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Crush acting strange
I'm 14, my crush is 15. So I've known this girl about a year, and she's smiled and stared at me in the hallways before we ever formally met. We met at a party, where she already knew my name. Even while I was talking to other people, she was staring at me with her head in her hand. So that night we did dance together and I wrapped my arm around her, which caused her to go "oh" and burst into giggles. I thought that meant I was making her feel uncomfortable so I removed my hand but she then gave me a dissapointed look.
I know from people closer to her she's apparently very socially awkward. I've caught her staring a bunch after that, and once in the hallway I asked her how she was doing and she stuttered for a bit before saying good.
A friend of mine who has been friends with her for a while talked to her and brought me and my buddies up, and she responded by saying we are all very nice and she wants to talk to us more-especially me-and is thinking about trying to talk to me.
Today I texted her on snap, and I think it went OK. We had a pretty casual conversation though I feel like I had to prompt most of it. I was talking about an English assignment I had about Romeo and Juliet. One of the options was create a social media conversation between two characters so I decided to have Tybalt send Romeo the navy seal copypasta and she responded by saying 'wow' and I ended the conversation by saying I had to go but I would like to talk to her more and she said 'ok' which I thought was pretty weird.
I wonder if she doesn't like me or she's just awkward?
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At your age, did you ever think for a moment that you might be the awkward one or acting 'weird' as you said of her, and all of it being due to having little to no experience at talking to and starting relationships with the opposite sex or same sex depending on which way you go. It's not your or her fault. You don't have background experience to rely on but everyone has to start somewhere. My take on this all is that when you touched her during dance and she let out a surprised exclamation, is that was her positive reaction to being touched by you. It was probably the first time for her and I'll bet it feel good to her. All you have to do if you're not sure a lady doesnt like something you did is to check, and a good way is to stop and say, "I'm sorry, I didn't think to ask, is this okay with you?" And the lady will tell you. You'd have to explain your perspective to me so I can understand why you thought her saying okay she'd like to talk more with you was weird. I grew up during a time when there were no computers or cell phones. So I had to talk on the phone or face to face and I assume it was one or the other for you. While you may be more used to texting, the better way for any relationship to become more solid and close is to talk face to face and on the phone.
When we first start paying kattention to others we're attracted to around the time hormones start flowing, you don't automatically know what to say or do. Never be afraid to ask for opinions as you did here. That was a amart move. Asking other students who know as little as you is bound to give you bad information. I don't think what little you shared says she is awkward, just a more quiet and introverted person. That doesn't mean she can't open up and be friendly and talkative with any people she has a chance to warm up to and get to know. I was like that at your age. Came across as shy. Actually had social anxiety then, no longer do. But I still had a small circle of friends. I'll bet she does too. Observe her as to how she is around close friends or family if there is that chance and I am sure you will see a totally different girl than the one you think she is. All teens have some kind of anxiety or worries of not being liked or accepted or fear being teased or what. This is something almost all people will outgrow. give her a chance to get to know you and the best way is to talk to her and do some activity like the dancing or a bike ride, etc that she likes as well as you. going to a concert or movie is entertainment but you both will not be talking at such an event. So keep it to something where you can talk. At your ages, it is hard to see each other away from school. As I told all my daughters, if they made friends with a guy from school who wanted to be around them, date them, that they should invited him to come hang at our house when one of us parents were home to keep an eye on things. Why Would I let them only have female friends over and even for BBQs or a camping trip and not do the same for a male friend or more. How else do two young people get a chance to really be themselves, and not have to worry about teasing from their peers if dating. See if you can get the okay from her parents after a while to go to their house. If you do, be sure to pay them some attention and not ignore them if you want to make a good impression and be allowed to come over again.
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