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I moved to another state and I hate it!
I'm a 15 year old female if that helps any. At the very beginning of January this year me and my family moved. I was so excited, new house, new friends, new area to explore! I thought it was gonna be great! At first, everything was fine. I made a few friends, the trachers were great, and I was feeling happy! A little after I started getting a really intense homesickness. I tried to brush it off, saying it would go away in a few weeks. 7 months later, and its only gotten worse. Sure, the teachers are great here, my mom adores her new job, and this school will look better on my college resume, by what about my mental well being? My new friends turmed out worse than I thought. So now I have pratically no real friends. Everything is too big, I miss my small town. I think I may be starting to fall into a depression because of this. I'm happy sometimes, but about every night I fomd myself crying myself to sleep. I'm getting better grades, but thats all I can do during the school year. I have to friends to hang out with, and somehow can't make any other ones because people in this school think approaching other people to introduce yourself is weird. Joy is starting to be sucked out of everything I love. Moving back isn't an option anymore. I tried asking if I can live with my grandmother, but that just started an argument between me and my mother. I went back for a visit once, and it was magical! All my friends came to see me, and I was laughing, and I was so joyous! I felt better, got a full nights of sleep, something I haven't got in a long time, and felt myself again. But as soon as we returned home, everything went back to the way it had been. I tried talking this over with my mother, but her repeated answer is always that I'll get used to it. I don't know if I ever will. And it's not like I can make these visits often. It's a days drive to and from there. What do I do? How do I fix myself? Is there any way I can be me again?
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I grew up in a big town so I know how kids can be to the new kid on the block. You will always be the new kid until the next new kid comes a long.
I know knowing that does not make it any easier for you but their are things that can make life easier for you and maybe help you make new friends. Big towns and Counties have money small towns usually do not. Because they do the County or towns Park and Recreations Department run different activities many of which are free or of little cost. In our town we have the county community college which also offers activities that Parks and Rec can't offer You can send for their catalog.
What I'm suggesting is make a list, on paper, of things you like to do for recreation. Do you like to cook? The college offers cooking classes. Do you like to hike? Parks and rec offers hiking. Maybe Archery is you thing. Parks and Rec may offer that as well. How about Photography. Both the college and Parks and rec will offer something for that.
Look for activities and clubs to join of things that interest you and that you have knowledge in. Through these clubs and activities you will make friends. Do you like to play sports. Parks and rec sponsor just about any sport you can name.
Frankly you can sit around and feel sorry for yourself or you can make an effort to acclimate to you new home. Going home is not an option so make the effort to make where you are now your home. As you get older your home town will change as you grow into your jog so learn now ho to make friends. Your church is also a good place to make friend and the church also offer many activities.
Your not to young to start planning for the rest of your life. There are two types of people in this world. There are the people who fail to plan and people whose plan fail's. Remember this; having a plan that fails is not a failure for you fix your plan and move on. Having no plan is like trying to walk in quicksand it doesn't go anywhere.
Your going to be fine; just be the girl I think you can be and take charge of your life and you will make a life for yourself in your new town
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