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How can I get femininely fit?
I've already cured my emotional eating (today) by using The Broccoli Test (TBT). It's helped me immensely in being aware that most of my hunger is emotional and not physical. Since I've learned this trick, I haven't binged since this morning, which might not seem like much, but it truly, truly is!
I'm acutely depressed, so working out my body to get it in the shape I desire it is rather difficult. All because I get discouraged often. I don't know how to deal with that.
I guess my questions are:
"How do I deal with being discouraged?"
"What's the best way to intermittent fast?"
"What workouts are best to gain a booty, gain hips, etc?"
I do have a life partner, but I'm mainly doing this for ME so I'll feel better about ME.
I do put flax seeds in my almost every meal now, even before I learned the TBT, so I have lost a little belly fat.
But I need to lose fat all over.
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You can only work with the frame you have for a body. So if big boned and you want slender, you'll never look that way but have the hour glass shape when finally fit. SO don't set a goal for a look you can't achieve. As to changing ones butt, you can only firm up the muscles there but you can't change the shape to be rounder and fuller or what. For that look, check out online padded panties with inserts to make you butt look the way you want. Hips depend again on bone structure, so you can only lose weight there and once down to a normal amount of padding on the hips, you can't change that shape either. So although there are exercises to tighten the butt muscles, you can do a search on line or you tube to see what it looks like, I can't recommend shape changing exercises as that is impossible.
As for the depression, that should be dealt with first and then see if you feel the same way about needing to change your looks. I have found that men find self confidence in average looking women more appealing than no self confidence in model types. I do have a suggestion for the depression. I do hope you are seeing a doctor for that. If not, you need to see one. If the one you are seeing with many changes in medicines hasn't helped, it may have more to do with changing your thoughts than with medicine. I have discovered from having people close to me with depression, that only some have clinical depression which means no matter what they do, the levels of the feel good hormones in the brain are always low as the brain is incapable of producing these on its own. For others with depression, it can be situations in life, family, work, stress you can't escape that adds up to drain away or use up all a persons feel good hormones. The word depressed means not normal levels, so when applied to the subject of feel good hormones you have run out. As you know, when low on calcium, minerals or certain vitamins, physical problems can occur in the human body that require taking a supplement of what is missing. You weren't born missing these but due to life style or changes in diet, they can run low or run out, same as the feel good hormones if your body has no trouble creating its own. SO for these cases, a supplement is also needed, but it is not oral. I can give you a list of these things, simple, but they can give immediate results. When stressed, I don't wait until I feel depressed, I put these tactics to work and can feel immediately good as my brain starts creating more feel good hormones. I happen to know my brain is capable of creating this. Long hugs with someone other than the few seconds most do it, will cause these hormones to start being released. Other things, are simple things like dancing or other movement, like walking, riding a bike or whatever movement makes you feel an immediate mood change. For me, it is skipping like a child, even though I am almost 60. Last time I did this, I begin laughing and giggling as I did it, imagining how funny I must look but I felt better. Laughter is good to raise the levels too so watch some side spitting comedy movies, ones where the humor is your particular favorite humor. And lastly, music. It has to do with the melody more than the words. Think of any song or songs that when you listen to it, the melody makes your heart feel as light as a balloon, like its floating up in your chest. The melody that does it for me is Clocks by Coldplay. I can't say why, I just know that the sound of that song makes me feel so good, I'll put it on repeat when I knew to hear it and play it 3 times straight and feel lots better. I tend to do all these things regularly to keep my levels normal because after all, we all live in a very stressful world these days, more so than it was for our grandparents or ancestors before them.
Lastly, if your Dr. has never tried CBT, cognitive behavorial therapy to try to help with your depression, you may want to change Doctors to one with training in this. Some mental health doctors still don't believe in it. But one Doctor who was the forerunner of changing his mind when his patients got result and got better, trains other doctors and now writes books for the average person to be encouraged and know there is something that works. I hate to think of you with severe depression if it can be improved or totally disappear. The reality about depression is that the greater percentage of all people with it, no matter how bad, did not have clinical depression and simply had enough stress in life to use up all stored feel good hormones. Only a small percent actually need to take medications for life. That would mean that 75% if conservative or more of people can respond and get better if they are treated with a teaching method called CBT. I will post the website of Dr David D. Burns
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Please look it over and see if you can find the comments section from people. I have read it and was amazed to hear of people like a woman who was now old and had suffered severe depression her whole life, only to come across these non medicinal methods to find her depression totally gone. At the very least, people who had to take medicine still found improvement if they working on any distorted thinking. I feel it is worth a try. Then once you are more stable as far as depression goes, then you'll be ready to work on self esteem and being discouraged. I know people for whom this has worked. In the process you may find you no longer have a problem with feeling discouraged. I know just in the temporary situational caused depression I have faced in the past, I too felt discouraged and lacked enthusiasm to do anything, feeling beat before I tried.
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