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My boyfriend wont even bring up sex around me. He get awkward when i talk about my period and im kinda a slut.
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If you are only talking about him not wanting to talk about your period, some guys are okay talking about it and some husbands will even have sex while the wife has her period. Others are way too squeamish and to them it is a personal woman's hygiene matter. There is nothing wrong with that. So if he is like that, don't try to change him and he will feel uncomfortable and at some point, if negative feelings continue to build because you make him feel uncomfortable, there is a chance he might break it off with you rather than just ask you to stop talking about it.
Now on the other hand, there are some basics of communication between two people that need to happen regarding having sex if you plan to do so or are already. People need to discuss STD protection and birth control. A guy needs to know if she is already on birth control, the pill, patch...whatever. And if not, the condom then is the birth control and STD protection. If this is a steady long term sex partner and neither of you has any other lover, then it is a good idea for both to go to a clinic and get checked out for STD's. Once you have the clean bill of health for each, and if you are on birth control, only then is it a good idea to have sex without condoms. I may be preaching to the choir but this is the kind of stuff younger people and teens are too embarrassed to bring up so I cover it anyways.
You may have no trouble discussing it, but that alone doesn't make you a slut.
The next area of discussion not as critical as birth control but important to being able to enjoy sex at its most is ability to share info during sex. For example, if he is stroking, touching in way that isn't doing anything for you, redirect him, do not say I don't like that or it can play havoc with his feeling good about himself. Instead say, lets try something else for fun. When something he does is really good, you say, please keep doing that, don't change how fast or how hard because I really like that. This way his sexual prowess is strengthened in his mind. He also needs to share with you when he likes something. If he isn't forthcoming, just ask if he likes it. Let he know to say something if anything feels sore, like he needs more lube or something hurts him.
If he is still more on the prudish side, then it may be that you too are not the best sexual match. You wouldn't be the only ones to ever experience that. So many marriages split up because they are not both best friends and best sexual matches. They have one or the other but not both which is critical to a successful, rewarding relationship. If over time he doesn't gain confidence in discussing sexual matters, either you decide to be okay with it or if thats not good enough for you, let him know how serious this is to you and not just you but the success of the relationship. Tell him If he doesnt choose to make an effort, then perhaps you are mismatched and need to go your own ways and find someone else.
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