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My boyfriend of 5 months is suggesting we should join the swingers club since we both are sexual people and we love sex. Our sex life is really good but he never suggested this before until I told him few days ago I feel like I can take 2 guys but I don’t think I can, since then he keeps asking me by tell me how would you like it, shall we join the swingers club? I think he just wants to make me happy but I don’t know. I did all NO I wouldn’t be happy with that some other girl touching you in front of me since I’m a jealous and possessive person, he said no relationship involved with the other couple, it’s just a sex. He also came in my mouth the other day since he was longing to do that for a while and he said he liked it but I didn’t since he was the first to squart in my mouth, he just likes to do whatever I’m saying and he just wants to make me happy because he’s a crazy sexual boy I reckon. So, is this a good or bad idea to join the swingers club and meet the other couple for sex or Is my boyfriend paranoid? Or is he just using me for sex? We’re in our early 30’s. Honest answers please! Thank you
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Let’s start with oral sex and him cumming in your mouth. I’m somewhat surprised that someone your age has not allowe3d a partner to cum in your mouth. My wife says cum is an acquired taste. If your partner is healthy his come will be somewhat salty and may even have a taste of what he might have had in the previous meal. His cum cannot harm you as it is all protein and you cannot get pregnant for oral sex making it a great pregnancy protection.
As to your other questions the only advice I can give you is this. Whatever you and a partner do in your sex life you both must be consenting or it isn’t done. Your partner heard what I would call and off handed remark you made possible in the heat of passion or afterglow of sex. On reflection swinging is not something you want at this time. Your two are not in agreement as you are not consenting to try singing. Just tell him no.
If he continues to pester you about swinging that is sexual harassment and he just might be using your for sex. I can’t say one way or the other if he is using you or not. I suggest you sit him down and tell him that that both of you must consent to any sex act and it doesn’t happen. No means no and to continue to pester the other person after they have said no it is sexual harassment.
In any good relations ship, including a sexual relationship, the parties must be able to communicate. It is very important in a sexual relationship that both parties know the likes and dislike of the other partner. They also need to communicate openly about anything they wish to add to their sexual activities and why they wish to do so. An example of going further with your sexual activity would be his coming in your mouth. You tried it and do not like it so you need to tell him that. While the first time wasn’t what you may have expected you may want to try again to see if you can acquire a taste for his or any other partner you may be with in the future. This though is your choice not his.
Depending on how he reacts to what you tell him about what is off limits in sex between you. Then you will know if he is using you for sex.
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