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Would you report workplace bullying
I work at a fairly small company and there's this one girl who is super loud and everyone always talks about her when she's either off or even just walked out of the room.
They say that she's lazy and clingy, and it happens every single day and even on private group chats. I don't join in because I feel like it's nasty but I hate how bitchy people are. Is this something I could raise with a manager or will that make them turn on me?
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I am not sure I am clear on what you feel is nasty, the fact the girl is obnoxious and loud, or if its true that she is lazy and doesn't do her share of the work, or whether you have no issue with her but don't like how people talk about her behind her back.
It may or may not be important to your boss to have all his employees like each other well enough to treat each other with respect and care so that together you all work better. Some companies, even small ones are interested in trying stuff to help workers gel together and boost moral by having them all participate in some off work site fun activity together such as a picnic, playing a team game together. This is up to your boss to decide if he wants to do and this may help.
But since all of you are adults, no adult wants to or likes being corrected. Yes, how they behave is not the best way to be. If they are like that with her, likely they do the same with many others. If you do not participate with them and you go tell the boss, it will be obvious that you were the one who said something. This is something you can't regulate, trying to force a person to behave better if it is not hurting the amount of work getting done. As soon as the bitchy attitudes and talking behind her back does affect productivity greatly, it then becomes an issue the boss needs to be aware of. However just because only you are disturbed and its affecting your work is probably not good enough, the productivity of all the workers would have to be affected by how they are behaving, not getting enough done. Just talking bad or hehind someones back is not classified as bullying. They would have to be doing things to her, saying such stuff to her face for it to be considered bullying and then, yes, you should report bullying done to you or anyone else who may be too afraid to report it.
There is a chance the super loud girl talks loud becasue she has some undetected hearing problems, hearing loss. People talking louder is common in the elderly whose hearing is starting to get worse and so we tend to talk louder when it sounds to our ears that can't hear as well, that we are still talking in a normal tone when we aren't. I have talked too loud at times and hubby tells me, he has done the same. I know plenty of older people or younger ones with hearing issues who do this. It could be a bad habit or something that happened to them due to whatever in their past caused them to have speech issues such as loud talking, stuttering or clamming up and getting nervous, whispering all their speech, etc....
The best thing is to try first to talk to them. I don't know many people in their 40s or older who would pick on a person because of their looks or a behavior trait. I people watch and never see older adults talk bad about someone, tease with intent to hurt or embarrass them, etc. This is behavior more often seen in those 30s and younger and often enough not even in those past mid thirties. So they were not raised well or were defiant against their parents. You can't change them but may be able to get them to regulate how they behave at work. Say something about how disruptive the atmosphere of the workplace is when they verbalize how they feel about this girl. You would appreciate it if they just keep their feelings and thoghts to themselves. This isn't asking them to change their behavior. You are making it about you and that you have trouble concentrating on your work when you are hearing them talk about her behind her back if this is really all that is happening. YOu know they probably to do the same about you. Eventually you will get to an age where you no longer give a damn what other people say or think of you whether to your face or behind your back. I used to have issues and fear about what others thought of me. By time I got into my forties, I no longer cared and I love how free that feels. Just do your best being a good example. If you have talked to them and it continues and bothers you or it gets worse, at least you have tried to best way first. Only then would I say something to the boss. If he/she is not a person of great morals either, your boss may not get it and think of you as a problem maker. If they do get it, that it is affecting your concentration or the moral of the place when knowing most the people there would stab you or the other girl in the back if they could, that is something the boss would want to know. Just let the boss know before you start that you want this to be anonymous and that they not reveal you as the one who said something. All they have to agree to is telling their staff that they themselves have caught some of them saying stuff or behaving in such manners that are not acceptable to him/her.
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