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He asks for a kiss!
Hi,
why did he ask for a kiss (three times) before we finished our project? is it because we're not going to see each other for 3 days? we were joking and I asked him why, he said just want to give you a kiss because you're nice and kind girl, that's all. we've been friends for a long time. nice lad. we've hugged twice when we went for a few drinks ages ago(nothing happened) and gave me a kiss on the cheek. we get on fine. so, is it ok or weird to ask for a kiss to a female friend? do guys ask for a kiss to their female friends, normally? thank you for the input
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I love to use 'turning the tables' or putting yourself into his position. So lets say, you asked a guy, not once, not twice but 3 times for a kiss, what possible reason you could have for asking for a kiss? Most likely the answer is because you are attracted to and like that person very much. How often do you see people going around asking others they know for kisses?
Now as to the meaning of a kiss? It can be a playful thing, kind of like a high five but to someone you are much closer to, even a male friend, doesnt' have to be a boyfriend.
A kiss is a way to show affection for someone. A way to show them how special they are to you.
He is being very plain with his hints and for some reason you are not picking up on them. If you are waiting for him to make a more definite move like grab you and just kiss you without asking, you may have to wait til hell freezes over. We are living in a time when it is okay for women to make the first move. A real good guy will use his manners and ask, not just take, at least the first time, until he knows the lady feels the same way about hom. Guys fear rejection. But when its two friends, if the feelings morph for one person from friendship to something more, its too scary to make a move and be wrong, especially if the girl is showing no signs or giving off hints that she is open to taking the friendship a step further now. Yes, a couple can start as friends and move on to be a romantic couple. Its actually the healthiest possibility for a partner. The best relationships have a foundation of both best friends and best lovers. If one is missing, it won't work out well.
Now in some cultures, or a few families who are free with their emotions, its common to give kisses in greeting or parting. I've seen this more with my generation but mostly in even older generations. I know couples who are close friends where the females greet the other husband with a peck on the lips and your husband exchanging a peck on the lips with the other wife. A peck of a kiss rather than a drawn out romantic kiss is the most common to see out in public and doesn't seem to bother people too much who have issues with PDA's.
My guess is either he chose to start as a friend even if he already had feelings for you in hopes that you would grow to like him as more than a friend, or he just felt friendship only in the beginning but somewhere along the way as he got to know you better, he fell for you as a total package, liking what he saw inside and out, and thtas why he said you are nice and kind. He see's that you are a good female in character and that is attractive to him as well as the looks.
Before you overthink this all and think maybe he only likes your character but is not too attracted to your looks since he didn't mention it....I will share what I've found from experience. Yeah, there are a few guys who have no particular type of female in looks that they prefer, but the majority only approach those they are attracted to. for many males, as they begin to grow older and mature from HS and for college age for some, they eventually realize that if a female does not have those physical qualities that turn his head (according to his likes, not what the media says is pretty,) then he is not able to find the interest in being sexual with her. When males are young, any female can catch a guys interest sexually, but if he is the type who takes notice in her character and personality, then he most likely will be the kind of man who only has eyes for the female he is drawn to. My 2nd husband is like that. I am the only female who interests him. His first wife keeps in touch due to the daughter they share, but in looking back, he realizes now that she for him was just him settling for way less and I've met her a few times and wonder how he could ever stand her for as long as they were married. So if you are interested in trying to see how being bf/gf goes, then you will have to make the first move. Ask him out on a date. Make sure to make the first move for a kiss or move. A man will honorable intentions/a gentleman, will not force himself on the female but leave the choice up to her to make the first move. That's what I had to do with my husband. I was waiting and waiting to see if he would kiss me, there were plenty of chances but nothing, even though from things he said and his body language, I could tell he was very interested in me. So I kissed him and assigned a reason to it...he had fixed a little book of mine that had pages falling out of it and said thank you and then gave him the kiss. Its a good thing to plan, a kiss to thank for something, and that way, if you did read him wrong and he is not interested that way, he will just accept that as a thank you but not pursue. Once a male knows the female is interested enough to kiss him or be in close proximity to him and still comfortable with him, responds will positive teasing back so he knows she is interested, then you won't have to encourage him ever again. Its like the green light a guy waits for. So if you do kiss him in thanks for something and he begins to kiss you back passionately, you'll know he got the hint and he most likely will need no further encouragement and you both naturally ease into becoming a romantic dating couple.
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