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I can't get him out of my head?
So, I was recently rejected by my crush. But he was super nice about it, and we're still friends. I was having a lot of trouble getting over him. Summer break finally rolls around, and not seeing him has helped me a bunch. Just recently, I want to say about a week or two ago, he's started popping into my dreams. It's not the same dream every time though, it's a different dream where he always makes an appearance. We usually talk most of the time in the dream. For example, last nights dream we were riding a bus. He was in the seat behind me and we just talked to each other. Sometimes my dreams aren't so platonic. Other times were holding hands or touching shoulders. I really need to move on, but these dreams aren't letting me! Any advice on why these dreams are happening and what I can do to stop them would be a big help. Thanks!
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Your subconscious mind (SM)is in control when you are asleep. The SM also loves to help their person get their wishes. It assumes that what you most focus your thoughts on, whether good or bad, that it is something you desire and will do it's best to make that happen. My guess, since the guy said no, your subconscious is trying to give him to you in your dreams in case that helps.
The best thing you can do is talk to yourself while awake, every time your subconscious gets you started thinking about him. You can do this inside your head if in public but its a good idea to talk aloud to your SM while alone. What you say is, "I want to stop thinking about him. He is not interested in me and my dreaming about him is not going to change things so stop the dreams and stop thinking about him. You may think it won't work and it will seem it doesn't. I had to do the same but not for a breakup or rejection but something else where I was taken captive by thoughts for something I could not have. These thoughts are crazy because they keep coming every couple minutes in the beginning. Just keep repeating the request to stop. Slowly it will change to once an hour, couple times a day, once a week and then a more normal once every couple months. Its okay if you are healed and there is no pain in remembering anything that you no longer have or can't have. So I am not saying you can't ever let a thought of him cross your mind, as long as you are really over it. The reason you felt better over summer not seeing him is part of the healing. Spending time with him as a friend is not going to help you heal. If you truly want to be a friend, don't do it until you are totally over him. Okay, maybe this all sounds corny but your SM is more powerful and does more than you give it credit. Give it something to focus on.
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