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How can I get him to tell me what he’s feeling?
Over this past year, me and his guy have been talking. We make each other laugh, have some deep conversations, etc. I’ve grown to really like him. A few of his close friends have even told me that he likes me. So, I’m pretty sure he does based off of what has happened. But, there are two problems. First, he is a year older than me so once I’m a senior, he will be going to college. And second, I don’t know how to tell him that I like him. I think it would be easier for me if he just told me that he liked me. How can I know for sure/get him to tell me? Oh and I’m a girl in highschool fyi
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Here is an easy way to find out if he likes you just as a friend or likes you romantically. The romantic kind is what is needed if you want a dating relationship, and not just a good friend. The love of friendship and the love of a romantic relationship are both love but very different.
So what you ask him is: "Since we are doing so well together as friends, It got me wondering how well we might do together as More Than Friends. What do you think?"
With this statement followed by a question to him, you are not scaring him away by blurting out you like him romantically when he only loves you as a friend. This is the main reason why most people are afraid to tell a friend they like or love them.
Wording it this way sounds like it is just curiousity instead. But also that you are open to dating romantically. So if he really feels romantic love which is the 'more than friends' love, he will say yes to this idea because it is the open door he was waiting for without having to do the same and come out and say he likes or loves you. And lastly, just asking what he thinks will make him feel safe answering truthfully. So in sharing what he thinks, he says, no it wouldn't work because I only care about you as a friend, then you will know that you can never have a romantic love with him. Sometimes only one person feels it and it has to be felt by both. If he does say he'd like to date, then you do but ask questions along the way as to how you can keep in touch after he goes off to college or if he wants to.
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Tell him how you feel about him without any hesitation and since he told his friends that he likes you there is no problem in telling him your feelings. After he goes to college you can still keep contact with him there is no issue in that.
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