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Need more advice from you about fonding my mothers sex toy
Hi
You replied to my question a few monthes back
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I understand you are a mom yourself so i really appreciate your advice.
So details missing - i am actually 23 years old, i dont live with my mom i only come visit. Her room is always open and its a small house also i never come to her room without het inviting me.
I have no problem with the fact she keeps sex toys in a drawr hidden . but the electric tootbrush is REALLY IN FULL DISPLAY.
Also i have no issues with masturbating . i also do that myself but i keep my vibrator deep in the closet. Its jyst that she frickin keeps it out like its just a tootbrush and i wouldnt guess.
Im deeply disgusted, i just saw it again now when im visiting and cried. Its a serious issue.
If you were in her shoes, what is the best way to bring this issue up ? Because now, i feel like i would just yell at her that shes disgusting for not having that hidden.
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Ohhh, I thought you lived with Mom. This is certainly interesting. First impression is that Mom's place doesn't have to be 'company' ready for any friends that might drop by. How many people pick up around the house a couple times a day in case someone comes by? She has a right to clean or not clean as she wishes. I don't know if you drop by or call and let her know you are planning to come by. Just because you ARE family, she may not apply the same meticulous cleaning and hiding of embarrassing things she wouldn't want company to see. So if dropping by, you will need to stop that. Call and make an appt that will give her time to clean up.
Then, she'd also have to know it bugs you and if she puts it away for company, then she needs to treat you as company. If she doesn't put it away for company, then you'll have to let her know it disturbs you to see it laying around and ask her to tidy sex toys away when you call to let her know you are coming over. Assure her you are not a prude and use the same yourself but it is a bit disturbing for a child to see their parent as a sexual person with use of the paraphenalia. Really, if you have no problem with what she does, you just don't want any visual reminders of the fact Mom has those needs and I understand, that is normal for some adult children. Others are not as disturbed by it. If Mom gets upset and won't change, then either you put your big girl panties on and learn how to ignore it so you can visit Mom, or stop going by her home and only have her come by yours to see you. The last option of not seeing her at all is something I am sure you don't plan on doing if it comes to it.
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