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Am I asexual? I don’t want to be
I’m a 13 (14 in 3 days) year old girl and I’ve never really felt very attracted to anyone. I’ve had small crushes but never had the desire to act on them. Am I asexual? I don’t want to be. I want to fall in love with someone but I just don’t feel attracted to anyone in my school. Have my hormones just not kicked in yet? I’ve had my period and everything.
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Indeed, worry not my friend. I don't want to get all spiritual, or talk about some sort of destiny having 'someone for you'etc etc. But you do have to feel that (hard to define) connection with a person. You know when it is there, and you know when it is not. When it is not, there is nothing you can do to make it happen or put it there. We are human and we can fake it, if doing so might further our ambitions or get us our own way. But don't be a fake! You say you want to fall in love? So you're tuned to the right frequency, as one might say. You'll know when that person you want to get closer to, learn about, spend time with etc appears on your radar. Meanwhile don't rush it and don't try to engineer it, and don't worry about it. And beware of the fakers! All the best.
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When I was your age, I did not find any boys attractive at all, they were still too immature to me and yes, even though I was still young myself, they felt like kids, younger than me. I had no attraction either. Yet I am hetero and have 3 kids from first husband and now have second husband. I don't think you have to have any concern yet. Give it about 12 years, when you are 25. Somewhere around that age, you should have a better idea.
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