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I’m I want to give my bf a boner without doing something crzy
I am 14 and I want to give my boyfriend a boner. I’ve sat on his lap, made out with him and everything and I have never seen a boner. Help!
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Young people these days are starting puberty much earlier than when I was in that age range. My girlfriend started just as she turned 13, I was almost 14 when I started and back then that was considered the earlier start, no ten or twelve yr olds going through puberty. So I wouldn't say he is necessarily late. If he doesn't get erect, he may not yet for a while. However if he's willing to make old with you on his lap, its not because he isn't feeling the desire to do so, he may just be that nervous if capable of getting a boner, just because you may be the first person he's ever done this stuff with.
For every girl who writes in asking how to give a bf a boner, I give the same lesson: You need to realize that at this age range, young males have like a hair trigger as far as what sets off them getting erect or a boner as you said. It can happen whether they want it to or not. It happens not only when a gal is doing anything with a guy. It doesn't take much. I kissed a bf goodmorning and handed him his coffee when a knock came on the door, a repair guy right on time. However now the bf is wearing a robe that is sticking straight out in front, so its obvious he's hard and he doesnt want to go to the door looking like that. All I did was give him a bit of a lingering kiss, not all that long, just a kiss and nothing else. So he had me answer the door while he escaped into the bathroom until he went down again. Some guys get their boners by just watching women, women walking past them, women they don't know but find sexually interesting. A person can speak a word that triggers a sexual thought for a guy and he's got an instant boner. This slows down for many guys as they get older so they can assume some kind of control over whether they get a boner or not. So really, the list of what can make a 14 yr old boy or one around that age get a boner is endless. Its easier to ask him what he likes and what turns him on. Ask if he's enjoying himself and if he is, thats all you have to worry about at this time. Its opening a can of worms to try to discuss if anything is wrong with him. If there is physically its probably a bit early for Dr. involvement so maybe in two years or so if nothing happens, he'll have figured it out himself.
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While by the age of 14 your boyfriend should have started puberty it is possible he has not. He may be a late bloomer or his body is not producing enough testosterone the male sex hormone.
He might be quite sensitive to the fact that he is unable to get erect so talking to him may not be possible or you may not feel comfortable talking to him about this. If you can talk to him about this then please do because he should see his doctor and have some tests run to see if he has started into puberty and to find out why he is not producing enough testosterone.
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