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Meaning of you’re special
Hello, my boyfriend said you’re special. Asked him what’d he meant? He said you’re definitely special. I said oh ok I know, thank you. Any hidden meaning?
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Nope. It means that you stand out from others to him. It means you have qualities uniquely yours that he admires. In other words he appreciates who you are as an individual. That's what we call a keeper.
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If you asked and he couldn't do anything but repeat what he'd said, He may be the type of person who has trouble expressing things in detail or explaining in other words what he meant by it.
When I say something or someone is special, to me it means it/he/she stands out over other choices, and I like it enough to try to make sure I get more of it/he/she.
Perhaps he simply meant he likes you. A good way to get an answer from him that you can understand would be to paraphrase what he said. Paraphrase means to
reword or rephrase what you heard using different words, especially to achieve greater clarity.
So lets say he said "You're special" and you replied with "Does that mean Special as in you enjoy spending time with me?" He then could say yes and you have your answer. If he says No, and doesn't elaborate by rephrasing his own words, then try a different definition, whatever comes to you... or "Okay, so does that mean you like me as a friend or would that be as a possible girlfriend?" When you rephrase a compliment he feels he paid you, there's always the chance he might answer with a question of his own like 'Are you fishing for compliments." Either explain that you simply want to know exactly what he meant by special or you could reply with another question without really answering like " What do you think I was doing?" If he evades again, says nothing or shrugs his shoulders, most likely he may not be in touch with his feelings or thoughts on the matter or just spoke the words he thought girls like to hear without being able to really claim he feels that way. Or he could be afraid of sharing any more of his feelings and saying your special was already a step of more bravery than he could probably handle.
Not totally related to understanding what a guy means by what he says, but I would like to share something important that females need to know. Yes, the words are important to hear but it is more important to gauge how a guy feels about you by how he treats you. If a guy really cares and his feeling for a gal continue to grow, even if he's the quiet type, not very verbal, too shy, he will still do things that are thoughtful and supportive of you. For lots of men, their actions speak much louder than words.
My ex could say he loved me but he treated me like crap which in effect cancelled out the words he said. Don't overthink what a guy says as your thoughts most likely will be to interpret a guys words into what you want to hear, not really what he meant. Best is to ask as you did and if you get a non-reply then rephrase back to him with different words asking if thats what he meant. A guy who hears a gal misinterpreting what he says is probably not going to let her go on believing something that he did not mean. Also, a guy doesnt like to feel pressured so if you are fishing for the words of him asking you to be his girlfriend, guys don't always jump into a relationship and commit until they are pretty sure and the only way they can be is to spend time with you. If they choose to spend lots of time with you, he may be still in the stage of trying to figure out if he's found the gal he really wants to date or not, even if you may already consider him a boyfriend.
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