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little confused with him!
Right, this friend of mine and I have known for almost a year. In our late 20's and we go to same Uni. we always have pretty good laugh and get along fine. we both have girlfriend and boyfriend, however somehow, I have always felt that he liked me and I like him too. recently he mentioned few times in a different occasion saying that, 'I would have married you if I had met you few years ago but we can stay mates, ok' and I replied to him not in this life as you have a gf and I have a bf, may be in another life and he said, 'well you said it not in this life' so are we warming up for next life then, he asked and I replied yeah' normally when we're chatting we are always smiling but this time it just looked serious was he hoping for us to start something if he had become single in the future or what? he did say, bottom line is, 'you like me and I like you' that's it ok. guys, what's he saying? is he hoping to start for us to get together if we both were single or what? I can't get him out of my head and I think he feels the same way as well but wouldn't tell. thank you all
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I could swear I answered a question like this word for word a short time ago. I am not going to go into all the detail again. My question to you is "Why are you wondering what he is up to?" If you can not answer that, let me help. You don't have to answer me, just answer your own heart. "Are you 100% happy in your current relationship? Can you see yourself marrying or staying with current bf life long, see him as father of your children? The reason I ask is this: When I was unhappily married the first time, it was so easy to look at other guys and try to imagine what life would be like with them, and sometimes wondering if there were ulterior motives to anything and everything he said or did, as far as I was concerned. I know also now what it like to have the opposite. I am remarried now to a man that I am 100% happy with and the second guessing of the moves of any other guy is a thing of the past. I have eyes in my head and am not dead, so attractive guys may catch my eyes but I no longer wonder if he might be slightly interested in me because I have what I want and am very happy.
Any information he gave you were things he should never have spoken especially that if he'd met you before current gal, that he would have married you. What kind of helpful info is that. He's made his decision, its the other gal, not you. Let it go. If you can't, then you may need to take a long break from seeing him just as a friend. If not, you may have to stop seeing him entirely but not without explaining. I'd throw it back into his face. "Listen, you told me information that is not helpful and doesn't change anything except that I am now constantly scrutinizing every thing you say and do because you once said if you'd met me earlier, you'd have married me. Exactly what were you hoping to achieve with that? Since it is now too weird for me and there is no purpose to my being in friendship to remind you that you have made a decision, whether right or wrong, to stay with your current gal, its best we no longer see each other, even as friends. If you are so in love with me, break off with the other girl and come after me when you are free. I don't think you will. You are just a nice but very confused man. Good bye
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I'm no expert on relationships though I have been married to the same women for over 46 years.
It sounds to me as if you are saying that your preset relationships are not what they could be and together you two would make a better couple. If this makes any sense to you and neither of you are planning a wedding or even if you are. I think the two of you should sit down and talk.
A next life time is a long way off and nothing says you will meet again in that life time. IF you are both questioning your present relationships or equating them to what they are against what could be if the two of you were together. It I strongly suggest you explore this before you ruin the lives of you present partners sometime down the road.
What I am seeing by what you two have said is a crack or a fissure in your present relationship. IF you continue with them and have questions as to what could have been then these relationships will fail.
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