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I do not know what to do about my possible crush
I am a 14 year old guy. And I am part of a friend group.We have known each other for 4 years now, and we were two friend groups of guys and girls. But this year we became one close friend group.There are three boys A, B, and C, C being me. There are three girls in the group, they are X, Y and Z. Now this year I asked out X, and she said while she is my friend I am just no her type. I accepted this. Around two months later I started to have a crush on Y, and A told me to ask her out, So I did. She also turned me down. I accepted this and life went back to normal, we are all still friends. I found out later that Z got mad that I asked out Y because her perspective is that she is my second choice for a girlfriend, but A was telling her it wasn't like that at all.
Now yesterday, my entire friend group went to an amusement park, that is very popular in my state. There all of my friends but me and Z liked the big roller coasters. I will go on some rides but hate big roller coasters and so does Z. So the friend group decided to go on the biggest ride, and Me and Z stayed off. The wait line was two hours.
After they got in line, me and Z went to the gift shop and were looking around. we kept up a conversation, and we were both just talking like good friends, after about half an hour. we decided to go to the boardwalk area of the park, and went on a few small rides together. Spinning rides, bumper cars, ect. and then stopped at one of the bakeries in the park, and got a little snack. then we met up with our friends and they said they were going on another ride.
Me and Z slowly walked around the entire park and before we knew it we had circled around to where our friends had been. And they called and said that they were at the entrance and were just going to be there until closing. Me and Z said that we were both hungry and wanted food so we decided to head over to the main food area was because A said he would meet us there. On the way over me and Z decided to go on another ride seeing that there was 15 minutes before the park closed. So we purposely avoided A and went over through another area of rides.
As we were walking I would joke and say do you want to go on that big ride, but she would just say you can choose. Or you pick, I'm up for anything you want to do. So as we were walking we couldn't decide, so she out of nowhere said lets go on the Ferris wheel. After some talking I just said sure let's go.
We waited in the short line, I said the park was closing, and got on the Ferris wheel. and with just the two of us alone, it felt nice. When we got on the ferris wheel, we both came to the realization that both of us had fears of heights, we were both saying that we hated heights, and to make her fell better, I got close to her, and asked does this help. She just said no... but thanks for the effort. after we got off, we were both saying that this was fun, and we should do this again.
And now I am wondering. Why did I do that, Is she trying to send me any signals, and what should I do. She got mad thinking her friend was my second choice but, I'm not sure if I like her now. Can you guys help me with my problem?
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At your age, people are just starting the dating scene and haven't years of experience behind them so there will be assumptions, false beliefs and a slow learning process about it all. I can't help how the girl Z processes thoughts but if you are asking for what signals she is sending, I don't see any just by your narrative of the day. Now body language is a different thing. This would be a helpful thing for you to study now and there are plenty of good you tube videos with people acting out what it looks like or just giving you a list. I am putting a link to one video and you will have to check out and study more on your own. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Most people don't know they are sending out these clues as it is a subconscious thing. Not everyone covers all the hints that someone is interested so watch a lot of these. I would not neccessarily count on looking for clues from the amusement park as Z had no choice but to hang with you or go off on her own. What you really want is to look for more than one or two of the hints that someone is interested. Females are quiet and subtle about their interest so until you have studied on line and then used that information to check out people around you for practice to see if other guys and gals are using these hints subconsciously, then you will get good at it.
A warning though, One of the clues in a female touching the man, like a punch to the shoulder, a pat on the arm and I am like that with everyone, males and females. When I am holding conversation with someone and they make me laugh or I want to tease a person, I would follow with a touch, to emphasize how much I liked the joke or what they said, etc. I am also a hugging type who will give hugs freely to both sexes and I am very happily married. So in my case, seeing me do this doesnt mean I am attracted for a dating relationship, but if you see this happen more towards you than others, only then is it a sign. Starting as friends is a good thing and romances can come from that over time where both people develop mutual romantic interest in each other as they learn to admire things about the other for example. This interest or love is slower starting as a spark and growing to a flame.
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