my mom and sister about the guy and she seemed pretty happy. She had me show pictures of him and asked me all sorts of things. She did warn me though to be careful as most mothers would. Now she is going to talk to my dad about it and then tell me if I can go on a date with him. As you suggested, if they say no, I would like to speak to them about us starting as friends and such. I think this will work. I do expect a no from my dad because he is protective of me and knows what young guys may think. I may follow up with you depending on what he says. Is there anything else I can do to reassure my dad?
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A good point to share is that you are 15, and it is 3 short years until you turn 18 and are then an adult and able to decide on your own whether you want to have sex with someone. You would rather spend time now getting to know and understand some of the differences between men and wemen. (please explain you mean the differences such as spelled out in the book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus', not the sex difference. There are many couples who break up over misunderstanding the heart and intent of their sweetie due to how a male or female differs in how they think, reason and come to conclusions. It is vital to learn this stuff before coming to the age of exploring sex. 3 years may just barely be enough for you to start learning such stuff. Likewise the young males also need to learn how to understand why females act and think as they do. Even if you haven't thought of this yourself, trust me, I learned most of mine after getting married. It sure helped me through my life. If your Dad needs an example, here is one that males do. In wanting to protect the female, not scaring her about something that happened, they will tend to select certain things not to share with her, such as my 2nd husband not telling me he almost fell off a roof to his death or at least serious injury, by a coworker catching his hand at last second. This wasn't the first narrow escape of injury and he knew if he told me, I would worry about him and a males reasoning is that it is okay to withhold information if it would worry or stress their lady. Also, if there is a need to go separate ways, a guy might act distant rather than come out and tell her because again he feels it would hurt her less this way. So if your Dad is iffy on the whole thing, once he hears this example, he will have to agree because I guarantee he is just like that to some extent as he is a male and it seems to be a quality bred into the male humans.
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