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My Boyfriend Has No Money
My boyfriend has no money and neither does his family and we can’t do anything. We can’t even go out for breakfast or go on a date because they do not have any money. I seriously don’t know who to talk to or what to do i just want a normal relationship where i can go to get breakfast.
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the cost of living is rising way faster than wages are so you aren't the only ones who have no extra money. Most people struggle to pay all their monthly obligations and there is no money left for savings or to splurge on something small like lunch out. I know several people working two jobs just to have a place to live and others like myself who have no apt or house to live in. The number of those living out of their vehicles is growing alarmingly. The news doesn't cover it but I have found the numbers of parked vehicles with people sleeping like us are growing way too fast. And these people work and have jobs but can't afford a place to live so their camper, car or van is home. Thats where we are at but I am content with the small things.
The normal relationship of dating and doing things is going to be affected by the countries bad economy. All the reports of upswings and less people unemployed are false because once a person runs out of unemployment, the statistics of those in that situation are no longer counted. Only any new people applying for unemployment and when theirs runs out too, that keeps adding to the numbers no longer on the radar. So while maybe only a few are receiving unemployment checks, the other number that is not considered part of the equation of the amount of unemployed in our country keeps growings. I have found plenty of alarming you tube video's on homeless ness and its not all drug addicts or mental patients not on meds. THe one that really hit hard is about a man who had a medical degree and worked in a hospital and his wife part time only when the kids were in school and they lived in a camper parked along side a 2 or 3 block stretch along one side of a city park. The school bus stopped there to pick up all the kids who were living like this. I have family who live in a basement apartment of Dads home while the married brother and wife live upstairs with the Dad. That is because places to live are getting too expensive. So if you have a place to live, consider yourself lucky dear.
What you need to do is let go of the ideas you have of dating you see on TV or what it was like for your parents. If we had a chance to talk to people who lived through the Great Depression when dating age, I'll bet none of them went out to eat or to a movie or such. Their dating would be going on a walk together, on bike rides together, making a picnic and going somewhere private to have the picnic. If both of you want a little money to go out for dinner and money is that tight, then you both may want to do some little jobs for pay if in school or if working a job, something extra you could do in the evening. Many places are no longer hiring people who want full time positions so if someone comes along who says they want a job for just 2 evenings a week, they are more likely to hire you. You might try that, both of you doing that and you'll see you have enough to go on frugal dates and even save a tiny bit for whatever else in the future. Sorry to sound so depressing but this is what the whole world is like and frankly it is scary because I am older and have seen how quickly everything got expensive. Mom used to send me to the store to buy bread for school lunches and it was 4 loaves for one dollar. Today, you can't even buy one loaf for a dollar. But until the latest minimum wage raise in our city, I was earning the same pay as I was ten or 15 years ago. It's ridiculous but it's the way life is now. So sorry hon.
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