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Him asking if i like oral sex?
OK, apologies for a long story!
He's asking if I like oral sex, if I'm hairy down below, if I like soft or hard sex, but all in a good mannered way not in a dirty or gross way. likes touching my hands, says you have a soft hands, is rest of the body soft too, he asks, I say get your hands off please and he responds by saying you love it, I say yes I do because I like him so I don't mind if he touches my hands but all these conversation happens in a different occasion when we see at college canteen.
weeks ago, we went out few times for a drink with college friends. nothing has happened apart from just a goodbye kiss with friendly hug don't know if that counts for anything. He asked me yesterday if I want to go for drink or dinner next week two days in a row and wanted me to meet up for lunch as well on one of the same day. I said ok only if I have time but I'm definitely up for dinner, he asks well you do like my company, don't you, told him yes I do and he says well, there you go then. he called me a tease afterwards, he actually said you're such a tease, frankly speaking he's been calling me that few times already.
we've known each other for a quite awhile now and gotten really close but not sexually but as a good friends who can share and talk anything to one another. we just kid loads but seems like a flirt, we just get along with sex talk frequently. sad part is we can't do anything him having girlfriend and me having boyfriend but I do wish I was dating him and I have a feeling that he wishes the same too otherwise would you guys think that he would be saying with extremely sure tone that 'you love it when I touch your hands,' also, why would he call me a tease? him suggesting for a drink or dinner and saying to me you like my company means what folks???? is it a date or am I wrong to think that? he says he likes me and also says he wouldn't do a sex talk if he didn't like me because we like talking sex stuff 'equally.' but foremost all we're friends as well who has a respect to each other. What does he want???? does he want to have an oral sex with me coz he did ask me directly if I like it?? I'm not very good at this.
Forgive me for my long writing. could I have a straight answers please? thank you so much
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It is a perfectly normal thing for a guy or gal to ask what the other likes sexually if the two are both sexually attracted to each other and planning to have sex. How else would one know how to go about pleasing their partner. Its just as important to communicate during sex.
I assume you do that with your current bf, or did once upon a time if you no longer are attracted to each other. You say you wish you were dating him. But you do not say how you feel about current bf. You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself. If you do anything that goes against your own principles, it will eat at you and make you miserable. I have no problem with dating several men at the same time for a short bit until I have decided which one is the best one for me and then tell the others goodbye. I do not do it secretly tho but I had informed each man that I might meet with other guys to get a feel for whether they fit the criteria I needed to find the guy most right for me. This was after a divorce and I was in my forties. Surprisingly, every single man I told this to, did not have a problem with it. Why? Because they understood it was a matter of personal choice, something they also do, and mostly because they were mentally prepared for it and biggest one of all---I had not made any verbal commitment to them. Males seem to understand this. Females have trouble with this and assume a male has committed to her when he actually has not gotten to that point yet.
So assuming he is like most males, and understands keeping ones options open until he chooses, you can only assume that perhaps he has not committed to his current girlfriend. Then the next question would be, what arrangement has he made with the gf. Does she know he has a female friend he flirts with and talks about sex with? I am not the typical female. But almost all women would never go for it. If you found out your bf has been doing this behind your back, what would you think. I have a pretty good imagination. I think that the question in your mind would be "Is my bf trying to find some angle to get a chance at having sex with this other gal?"
Thats what it looks like to me with the current male friend, that he is a Player.
Do you have issues being the 'other woman'? If not, then answer his call for sex and initiate it. Otherwise, if it bothers you, tell him to stop and let him know it is in very bad taste and makes him looks like a player and you will drop him as a friend is he attempts to even mention sex again.
If you don't like your current bf, break up and keep looking elsewhere. The male friend may be one option and again, he may not be once you get to know him better. Don't break up to be with him. Break up only if you can't see current bf as your Lifetime mate. Once you are single, if you wish, you could then say to your male friend, I am single again and will start dating others and let him know right off the bat if you are not making any promises or commitments until you have dated a while and decided on which guy is right for you. This leaves you an easy out with him if he is interested in you as more than a friend. It would certainly seem he is interested in you sexually. It may not be that he realizes this with his conscious mind and may even deny it but it is his subconscious mind where emotions lie, and our deepest wishes, that betray him. He is either not happy with current gf and waiting for someone better to come along before he breaks up or he is a player and wants to simply add you to his little black book of females whom he can call upon when lonely or horny.
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